Disclaimer: This is MY understanding of the topic. This may not be for some people, but it gives you a rough idea of the whole situation. Your opinion is YOUR opinion and I can accept that for what it is. It is hard to tell what people’s intentions are (if they are good or if they are bad).Take those lessons with a grain of salt.
It seems like the phenomenon of “trying” to understand both (or one gender at the very least) is more complicated than it is. What happens if I told you it wasn’t that hard as you ought it would be? Gosh it would make life much easier for everyone in the end!
What is she/he thinking?
He/She is giving me missed signals?
My bf/gf thinks this.. am I right or are they wrong?
If all those questions had accurate/factual answers, it would be smooth sailing from here on in correct?
From my understandings most of the time it depends on who you ask. If you asked a guy he would likely say that women are more complicated. If you ask a woman, she’d say guys are more complicated. But why is that?
Women (Emotionally in tune) We tend to have a lot of emotions and hormones that can alter our moods in just seconds. We have the tendency to over analyse and over think when we aren’t really supposed to. Sometimes a small situation can turn out to be a big one because of it. Our fears can get the better of us. Listen and supporting us when we need it, goes a long way for women.
Men (Logical thinkers) Like the simple things in life. They see it as they perceive it and they go by the saying “What you see is what you get.” They don’t like drama and they don’t want unnecessary stress. They don’t have the capacity to maintain focused on a topic for several hours. It’s straight to the point and no games.
Relationships. You have two VERY different genders wanting to be together. A guy wants to feel desired. He wants to be understood deeply and he wants to know that when he has issues he can always lean on you and expect not be judged by it. Girls want to know they matter. They want to be cared for without even having to ask. A guy who is considerate and thoughtful who is not only a friend to her but also her lover. On top of that she wants to know that the relationship is solid, that the both of you are still connected and close. Girls like the romantic side of the relationship the guy likes that he isn’t lonely and that he has someone to share his life with.
The complicated part. We can’t ask a guy to think like a girl and vice versa. Guys don’t think like girls and girls certainly can’t think like guys. So we are supposed to read each other’s mind? Not quite lol You want something to be done.. ask. You're concerned about something in particular.. talk about it. Girls don’t overthink the situation and guys.. be considerate in how you word things. The last thing both people want is to overthink and offend someone in the making. Trust me it’s more drama then anyone should deal with. It also helps (girls) that the guy is not going out of his way to insult or offend you when his just simply bringing something up to discuss. No one is trying to attack anyone so there is no need to defend, it's how arguments usually break out.
What both genders want? To be loved, good sex and taken care of. It’s not really rocket science to figure that out once you think about it. Both genders want the exact same thing, but everyone has a certain path/road to get there.
Conclusion. We mentally think differently. We both feel differently about certain things and situations. How do you think guys and guys understand each other? What about girls and girls understanding each other? The more time you spend with the opposite gender the more you'll understand. If we all had the time in the world to get to know each girl or each guy out there it would make sense to have a better understanding as whom they are as a person. This goes to say that everyone is different; everyone has their own quirks and their own uniqueness. We won’t know that unless we put the time and effort to get to know them, and that is if we even want to, to begin with..
Just keep things simple. Keep it refined.
Thank you for reading my Mytake :)