Should I give them all to her?

[Anonymous]

I have a leather jacket and a silk dress and linen nightie that I originally bought my mum, but they didn’t fit her, so I am considering gifting them to my friend. Her birthday is coming up in a few weeks. I’m posting her gifts. However, I already have a cat decorative plate and then a cushion cover embroidery kit. Should I give them all to her, or just wait a year, until we’re better acquainted?

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are a few factors to consider when deciding how much to gift your friend:

- The level of closeness in your friendship - gifting multiple clothing items may feel like too much for an acquaintance versus close friend.

- The quality/condition of the clothing - if it's pre-loved or doesn't seem like her style, a single thoughtful gift may be better.

- Her likely reaction - would she feel obligated or uncomfortable receiving a lot, versus appreciating your thoughtfulness?

- Your budget - mailing multiple packages could get expensive versus a combined gift.

Overall, while thoughtful, multiple items especially clothing might be better saved or given later as your friendship develops more over time. Given it's still newer, the cat plate and embroidery kit alone seems like a caring, appropriate amount that shows you listened without pressure. You can build on gifts in future years as you become better friends. Simplicity and thoughtfulness often mean the most.

[Christoff92]

Go for it