Are self harm scars on multiple areas of the body a turn off?

[Logical_Idolist]

I was just wondering if some people would refuse to touch my body because of my scars. These are my scars and I know they're ugly, blah blah blah.

Oh and for the full body picture, zoom in on mg stomach and chest.

[Anton86]

It's disgusting. Both sexually and in terms of dating as well. If you harm your own body, what will happen to a man who will be stupid enough to date you? He will make you upset, many times, and even drive you crazy, not because you are anyhow special, but because life is tough for all people, the difference is how you react to such disturbances. In your case, you are going to harm him: physically, psychologically, socially, legally. You are so pampered by your environment (parents?) that you don't value even your own body. You would value that dumb guy even less. I hope he will survive. I know you hope that people would tell you that they'd still fck you, despite your scars, but no, any defects on a woman are unattractive. I dated a very beautiful girl, and she had some skin stretches around her hips, just because she was a professional dancer. And you know what, despite my love for graceful dancers, naturally I didn't like seeing those stretches. They were not too bad and somewhat justfied, but I'd definitely prefer if they didn't exist. Men subconsciously like beauty, not because we are superficial, but because it's a sign of how well you can take care of yourself which will eventually translate into how well you can take care of our habitat and kids. Let this sink in your mind. You are lucky you had some negative experiences (that resulted in these defective behaviors) when you were relatively young. You still have enough health and energy to take advantage of that and have your soul cleaned early in life through these sufferings. If you save your soul, you may save thousands souls around you. Alternatively, you can just continue falling into the hole of desperation, self-indulgence, evil, and death. We all have defects, but what makes us humans is our ability to compensate for those defects. You still have a long path ahead of you to realize how foolish you were and many years of preparing for and doing surgeries to hide these scars, and then, hopefully, you will be able to help other kids to make the right choice, cause you will know first hand how to deal with that demon.

[kaiser122]

You lack an understanding of the situation. Self harm is an addiction and it goes much deeper than you know. If it bothers you, PLEASE dont ever associate with someone who struggles with self harm. People like you only make us feel worse about our bodies and ourselves. Please try to educate yourself on the subject...

[John_Bouff]

This guy has the right idea regardless of the beta downvoters

[Logical_Idolist]

Pampered? I was tortured by my parents, but thanks for assuming. And as for not looking bad, you're so fucking lucky I can't post the real cuts because it's so much worse than that.

[kaiser122]

@John_Bouff the only "beta" here IS this guy...

[Anton86]

I am glad that you feel bad. That is called negative feedback. If you feel good, you will continue to indulge in your addictions. And I want you to live a long and balanced life, rather than feel good at the moment. In fact, this motivation for "feeling good" which seems to be at the core of modern American ideology is probably the main source of most addictions and health problems in the US. The cruel reality is that if you constantly seek to "feeI good", you will be depressed most of the time looking for a stronger and stronger drug: adrenalin from pain, food, sex (mastrubation), alcohol, weed, cocaine, and whatever. This is a path to misery, death, and hell. It's only when you learn to sacrifice a bit of your self, and choose to willingly accept some suffering, only then you may have a balanced, reasonably happy life.

[Anton86]

And yes, you are still pampered, I don't know by whom, if not your parents, then healthcare or welfare, I don't know, but what I do know is that when people really struggle, they can't fucking afford cutting themselves! In the real world, when you are weak, somebody will eat you, or you won't have a job and can't buy food to feed yourself and your kids, and you are just being pathetic wimps here who are afraid to take any responsibility for their pathetic lives. Parents tortured you, ok, but you are adult now, control your fucking emotions and actions.

[Logical_Idolist]

How about you? Instead of helping, you make things worse. I just turned 18.

As for you, people like you tend to assume rather than ask questions. It's so annoying.

[kaiser122]

You sound like you need serious help. Lacking empathy isn't normal. You should see a mental health professional...

[Anton86]

I am afraid we will have to cut our conversation here. You may re-read my responses, but until you realize/admit, and clearly, respectfully, and gratefully communicate your understanding that the only reason a wise, established, busy man would spend so much time communicating with you is because he is being empathetic to you, my defective souls,... until then, this conversation will be a waste of time.

[kaiser122]

...🤮

[teenaimss5]

This is like saying “No no one wants to touch you because you are not the definition of beauty” wtf is wrong with you?

[SmilesAintAgirl14]

what the fuck is your problem?

[TonyMetal86]

It's a turn off because you hurt yourself, that is the 1st time i see something like that, if they were scars made by something else, it's ok but the thing is that when you hurt yourself it's a bad thing...

You seem like a nice girl, just think about finding a man who will truly loves you, getting married, having a nice family... if one day you reach this point, you will never think about hurting yourself anymore...

[Anonymous]

People on here will be assholes to you and tell you they dont wanna date someone with scars and shit like that.
I respect your strength for waking up everyday and facing the world even while struggling , and I'm sorry you self harm. I hope you stop and I hope you one day never return to it and truly feel happy.
But please, dont listen to the people on here. I saw someone ask a question like this and everyone said to her 'I wouldn't even date someone who self harmed or had mental issues' and all you will get is negativity.
I personally think to the right man when you are finally happy and stop self harming and okay with yourself 100% a man will love you for who you are regardless of who you used to be. I dont think your scars are a turn off , at least to me I dont think negatively of them.

[Logical_Idolist]

I wish I knew who you were to personally thank you, but thank you so much. Really, it greatly appreciate that.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem 💕. And I'll follow you.

[Horror_lover]

It all depends on the guy/girl, but remember everyone doesn't think the same. When I was 16 I went through a rare sickness or disease that caused me to have third degree burns. My whole body is full of marks, scars and soars. Some are still open, because one little scratch it will come off and start bleeding. I was scared no guy will find me attractive or might be grossed out, but trust me. Guys still talked me and my boyfriend loves me and my body and he has seen me naked plenty of times and he still wants to be with me.

[Horror_lover]

Plus I have few self harm scars that were noticeable.

[elaenor]

It is not a turn off if you stop doing it and let it stay in the past. Because now you can be a strong person who went through something. Everything is a lesson. But if you keep doing it yes it is a turn off. Because it means you could not get any far from where you are and did not improve yourself. So stop it and don't think about what others say about your body. Accept what happened and don't do it again. If you respect and love yourself other people will follow. You just have to decide and set your mind. It is your own body, don't allow anybody to hurt you, not even yourself.

[betaTester]

Few years ago I got with this cashier chick I met at the subway, when I took off her pants holy fucking shit her thighs, hips and lower body were covered in cuts, she was literally shaking and from her breathing I could tell she was scared I run away (lol). I mean I was surprised but it also triggered my protective instincts towards her so it's not actually that unattractive, I made some joke about whether she's an assassin and each scar is a confirmed kill, she laughed at my bad joke and we still had sex. On the other hand I've seen tattoos that look worse. As long as you are in a healthy state of mind and have a genuine connection with the guy I don't think these are enough to stop him ✌

[Anonymous]

To me, scars are like tattoos and they usually have a backstory to them.

Turning to self-harm is not always a good idea though.

I've been severely depressed for 5 years but I don't have a single self-harm scar on me.

It is true that self-harming yourself might make you feel better, but what will it left you with? Just scars. Scars that other people might feel repulsed when they saw it.

I hope you'll deal with your hardships in a better, non-harming way. Like me, I chose to deal with in a positive way, such as getting new hobbies and stuff. To be honest, I can hardly keep up with all these hobbies I got, but it made me strong enough to go through each day.

[kaiser122]

I have scars all over me... lemme tell you asking that here is a bad idea. Most men on this website are rude and love tearing women down. Despite my scars plenty of people still find me beautiful so it does NOT mean you are ruined or automatically no longer beautiful. You dont want to be with someone who judges you solely because you have self harm scars. They're not worth it. Stay strong love!

[sarahhcmarie]

Sort of.
I've never self harmed that badly even though i've tried to before, but i think you (if you haven't already) should try to get some therapy to help prevent from hurting yourself so much.
The second picture makes me so sad and disturbed.
Pleaseee get better <3

[Anonymous]

Gosh, so many people commenting here are asses. I self harmed in the past, and I’m so sorry you do it as well, and I hope you get through whatever situation you’re in that started it.

Self harm is a very misunderstood, complicated subject. Some men might get nervous about scars since they don’t understand it, but I do think there’s someone for everyone, and that the right guy will come along and love you for you, scars and all.

Take care and stay strong 💙

[100lbguy]

I almost self-harm myself but instead, my body and mind turn me apathetic instead of going through depression. but I don't think it is a turn off for me personally as I have a long scar on my right cheek and right arm (accidental injuries) long ago so it would hypocritical and you still look hot as hell (those racks), I already dated a girl with scars before but her having common interest, cool personality and nice figure won me over.

[100lbguy]

Plus don't listen to those ignorant dickheads, they don't know how tragic and sad your life so their opinions are idiotically invalid, they just think people who self-harm are just goth that can't take responsibility and think everything is like shit and stuff but that is never the case but why would someone self-harm to that extreme for petty reasons, it is people who didn't have a proper childhood, who never had any recognition of worth, respect and love from their relative, classmates or teachers or anything else or more important never had any proper friends were lonely with depression and also in some cases bullying altogether and these dickheads didn't had any of those experiences so they opinions means nothing and are just plain ignorant

[Burgerboy21]

For me at least, and I'm sure I speak for several others, yes the scars can be a turn-off.
No, that's not because they're "ugly" or anything.
The reason is because it reveals mental instability in the self-harmer.
However, I believe people can change, that the scars can from the past and that, with enough help and motivation, these poor habits can be overcome.
So as long as the self-harm stays in the past, then it's not a deal-breaker.

[ThisDudeHere]

I think it depends on whether a guy gets to know you beforehand. The more he knows you, the less likely he's to go away after seeing it but, I do think that if this is part of a first impression, it might be problematic.

Then again, you have other 'assets' that compensate for that.

[Marrry]

It is not q turn on definitely but the right guy won't care about these. You should feel proud that despite your problems you are still alive and kicking.!

[HaveNoName]

They may bother at first and kind of scare some guys but nothing to call it a turn off. You look so good otherwise, they will ignore the marks, I bet you.

[marilynmansonssextoy]

I have self-harm scars all over my wrists, thighs, and i carved some words in between my tits
xx
~ Mrs Manson

[PrettyRegular]

Why on earth do you do that? Why you want to harm yourself? That's disgusting. You are pretty and you have a nice body. Why do you want to look like you would been on a holiday in a lion's cage? Just plain stupid.

[Logical_Idolist]

I was abused for seven years and I could get away from it so I turned to that.

[PrettyRegular]

That's sad but making scars doesn't make it better. Go and talk to some professional. You are cute and you will find a nice boyfriend.

[Logical_Idolist]

Message me.

[kaiser122]

It's an addiction and a way of getting an instant high from emotional turmoil. Trying to rationalize it is pointless. It's like being on drugs.

[xTom98]

Big turnoff and I won't date a person that did that to themself. I wanna stay as far away from that bs as possible.

[Hehehr]

I think it really depends on the person but I think if I see anyone with scars that they have been/ are going through something really tough and are/ have survived it. I think you are an amazing person and thank you for still being here and living :).

[Shaduu]

Everyone is different and that is evident just by looking at some of the replies here, everyone will perceive your scars in different ways.. Some will judge you, some will help you and some will relate to you.

Find the person that is right for you. (:

[hoodiegirl]

That was very well said🙂

[LanceC]

a lot of people will say that it is a turn off and aims will say that they aren't. But if someone is willing to let them dictate whether or not you turn them on, you've got to evaluate whetherthey're the sort ood person you want

[LanceC]

Of*.

[Berethor]

While it's not always a deal-breaker, it's a turn-off, that emo hobby is no good, a girl is expected to look pretty and it make a girl look less good, plus it shows that the girl is emotionally unstable, and not strong enough to deal with tough times, without harming herself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9oa46-kUqQ

[Logical_Idolist]

It's not a hobby, asshole.

[name_is_christian]

right off the bat yes it's a turnoff. Humans are instictivly to find mated by physical aaattraction. scars like those alter the body in many ways so it affects ur physical look.
let the guy get to know you prior to showing the scars.

[genericname85]

yeah it is, cause her mental issues can pull anybody down into the abyss of depression with her. how would i know that she won't do that to me, if she looks like that?