Why do people look down on sensitive people and respect assholes?

[Anonymous]

For years, I've been the "too nice" girl or the girl who doesn't like to fight and argue. That is my nature, I happen to be sensitive to myself and others. It hurts me to see others hurt but I'm labeled crazy or "weak". Why are people so hateful? Everyone cNt be wicked all of the time. Or else, who's back would you cry on when shit gets hard? All my life I've been this way and it hasn't done much for me. It always seems like mean wicked people get the most respect just for being assholes. Why is this?

[Anonymous]

I, too, have been considered the "too nice" guy. I don't like to fight or to argue... it's a waste of energy and time. Especially when 99% of the time, you're most likely dealing with someone that can't be reasoned with. I think assholes get respect because they can come off as having a backbone. For standing up for themselves. I'm under the mindset that if something isn't threatening my well-being or threatening someone else's well-being, then I'm not going to bother "standing up for myself". One of my favorite quotes is, "You can pour drinks on me, you can throw food at me, you can even spit on me, and I'll just laugh that stuff off. But.. good reason or not.. no one hurts a friend of mine!

The mere fact that my friends are ever going to be put in a life threatening position, the latter half of that quote won't ever really be seen by someone else. So, they will just see me getting spat on, thrown food at.. and think I'm weak because I'm not "defending" myself... by just laughing it off. It's just a drink, or just some food.. Not something to get overly worked up for about.. but I think because most people don't have this mindset, they automatically equate it to being weak because they can't wrap their head around this mindset.

[Asker]

Exactly. We just happen to choose our battles wisely. People are under the impression that we're "too nice" because we don't go ham on everyone who says the wrong things to us or we have a comeback for every little thing.

[yourfriendforever]

Your not weak as the so called strong peaople say to you...
They just are insecure of you and so just to satisfy their ego (that they are strong) they call you weak and I am the same and i'm not bothered about anyone because when I do something I know that i'm not doing any wrong or with anyone so i'm satisfied with the criticism because I know am doing right
So be confident that your right and that they shouldn't be bothering you :)

[Birdmann1234]

Sensitive people are actually very nice they just don't like being disrespected for no reason because some idiot has nothing better to do but be a low-life ass-whole

[Anonymous]

I understand you fully...
I am just like you I guess that's how people expect things to work sins many like to say you're not payed to be nice wright... But you're not payed to be an asshole neither so
Society likes to put it out like that that to be succesful in life you have to get on top of everything to be bold to get on with life some people apply that definition as in being assholes but that is not the true nature of power... Real power is being the person you are and standing up for yourself not letting others talk you into what they think you should be

[Asker]

And I notice a lot of those people who are assholes aren't even happy. There must be a reason why someone always has to put down others to get respect. I just never saw any need to do it. I'm content enough with myself to the point where I don't need to put down others to make a point.

[WhiteSteve]

As far as men go, here's your answer...

https://youtu.be/k-diau1UxLc

[WhoTheHellKnows]

Well... the world isn't perfect. It's no where near it. It's human nature is really what comes down to

[Asker]

Sadly. I never had respect for assholes. I'm the girl who likes "nice guys" also.

[WhoTheHellKnows]

Then you my dear are a rare breed :)

[Prof_Don]

In a capitalistic society, aggression and assertiveness is seen as ideal.

[Klaatu51]

because they think "sensitive" people are "weaker"

some people tend to bully weaker ones :-(

[Asker]

I never got bullied.

[Anonymous]

A lack of initiative is not "niceness" no different than a lot of charisma isn't "aggression". How silly.

[jmmmfi]

its only girls who do this

[Asker]

No it's not. My brother and I have the same personalities and he's gotten called a "pussy" and he has a hard time getting a gf. Nice guys really have it hard... which is why I'm always so empathetic with them on GAG. Good people in general have it tough. Girls are just a bit more vocal.