Questions: Marriage & Weddings

*This is something I heard on the radio.

A man and a woman are married. They make the decision to start trying to have a baby. They try, unsuccessfully, for years.

The woman goes through fertility treatments and has had 36 negative pregnancy tests.

After 3 years of trying, the husband finally tells the wife that she's been unable to get pregnant because prior to meeting her, he got a vasectomy.

Apparently this little detail never came out and the husband allowed the wife to go through hormone treatments and pregnancy tests knowing that it was highly unlikely she'd conceive.

When he finally told her about the vasectomy, she gave him a choice: he could agree to her getting a doner sperm, reverse the vasectomy, or get divorced.

The radio hosts were divided as to whose side they were on.

On the one hand, some think the wife was being very reasonable in her reaction to the husband's lying and the fact that he allowed her to go through the emotional and financial stress of hormone treatments and all of the needless pregnancy tests.

On the other, some think the wife is being unreasonable by threatening divorce because lying about one's firtility status is not a good enough reason to divorce.

Last week was the 2nd time my friend had this happened. They've been married for 9 years, have fraternal twins (a 7 year-old boy and girl) and are having issues.

Her husband is frustrated in only having sex 3-5 times in a month. It has declined since last year. He forced himself on her for the 2nd time and claims that since he's her husband and he had the patience to wait till marriage when he met her... he can now have sex whenever he wants to. She told him to stop and was crying and he said ''no, I'm your husband''.

Even if you're married isn't that still rape?