You're getting ready, you're surrounded by family and friends, and the best man, or maid of honor walks in with a note telling you your bride or groom has decided to call off the wedding the day of. They just couldn't go through with it, and they have left the venue.
u I would have been devastated if that happened to me. She should have told me how she felt, well in advance of the wedding. Not having that discussion would have been very disrespectful and selfish.
Our wedding was not a simple wedding and I did almost all of the planning. She had family who traveled from China for the wedding. My church choir sang at the wedding. We had a string quartet. My brother played piano. I sang a song to my bride. There were about 150 guests present. We had a five-piece band at the reception at a country club. It was all very carefully planned. Allowing me to do all of that knowing that she was going to cancel would have been very insensitive and would have made me feel like a fool.
But she didn't cancel. Her son walked her down the aisle, her sister stood by her side while my best friend stood by my side. I sang a solo. The choir sang. We exchanged rings and said our vows. The reception went according to plan without a hitch. We made our getaway, spent a night in a local hotel, then drove to Hilton Head Island the next day. We spent a week visiting Savannah and Charleston and the surrounding areas and it was a perfect honeymoon.
If that had not happened. . . I would still feel hollow inside.
Who paid for most of it? I suppose that changes things slightly…
I’d probably talk to her parents, and see what they’re doing about the party… I’m sure that since it’s too late to cancel the party in most cases, I’d probably just ask that people enjoy themselves, because I’m still going to try to have some fun. I don’t know how I’d handle that, but I think I’d still try to have some fun. Probably wouldn’t dance much. I think I’d still need the hotel room just so I don’t have to go back home right away. I’d probably try to hang out with friends for a while. I’d also change the locks pretty quickly if she had access to my place that way she’s probably not messing with my stuff or stealing or anything while I’m out.
I’d probably also be ticked off that all that money was wasted when I could have just done a small legal ceremony at city hall and it would be less humiliating and less public if she just didn’t show; I’d probably call, but if she told me over a call…
I mean, usually the marriage certificates are signed a day before; at least from what I’ve seen as witness/friend/videographer… so I guess we’d get it annulled if papers were signed.
This actually happened to one of my closest friend… without the note… and with a bridesmaid suddenly missing.
She’s now married to an amazing man and had three lovely kids with him. Sometimes God sends you something harsh before sending the lovely thing you’ll then cherish properly.
Sometimes His will is not Our will. Actually declaring our will robs Him of His sovereignty.
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I'd be devastated... and then realize that it's a good thing... to end our relationship before getting stuck in a bad marriage. There would be no wedding today, but since everyone is here, and reception cannot be canceled without losing all that money, and ready to go, we'd have a party.. for as many of the guests as want to enjoy it. I'd have the photographer take pictures of the guests and make the pictures available to them.
I'd cry my eyes out and probably drink a whole bottle of Everclear straight and suffer from alcohol poisoning so they would have to take me to the ER.
I hope that the opposite thing happens with you, you will be hugged tight by your man, receives a loving kiss and you will cry from happiness and instead of going to the E. R, you will go to your honeymoon 😊
Aww thank you! 😊 I definitely hope so.
You're welcome 😌
They call that the Runaway Bride Syndrome , I would be running the other way as well if she pulled that shit lol
I would feel pressed to find out why. If an explanation was not forthcoming the natural response would be revenge. However, I am not a hothead. If her family had paid for the wedding, I would just excuse myself. If I had paid for the festivities. I would party, In most relations their are those that are not showing their affections to the intended bride or groom because they did not want to upset their plans to marry. With that off the table those emotions, having been stretched, are likely to erupt. "The classical Hallmark Christmas story" Hell, there may be a wedding after all. Best friend turned lover.. No wasted flowers. Remember at this point emotions are a critical mass.
I heard a story about a guy that called the bride's mother the night before the wedding telling her that he could not go through with it. I guess it was one of these big fancy weddings with a lot of people coming. The parents dropped a ton of money on this and most was non refundable. Naturally the mother was angry and she told the guy that he had better show up. So the next day the guy does not show up. I guess it was a real horror show. I do not know how it all ended up.
I guess if my wife did that I would be heartbroken and angry but in a few days I would be glad that she called it off.
If my partner dipped the day of our wedding? Man, that would *wreck* me. I wouldn't even lie and act tough about it — I'd be shocked, embarrassed, and heartbroken all at once. You don’t just walk away like that unless something really deep is going on... and the fact that they couldn’t even tell me face-to-face? That’s the part that would haunt me.
But after the initial emotional hurricane, I think I’d flip the script. The venue’s paid for, the people are there, the food’s hot — I’d turn it into a celebration of *me*. A "dodged-a-bullet" party. I’d cry, toast to clarity, and dance like I was just freed from a life sentence.
Painful? Hell yeah. But if someone can't communicate or be honest before a lifetime commitment, they saved you from *way* worse later on.
Obviously I wouldn't like it. But better it happen just before rather than right after. Know what I'm saying. Or than 10 years down the road. I mean as much as it would suck you have to think, "wow, I really dodged a bullet".
Of course all this is assuming she just didn't get cold feet. That's understandable for a bride. But the day of is kind of selfish. It may be YOUR day. But other people have sacrificed for you and that day. And you probably had doubts leading up to that day. If they were that strong you should've said something the weeks leading up to it.
I'm married.. But say this was an alternate reality.. If the person who was supposed to be my wife did that, I would remove her from my life, block her on everything, remove her from my accounts, remove my car insurance, cancel her phone, and move all of her stuff from my house to the front lawn, and change all of the locks.
I would see to it she suffered the consequences of her choices, we call this move "scorched earth". She came into my life with nothing, she would leave my life with nothing.
At what was supposed to be my wedding, I'd apologize to the guests, and leave to do what I said above.
He has done you a favour. There is a better man in this universe for you. Go book a trip to go to the rainforest in south America. Get your paperwork in order. Go for 4 weeks. Reconnect with mother nature. Don't worry about the "wedding", that's unnecessary baggage. Have a great trip. This happen to my sister. She met the best man in the "Amazon Rainforest "while connecting with mother nature. Yeah, it's a hurt nobody really understands and I'm sorry for the unnecessary drama.
It’s Party Time! As for me I would be jumping with joy & to be honest if it was a big wedding & family came I would still go through with the wedding reception & have a big party. As for the honeymoon I’m sure it’s non refundable so I would still go on it with or without her. After returning home I would seek legal action against my partner if she left me at the altar for the non refundable damages, court costs & other legal fees.
There would be nothing "handled." I would be crushed. That's about as far as I would care about handling anything. I would just be hurt beyond words.
There's no excuse for that. Not at the altar.
I guess I would handle it badly. Probably self-destructively.
u we're still having the party..., the after-party
just without her, I guess... shit happens
There ya go! No liquors going to waste.
@PrincessC16 tequila and tacos...
Theoretically -
I'd feel relieved - the only reason for me to agree to a wedding would be to please my girl. If this farce is now called off... I can return to my own life style.
Practically -
It won't happen - I'd only be with a lady who does not insist on such bourgeois procedures.
(which does NOT! mean that I won't commit to my lady...)
Bewilderment would be an understatement. I mean obviously she is questioning our future together. Essentially her way of saying, “we are done”.
Let the guest know there will be no ceremony. However the reception has already been paid for so all are invited to remain for that … and to bring me drinks.
Damn….
it would mean I made a huge mistake... not seeing he wasn't ready...
@IslaTheWitch The voice of reason.
@IslaTheWitch you're a witch, you will get angry and cast black magic spells on everyone and turn your guy into a cockroach 😂😂
@TonyMetal___86 witches are mother nature's creations and they can't hurt other her creations... also witches can use only mother nature's power... so called "black magic" is more of necromancers' thing :D
so... I couldn't do a thing... :D
So there will be no human frogs jumping around 🐸 haha
@TonyMetal___86 nope :D sorry to disappoint you :D
whoever imagined the frog thing... didn't understand the physics... can you imagine the frog body's density if it should accommodate the same number of cells as the human body? :D
Well that's what magic is for 😁
@TonyMetal___86 witches were created by mother nature to help people survive until medicine evolved... witches use natural remedies and until some point were advanced in humans anatomy... they helped with giving birth, outbreaks, anything that could be cured in a natural way with a bit of mother nature's power to multiply the effect
Did they help in love too? 😁
@TonyMetal___86 not in any unnatural way :D
I'll never understand why she would want to leave a wedding. It's her wedding day, something she's dreamed of since she was a little girl, right? Who runs away from their dream? Especially since her father's paying for it, so I would think she wouldn't want her father mad at her
At first I will think about the situation and will talk to him about issue and resolve it. if it can’t be resolved I will just say goodbye to him even he’s the the one I love and I need to respect the person that’s all I won’t even shed a single tear one must be strong so no one can hurt us! all the best for future!!
That would be hard to take.
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Of course I'd be crushed but I'll be damned if I let the occasion go to waste. Bring out the booze and music, we're having a party. That's a lot of witnesses, including her own family, to what transpired that day.
I would cry, feeling devastated, angry and embarrassed of course but at the same time thankful that he called it off before we jump into the next level which is way worse.
I'd probably kick myself for not noticing it sooner.
Man, that would be devastating depending on if I felt like I was looking forward to it or not.. If she basically left the day of, I probably would have felt that hesitancy, and lack of excitement well before that point though..
Oof, thats a bummer. Id just apologize for the priest. Invite him and all the other guests for the already prepped foods for them to enjoy. I don't want a waste. And certainly my partner is definitely not worth the trouble. But the food will be, if left by itself uneaten.
Difficult and embarrassing
BUT , a massive positive that they have finished it prior , rather than after.
Um the food isn't getting wasted, we're going to celebrate my close escape from an immature guy!
Yeah but it doesn't count as an escape because the guy escaped you, You said something to piss him off And he decided to pull Julia Roberts on you. Lol
@Cuminginside big words coming from a pedophile who was trying to manipulate me to marry him when I was only 14 and didn't knew what I was doing. Hope you get a life.
No I did not. You're the one that's talking about somebody leaving you at the altar which is pretty bad by the way. Did you use to call somebody a pedophile and then complained to me about it?
@Cuminginside nope. I called you that. Stop replying to all my opinions, that's creepy.
I would be angry and disappointed few seconds long but then I would plan what I will wear to his upcoming funeral.
Reimburse me for every dollar I've spent, give me the ring back and then I'd never see or talk to her again.
Dissapointed but relieved it was before the wedding instead of a divorce.
*I ain't paying for all this myself* lol 😭 😭 😆 send in the lawyers
It's super unlikely you'll recoup any fees UNLESS their name is on the contract with you with the vendors. For example, if your parents paid for the venue, they are legally liable. If you signed your name to pay for the flowers, you would be liable and so fourth. You don't legally sign a contract with your fiance stating you are going to get married on the day no matter what, so there is nothing saying they or you can't back out, so likely you'll be swallowing the cost dependent on who agreed on paper to pay those vendors.
My friends fiance backed out morning of, and they were stuck with all the bills b/c their family had agreed to pay for majority of the wedding with a few family friends paying for the rest. Nothing they could do legally about it.
That's real shitty, they shouldn't have agreed to get married in the first place or at least called it off before all the plans were made and money spent
Devastated, confused, angry, extremely upset, and felt like a failure, especially when facing family and friends and telling them what happened.
I was in this position, sort of. I wasn't married to her, but she talked about marriage, how she wanted her wedding day, and showed massive interest in me. Then, as months went on, she went cold. I gave her space, and finally, when we met, she went colder; a few months later, I found out she got married, and it broke my heart, and I respected her. However, eventually, I got over it because I thought she was the one who initiated a lot of interest at the start. But now, I don't respect her; she's no longer in my prayers; she was rude about ending things because she knew what she was doing, but she didn't care. I left it to God; one day, her time will come to repay for hurting others. Once I lose respect for someone, I won't mope around thinking about what-ifs; I view it as if I dodged a bullet from a horrible person.
I'll become embarrased and confused and it will take a lot of time for me to sort things out and maybe it will create a long lasting wound
Party on people! Shits paid for! Bar is open & that's where I'll be!
have a drink, vent hard, tell the guests. Say goodbye to the in laws one last time, end the relationship. Call a lawyer.
I'd feel really embarrassed and humiliated, as well mad and heartbroken. I'd break up with them, i dont care what excuse they have
If it were an arranged marriage, I don't think it would affect me more than if it were a love marriage.
Fuck, I’ll go celebrate with my boys after I take her ring back to the jewelers.
Better than if she went through with it and they decided to end it.
then not they
I don't keep relationships with weak people. Id cold turkey no contact
That would suck, but it is not the end of the world.
I would never speak of the incident and compartmentalize what happened.
I’d be pissed. They have me going down the aisle make look like a joke.
id be pissed, spending all that money for nothing, suck it up and deal with it
Relief and free. Because I will have a spare waiting
I don't know, I've never been in a relationship.
Have you ever waited to contact someone just to see if the will contact you?
I would be heart broken. I would probably be really embarrassed and leave too
I'd be distraught and deeply hurt.
I think it would be every brides nightmare.
I would quite simply be beyond consoling.
I'm sure that no one can do this to miss emma mary because she's a sweet loving lady and a special gem cannot be found everyday 😌
@TonyMetal___86
Bless You and Thank You so much @TonyMetal___86 darling. xxx
You're welcome 😌
If she has a sister I’ll make it work 🗿
I would probably react the way she did
I would feel I dodged a bullet on that one.
Omagh I think I'd end up on the funny farm
Devastated
I saw this question on reddit
I would accept it with understanding.
decapitation
I'll cause a big problem
I would move on life goes on
Super sad
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