Why do men like to avoid and/or break up with their significant others on holidays such as birthdays, Christmas, and Valentine's Day? My boyfriend sent me a text message on my birthday saying 'happy birthday sweetheart!' but he failed to call nor did he get me a gift.
I talked to him yesterday and he claims he was at work all day on my birthday. He said he got his days mixed up and he went in too early than he was supposed to so he ended up staying at work for about 10 hours. He says he's really exhausted. I don't know if I should believe him. I was giving him the silent treatment on the phone and he got mad and hung up on me like I shouldn't be mad or something. I wasn't expecting a gift because we've only been dating for a month but WHY DO GUYS DO STUFF LIKE THIS? Thanks for hearing me vent!
I talked to him yesterday and he claims he was at work all day on my birthday. He said he got his days mixed up and he went in too early than he was supposed to so he ended up staying at work for about 10 hours. He says he's really exhausted. I don't know if I should believe him. I was giving him the silent treatment on the phone and he got mad and hung up on me like I shouldn't be mad or something. I wasn't expecting a gift because we've only been dating for a month but WHY DO GUYS DO STUFF LIKE THIS? Thanks for hearing me vent!
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I finally saw my boyfriend today and he came by with a gift. Just the thought of that took away my worry because I spent his birthday with him. I guess he realized how upset I was about the whole thing.
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I give you 9:1 odds that he's being honest there. "Never ascribe to malice what ignorance will explain." The fact that he text messaged you means that he was thinking about you. If he was truly avoiding you, he would have avoided attracting your attention with the message.
However, not to be too harsh, if you are the type to call someone up in a huff and give them the silent treatment when you claim you genuinely didn't expect a gift or something more, then you may have just given him reason to avoid you.
Men absolutely HATE the whole, "You should know what I'm thinking" game. We suck at it. We're not wired to read those social cues, and when women expect us to be it drives us nuts. Worse, you've probably just conditioned him to be resentful of future "special days," because now he know that if he doesn't do something for them, he'll get a tongue-lashing. What would've once been a sweet gesture of appreciation is now mandatory duty to placate you.
Congratulations. Your relationship has just become a sit-com.
Thanks for the comment! Thanks for making me see the light and I appreciate your honest answer.
I'm pretty aggressive about special days. I take it upon myself to plan our birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries because I know if I left it up to my husband it would just be another day. I make the reservations, tell him what to buy me, and dress him. But he always has a love letter waiting for me. He isn't into the whole pomp and circumstance of special days - that's my preference.
I think it's because it's just not important to men, they typically aren't sentimental. They just put up with it all because they love us.
guys are terrible with date, we don't care much for holidays I don't know what it is we just don't. dating for a month constitute a mediocre gift, nothing to special. I wouldn't get OVERLY upset about this because this could scare the guy off. Next time you guys are talking face to face let him know very maturely that you wished he made time for you on your b-day, maybe in a playful manner. Most likely he will realize what he did and plan something extra special for the two of you
they might truly be busy all the time, it depends, I'm the type to forget yet one of my ex's well he doesn't appreciate that on his important events etc.
They don't want to spend money on a gift.
I was thinking the same thing, instead of honestly saying 'honey I don't feel like buying you anything' they just drop off the face of the earthl.