I think this is a pretty interesting situation.
From his point of view he could have just viewed taking you out as your "gift". Especially if it was a nicer place.
Or as many suggested maybe he isn't very big into giving gifts. The excuse of "you didn't say what you wanted" doesn't really hold my attention as far as being a reasonable excuse. That just seems like a way out of a tricky spot by trying to blame you.
If you really like the guy, you can always just be like look I'm not mad but I love surprises. Next time you don't know what I want try to be creative and surprise me. Or you can avoid it all together if you won't be resentful of this later on. If you don't say anything now its unfair to store this as something to be mad at him for later.
From a personal stand point I think every guy should get his girlfriend/wife at least something for a big event. Birthday, X-mas, Valentines. Just shows that she is on his mind, worth his time, and in the simplest form its just a nice gesture.
He took you out for dinner I suppose, a good gesture... but leaving out a card, the most simple of things... not very nice really
Poinbtless doing something nice like dinner if you're going to leave out the most basic and to some, the most important thing
I know what you mean. I would be disappointed too if my boyfriend didn't give me a gift, but it's not the end of the world. At least he remembered! :P There are lots of people who don't even remember their significant others' birthday. But also, he did take you out for dinner. So I don't think you can really be too mad at him. Maybe things are a bit tight and maybe he thought doing something simple like dinner would be best. Also did he ask you what you wanted? It seems kind of odd that he didn't ask you, and then just didn't bring it up if he actually wanted to get you something. Maybe have a chat about gifts and holidays just to make sure you two are on the same page. Let each other know how you feel about these things, do you both feel gifts are important, or do you both feel you could do without and just spend time together? These are things you two need to make clear. That way you won't be disappointed and he won't be unsure what to do :)
Well...I would probably feel a little unloved...but, if you mentioned it..then I would leave it alone. Most likely he will go and pick you up something and surprise you with it.
And, I think I understand that you do not mean it like you are spoiled..but, a present or something would make you feel cherished and celebrated and loved. I totally get that.
Once I had almost the same thing happen to me...and, when I mentioned it..because he kept asking me what I want for my birthday..and then didn't get me anything and went and got his brother something..which was around the same time..I just mentioned how unloved I felt.
Anyway, he went out and bought me some stuff..and surprised me with it...
I will say, though, it does not give guys a good vibe from you or me. I do not think that they get why it upsets us...
I never ask my boyfriend for gifts ever. I just don't think that people should be obligated to buy gifts.
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Don't be mad at him ..
He took you out for Dinner at least..
I Agree that he was wrong on not gifting you anything but let it go ..
Just be happy with what you have ..
Does he give other people birthday presents? If so, yes, you should be pretty mad. If not, the guy probably just thinks birthdays are dumb.
Nah. Some people aren't big into gifts or cards. He took you out. Now when it's his birthday, you get to find out if he's just selfish or really isn't into the whole gift giving thing.
You can let it go or drive your relationship into the ground over something you've already been over with him.
If you're already angry with him at this stage...Think how mad you'll be after the honeymmoon period...
Boo that man!
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