If you still love your ex but you don't wish them on their birthday?

[Anonymous]

Is that normal? You still have feelings for them but on their birthday you pretend you didn't know. Why would you ignore their birthday?

[Tamikaze]

You would ignore their birthday because they are an ex. The only reason this is even a question for you is because you have not ended your emotional attachment to this person. You are still in love with them. Until that ends, you will consider doing all sorts of things that you should only do for an existing relationship.

Ex's are not like family. Family is family and you can have your lows and disagreements but you still should make nice-nice with them at the holidays and such. With an ex, if you run in to them you should hopefully be cordial (unless they really did you bad) but you don't have to wish them happy birthday or anything else. Good luck!

[Erica2u]

well I block his Facebook so I won't fell hurt whenever I saw his photos or comments; he didn't wish my birthday one month earlier than his so I guess he don't want to be interupted..I really wish I could do so though but he would never reply me so why would I?

[Asker]

I have the same thought as you but his birthday was earlier than mine. I was thinking whether to wish him because I don't want to show I care though I was still crazy in love with him. We are both hiding our feelings but after a long thought and friends' encouragement I did send him a birthday text but I knew he wouldn't reply. I decided to do so to show I still care a little. He didn't wish me though.

[Erica2u]

Same here but I just didn't do the move...then after more than half a month he sent me a message asking me how have I been, but he never replied... I am trying to move myself on as he's not coming back to get me back...

[Erica2u]

I am afraid of losing a person in my life because it makes me feel like the person who I love with die and I would never hear from him forever.

[Asker]

He sent you a text but when you replied he never bother to reply? Men are so confusing right. 1st he wanted to talk then he doesn't. Maybe he's confused. But do you still see him? How does he act around you? When me and my ex work together he still looks like he likes me. Always teasing me and looking at me. When I flirt back he's happy. But he never reply to my text so I don't know what he want.

[Erica2u]

They may be drunk messages or when he felt vulnerable at late night time so just sent me messages.I still feel hurt, I guess so does him. So its better if we don't get contact with each other.I saw him couple times on campus but we tended to be strangers otherwise don't know what to say or feel hurt to even see with each other.It turns out that its not gonna work between us for some reasons such as feeling changed.So we have to keep distance to move on to find another person who make us happy

[thetheme]

Moving on is exactly that, moving on. Wishing a happy birthday or even a Happy Thanksgiving or a Merry Christmas will only boost their ego and put them on a pedestal. No one is obligated to say anything to exes or to wish them anything. It already says a lot if I have feelings for someone and that person has no feelings for me, especially if I am the one that was left.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Because we don't want to look like we care. I'll say Happy B-day I she says it to me, otherwise nah.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, this isn't an answer. But this reminded me of how my ex didn't wish me a happy birthday when I still loved her =(