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Bullied For Being Beautiful

Bullied For Being Beautiful

I'm sure when you read the title, you thought that beautiful people being bullied is something that doesn't happen or is something not to complain about because after all, the victim is beautiful so their life must be perfect, right? I want to bring attention to this problem that is very real but is often over looked, because people have this mind set - beautiful people (in your opinion) have perfect lives and shouldn't complain.

A quick online search will tell you that there are other women who have felt the same and have bravely spoken out. Despite their very real cases of bullying, they're still fobbed off by others and sometimes bullied further because they must be arrogant people. They're also believed to be assuming it is their appearance that's the problem and might be ignoring the fact it could be something else. Of course, there is a possibility that someone may be misinterpreting it but it should never be assumed for every person that this is the case and I think most cases are actually interpreted correctly. Either way, there's no excuse for bullying.

People bully out of jealousy and to bring someone else down. You can be bullied for absolutely anything, either good or bad. You can be bullied for being very intelligent or for being amazing at sports! However, it seems that people have the perception that only unattractive people get bullied and attractive people are nothing but admired and that's simply not true!

You may have guessed that I'm writing about this because I've had my own experiences of this and you would have guessed right. I would like to point out that I do not view myself as attractive and either way, it is purely subjective and based on the beholder! To some people I may be ugly or average, to others I may be beautiful and it's the latter that's the problem when it comes to bullies who are insecure.

...she admitted that she had been 'triggered' by my photo.

My first experience with this problem and the first time I realised this thing happened was when I was a teenager and used a teenage forum. I joined and everyone was kind and I was kind back, but when I showed my face things changed. One girl in particular (who had admittedly stated she was very insecure about her looks) took a disliking to me and treated me badly and it all boiled up into a dispute where she admitted that she had been 'triggered' by my photo. It made her feel inadequate next to me and she took her frustration out on me which was entirely unnecessary. I did nothing to deserve such terrible treatment and ostracising from the community, other than her viewing me as pretty.

A similar thing happened at the end of last year. An insecure woman (older than me by a few years too) bullied and harassed me for over a month and I did nothing to her (other than unfriend her) to deserve it! There was literally no reason or excuse for how she treated me and only me. I had barely said two words to the woman and even as she abused me, I ignored everything she said and didn't retaliate until she finally got impatient at my lack of response and had a break down and hurled even more abuse at me before she left (though she's back again).

As I said, people bully for a reason and there was something about me she found intimidating. I would've put it down to her just being a nasty person but she is as sweet as candy to everyone else - it was just me that she targeted. I try not to hold too much anger against her for what she's done because I feel sorry for her. I think me unfriending her was viewed as some kind of rejection and she didn't know how to handle her emotions... but there's still no excuse for treating someone so horribly.

Never diminish someone else's suffering just because you view them as better/lucky/more successful in some way.

These situations are not nice to be in but when I realised what was happening, I felt I couldn't turn to anyone for support. It's only natural to assume a person must've done something to cause such abuse from someone. I think the people who saw her bullying me thought that I must've done something to have caused it despite what I told them. You go through a turmoil in your mind - do I tell them I'm being bullied because of how I look and potentially look arrogant or do I just handle it alone? It's often the latter choice that's agreed on.

It's a serious thing that happens all the time. One girl hung herself and her friends speculated that she was bullied because she was pretty. I think bullying of any kind should be taken seriously and support should be there when someone feels they're being bullied, whatever the reason is. I hope that this Take has made you reevaluate how you view people who have been attacked and bullied because they are deemed attractive in society. I hope this makes you more open minded and accepting before jumping to conclusions. Never diminish someone else's suffering just because you view them as better/lucky/more successful in some way.

Why do beautiful girls get bullied?

"Nobody will see the sad part. Nobody will look at things with her perspective. [...] Despite being a good human, she will be judged and will face resentment- because let's face it, she's pretty."

Bullied For Being Beautiful
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