You approve? girls would you do this with the right guy?
Funny how a higher percentage of women then men said “I don't approve. men should be the only ones proposing marriage”
The thing is when men propose to women it’s not only a romantic gut check but it’s a “man up” gut check. It’s a “man up and you she better like the ring”. It’s a “man up and you better give her a nice wedding”. It’s a “man up because you now have to be nice to her family whether you like them or not”. And it’s still “man up because now you are expected to support your wife financially and she divorces you she keeps 50% of your assets.” Last but not least it’s often a “man up and do you really want this woman to be the mother of your children”
Do those above thoughts go through a woman’s head when she proposes to man? Maybe some of them (especially about family and kids). However what if she makes a lot less money then he does? Even if she makes the same or more from I’ve seen many men feel like bitches for accepting alimony after divorces. But vice versa is almost a sure thing for a woman to collect.
I don’t totally know I feel about women proposing. Women usually verbally bring up wanting to get married to boyfriends they have strong feelings for but outright proposing to guys I have mixed feelings for. I guess it’s a good thing because can now know how much anticipation and fear of rejection can be like for a proposal. For most men it’s the most exhilarating yet terrifying moment in their romantic lives. If women want more “equality” in their lives then they should see how that feels
Anyway I had an opportunity to get married 2 years ago for mutually beneficial economic reasons. She brought up the idea but I wasn’t in love with the her. She was a good friend (sometimes more) and I respected her but I after months of deep consideration I turned it down. It was very difficult decision. But there were just way to many risks and pitfalls. She stopped talking to me after that. Although she said we could still be friends if I said no I knew that wouldn’t ever happen.
But what if she actually proposed to me? Just saying that would of been 10x worse turning her down. So mixed feelings about women proposing.
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It is an act of love... If you want to Mary the one you love... You should let them know.
It does matter of you are the boy or the girl. This should never be only a guy thing or girl thing. As a matter of fact how whould 2 lovely ladies ask each other... There is no man..
So there... It is BS the if guys say they will not allow / accept this..
It happen to be a fact that my lady asked me. I loved it... 😄 And to be honest she did it very romantic..
I’m fine with it. I’ve never viewed proposals as a gender specific thing, I don’t believe that it’s solely up to men to propose. To me it’s no different than asking someone out on a date, women can do that too.
I would prefer to get proposed to personally but for other people I can care less who does it. My one friend proposed to her husband and they’ve been happily married for a few years now
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they do it when they are feeling their biological clock ticking and their selfish boyfriend is taking to long to propose. its embarrassing for him but that's his own fault.
Personally I don't have a problem with it, but the vast majority of women will not do it It for there is one very simple reason why women do not propose to men in general, its because there is no way that that a women want to put herself in a position to be rejected in public, Logarithmically so if the woman is a Feminist, they could not contemplate being rejected in anything (let alone marriage) by a man.
I wouldn't do it, and my husband would not have appreciated much either. Both of us are from traditional families, so it wouldn't have gone over very well.
But I don't really care if other women do it.I'm not in a place to approve or disapprove anything but things feels really weird to me.
Honestly I've done it once to make an ex happy. It's not for me. Hated myself for a while after.
To each her own, but I’ll be damned if I ever proposed to a man. TF? 😅
Idrc tbh. Who cares who proposes as long as the couple is happy and the relationship isn’t toxic?
Not my thing.
I approve it. I think there's nothing wrong with it if they're sure of what they're doing.
But it's something I wouldn't do.
The relationship is over. I cannot honor such a woman
Feels and looks wrong. I'm quite traditional in this and I need a man who is the same.
I don't think I would do it, but I don't believe there is anything wrong with a woman proposing to a man. I wouldn't judge
Be it proposing marriage or simply asking someone out, women have just as much a right to be the one to do it if they want.
If she wants it to be the man that asks that’s fine too, but she shouldn’t feel forced to wait for him to do it.They can. They just won't. Women are generally too fearful to do this.
If that couple is okay with it, it's fine. But I am more traditional.
No way.
Would not have flown in my relationships.
Yes, I approve of this it's awesome
Don't care. If a woman feels the desire to propose, more power to her. If she wants the man to propose, more power to her.
Yay. Demolish those gender roles. That's Equality 😄
I think its brilliant! And very romantic and flattering!
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