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s Every one says waiting till your married is the worst kind of sex so trying before you buy is important?
Is a fling during the bachelorette party important trying another before your stuck with one?
I remember before I married my husband years later what he said the 2nd time we got together. The 1st time neither of us were in a good place due to excessive work but there was a strong bond and when things settled down we decided give it another try.
He told me that we were going to take it causally to start and if I dated someone else that was fine & if he dated someone else that was fine. The idea was to get the need / desire of expernimenting out of our systems before seriously committing to one another. And if we were meant to be together then we'd be regardless of such.
We've been married for a decade now and very close, no assumptions or concerns of cheating or anything.
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In comparable you take my friend who got together immediately with her boyfriend now husband and there has always been assumptions he's been cheating. Because he's never been entirely forthcoming even before they married.
But because she didn't think of trying other men at the same time she committed herself from the start she didn't get an oppurunity to see if there's someone who isn't so sutbly emotionally abusive out there.
"Every one says waiting till your married is the worst kind of sex..."
And how many of those people actually waited until marriage to have sex? Probably very few, if any. Your lover is not a car. They are a person. That takes the whole "treating someone like an object" thing to a whole new level.
But if you are going to "try before you buy," it should at least be with your significant other. No flings during your Bachelorette party. That's just trashy, cliché and legit cheating.
I enjoy sex way too much to wait until marriage honestly and I wouldn’t want to marry someone until at least the 2 year mark so I prefer not waiting until marriage
If I can make a girl orgasm without my dick, why would I be self conscious about the sex we’re not having? Is it not variety to use whatever else I personally have at my disposal to make her feel good in as many different ways as possible?
When it does happen, that’s like sealing the bond.
I think fornicators put too high a premium on the actual act itself, anticlimactic in a way. There’s something to be said about agonizing in anticipation. I learned that pretty early on.
Sex is easy. Getting to know someone is hard. “Disappointing sex” from a fornicators perspective can be great sex to abstainers because they are so invested in one another. However, fornicators may hit the lottery and find someone who will fuck them into ecstasy every time.
Gamble either way. Regardless, the answer to both situations is never stop dating your spouse, in my opinion.
u For as long as I can remember, I have been a very firm proponent of waiting until marriage to have sex.
I thoroughly and entirely reject every last aspect of "sexual compatibility". People will often say "you need to take a car for a test drive before you buy it!" You're not buying a car, you're marrying a person, a person who much more depth and complexity than a car or a house does, or whatever other sick comparisons people make.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. This belief in "sexual compatibility" carries in it a lack of trust, a lack of commitment, and a lack of humility. If someone claims this, they're putting an overemphasis on sex and putting limits on what they are willing to love about their spouse. In fact, I'll go so far as to say that "sexual compatibility" is contradictory to the very nature of sex.
Here is what I have always said. If someone can wait until marriage to have sex how important is sex to them? You know the act itself. Going missionary once a week for baby purposes is what most women who hold out before marriage are looking for. Most who wait until marriage in my opinion don't like sex nor want it. Good luck with that lotto ticket fellas.
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s Waiting until marriage is just asking for trouble in my eyes. I wouldn’t. I’d regret getting married if I ended up with someone whom I can’t have enjoyable sex with. Also, having sex with someone else the day before getting married? That’s just cheating and that’s not excusable.
Bruh. God is Good. Sex before marriage is a sin and not worth it. Try it before you buy it? Are you trying out a car? It's an actual human being with a mind, heart, soul bro. Just get married bro, even in marriage sex isn't the 1 most important things because sex icons are the most people with failed marriages
"Trying" isn't just sex.
Quickly, my advice is to live together for 2 years before marriage and kids.
Furthermore, host at least one event - like a Thanksgiving dinner or dinner party or whatever.
What this does is introduce stress and the need to coöperate to accomplish an objective, albeit it's not one that is critical toward life. An event like this shows you how your partner handles stress and and how well you can work together toward solving life's problems that a couple will face.
Also, within 2 years, your sexual chemistry will be determined and you two will discover who the day-in, day-out person is. For instance, their triggers, their politics, religiosity, how they handle money, etc...
I honestly dont even need to try the dick of the person i intend to marry before marrying them. So no i definitely dont need one last fling (or any at all) with some random
I'd never marry without trying out the goods. Sex is good, as its allowed to be. So being able to connect that way is a rather important factor to me. Not the only factor or the highest, but a decent one.
As I've said many, many times here... You simply wouldn't buy a new car without test driving it first.
That is fine for a guy, but it is the worst possible thing a young virgin can do. The odds that a young, good-looking, and healthy couple will not be physically sexually compatible is almost zero. Moreover, before they are married there have been countless times to determine if either has a sexual hangup and will not respond favorably to sexual stimuli.
She need not wait till marriage; just until after she is engaged and invitations to her wedding have been received by family and friends. She would be stupid to have sex (try before you buy) when losing her virginity to a guy she is not going to will greatly decrease her sexual market value, decrease her ability to bond, and thereby increase the probability of getting divorced.
If you observe someone properly, you can figure out what type of laythey would be. So, wait.
I hope its worth it lol. I stayyy waitingggg.
I think its important to know that you are sexually compatible like any other part of the relationship.
It would be quite the damper on the wedding night if you marry the guy only to find out he likes to bring his dolly to bed with him.
No, and here's way.
I didn't marry hubby just because he's good in bed, but it helped.
The problem with such philosophy is that people aren't commodities.
You shouldn't treat a person as a sexual experiment or compare them to a item if you don't like it then return it back to customer service type of thing.
Sexual compatability natural comes from mutual physical attraction, mental and emotional bond of love then the physical sexual part will fall into place naturally so there's no need to "try before you buy"
Wow. That last poll opinion is selfish…
I believe there are good reasons to wait until marriage, and sex can improve over time working together. If there’s something you absolutely need to know about having sex with them, just ask as your relationship becomes serious.
You don’t need a fling. You need love with good communication and trust.
I think its important to take a potential new car for a test drive, and put it through its paces before you commit to buying it and keeping it FOREVER!
I kinda hate that sex determines everything nowadays. It’s not something that people only experience with their marriage partners since sex with just anybody is so common and it dictates whether relationships should end or begin..
I think you should try a lot of different penises, and see how they fit, and how the guy with the penis fits you. You need to know what, how, when, how often, before you get married and 'settle' My opinion only.
Fucking someone you aren't in arelationship with should never happen. If you can't stop the, at least make sure you don't cheat.
Personally wouldn't accept a non-virgin but also wouldn't wait until marriage either. Also trying others before marrying is cheating and deserves getting your genitalia burned.
Higher divorce rate among couples who've lived together before marriage than those who waited.
If I could go back I'd wait instead of sleeping with my exes.
