What should I say to his mum?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend is getting hitched overseas and I’m friends with his mum. How do I discuss it without it getting awkward? (The wedding)?

Updates

5 mo

I’m not upset at all. I was just surprised that anyone else would want him, after we broke up.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some suggestions for discussing the wedding with your ex's mom without awkwardness:

- Keep it brief and congratulatory. Simply say "I heard the good news about [ex's name]'s wedding overseas. Please pass along my best wishes to him and his bride."

- Change the subject politely after a brief acknowledgment. For example, "That's nice they found love. So how have you been enjoying your retirement?"

- Cite your mutual past fondly but distantly. "He was a sweet kid, I'm glad he found someone to make him happy. Anyway, how's the garden coming along?"

- Compliment her, not the situation. "You must be so proud and excited for him. You raised such a great son."

- Emphasize you've both moved on. "Ancient history for me now! More importantly, how can I help with your fundraising bake sale?"

- Keep it light, don't dwell. A simple "Aww, wedding bells! Hope they have a lovely time. Catch me up on your new knitting project!"

Just keep it upbeat, positive and brief. Her son's life events don't need to be awkward between you if you change the subject respectfully. She'll appreciate your maturity.

[jahaims]

U don't need to discuss it unless she brings it up

[BoopBoopBeep]

Awkward for who? Her or you? Nothing is required to say except congrats.

[Asker]

Her.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Her son's getting married. That's great for her. Tell her congrats like a mature adult and move on.

[Asker]

You don’t get it. I have moved on.

[Asker]

I’m thinking of my friend, here.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Your friend, the mother of your ex who is getting married, yes?

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to discuss the wedding?

[Asker]

To be polite. She’s excited.

[Paris13]

Congrats Only to Mum. xxoo