s I've been quite involved in the raising of my niece, she's 13 years old... both parents work hard, everyone works hard in the family, but I have the flexibility to work from home or any hour so I've done a lot of babysitting for her, I'm also in charge of her schooling.
We're very close and I love her as if she were my own daughter but she's not... so that's why I can't just tell her certain things because is "not up to me"
I'm the one she trusts the most besides her grandma (my mother) so she's always come to me for many things and she knows that she can count on me, so that part is a bit of a problem for her parents, they say she's taking on me and "the way I am" that's she's being a "smarty pants that likes to talk back" lol... yeah, they're that kind of parents to her, my niece will be always wrong because she's a kid, and parents have the only and last word.
Anyway, she's growing up quick now and there's a lot to tackle on, not only about the world and life, but also our family, "who we are and how we are, what we are" sometimes those are the most difficult talks to have and things to comprehend, she's starting to wonder, realize and find out some things that it would be best to be talked on, on a certain level, and they way she and I like to talk about things, which is with truth and a healthy dose of reality (according to her age and the scope of HER vision of reality) she's just very smart and perceptive, her understanding of things is one that her parents refuse to acknowledge, so I wish I could have these talks with her myself, but the consequences of that would be losing contact with her, which has happened in the past to a certain point.
And she knows it too, my niece. Sometimes she looks at me in a way just to look away, so I know very well she has something in mind that wants to let out, or talk about, but she doesn't, she bottles it up and we carry on. I see a lot about her that reminded me of myself and how I was, as a child, difference is that I always had the chance and the freedom to speak up, my parents never told me that I could not "talk back" or have an opinion, they always had the last word and yes I'd be grounded and lectured but I was never dismissed, never told to shut up, I was allowed to stand up for myself, as long as I didn't cross a line (the chancla was always there and I got it a couple of times, lol)
My niece doesn't have that "luxury" the parents are very controlling, and very manipulative to an emotional level and also harsh, when it comes to restrictions and consequences., pretty much isolate her like a prisoner, like a cinderella and told all the time how it doesn't matter, she's wrong and has no choice.
But is not an extreme situation, there's also great things about them and about it, and luckily is the majority of it, so this is why this bomb has not exploded, but it might happen one day, she has the spirit of a thousan dragons in her, and one day she might just let them loose. and her parents know that, even joke that one day she'll just leave her home first time she can, to never come back and they bet if it will happen by the time she's 16... or 18 when she could legally do so. At the same time they've "planned" all her life and future the way they would want it.
So yeah, I wish I could speak to my niece about these things freely and with the tact that they should be talked with, and that she needs. And I sure wish I could tell the parents all of what I have in mind about the stupid things they've done and are doing but you know... "what do I know, I've never been a parent" and then, the consequences, dare I criticize or point out something about their parenting and they will forbid me again to get close to her, and they might send her away with the witchy relatives, where she hates to be... I guess this is oversharing as well.
we'll manage yes, we'll just go way slower... I can feel she's starting to harbor a bit of resentment and some of "who cares' attitude, not a good mix for what I remember in myself, I just have to be patient and go little by little.
There are two people whom I would like to tell what I think of them.
They are both involved in the same circumstance.
The first person I believe with all my heart acted dishonorably, but will not admit to their dishonor. I have no proof of this person's guilt, but I know enough about the situation to believe wholeheartedly in their guilt.
The second person did, provably, in fact, act extremely dishonorably, morally and legally.
This second person is too much of a coward to even engage in a conversation about the situation without running to the first person for rescue.
I have legal recourse against this second person, but unfortunately, circumstances prevent me from calling him out at this time.
I may get the chance to call out the second person at some time in the future.
My belief is that they will rot in hell unless they repent. There is no chance for forgiveness from me unless they do repent, which is not likely. These people are fully aware of what they've done. My guess is that they have no conscience.
St. Peter will remind them when that day comes.
I'm not perfect myself, but have rectified to my best ability the sins of which I'm aware.
These people can do the same, but refuse to do so. I won't be their final judge, but if I were, my sentence wouldn't be as harsh as I believe their creator's will be. That's their problem, not mine.
I have erected a monument attesting to their dishonor which should last at least as long as the great pyramids.
For a very long time, I was obsessed with justice.
It was eating me alive.
I've tried to forgive them, just to help myself, if nothing else.
That hasn't worked in this case, although forgiveness has helped me in the past regarding other people and circumstances.
For now, I'm just trying to forget they ever existed. That seems to be working to a large extent.
This situation originated in the desire of a departed person to have his legacy passed on to his grandson, who is my son. The disposition of his legacy was illegally rerouted to undeserving recipients.
These two dishonorable people have tarnished not only their own images, but also, by their words, the image of my son's grandfather.
I held the first person in high regard until this act of dishonor. This person conned and used me for many years before showing her true colors. Shame on me for not recognizing her con.
I knew the second person was a snake from the moment I met him, and watched him like a hawk, but even though I have legal recourse against him, because of extenuating circumstances, I am at present powerless against him.
Again, for now, I'm just trying to erase them from my memory.
"They" say that as long as a person is remembered, they still exist.
They won't be remembered in my family line.
Good riddance.
I would tell my parents I was not actually the perfect angel they thought I was. Despite their delusion, I smoked, drank, messed around with boys and (gasp) had premarital sex.
Lmao I was in the complete opposite camp. Even though I was pretty much a good girl and never got in the trouble with the law, didn't have full sex until I was in my 20s (I did things to other girls before then just never to me), didn't drink until I was 21, have never smoked and never done drugs I was considered the problem child (mostly cause I talked back).
@ez-bri-z I had sex at 18 (very respectable age, older than most my friends in fact). And 2 months after that I was invited on a trip to disney world with my boyfriend, his parents, his sister and her boyfriend. My mother actually called his mother to make sure the sleeping arrangements would be separate. TWO MONTHS after we had already started having sex. I reallllllly wish i could tell her. Like really.
Only perfect angel child here 😇
I say anything I want to everyone besides my boss. I would tell him he wears pink way to much
my boobs are bigger though :P
@WowwGirl lmao
I actually do this at work.
I have a monthly chat to the boss session.
Over the year everyone is allowed to ask or tell me anything.
It’s mainly for those reporting to my managers.
But the condition is I get to ask or tell as well.
It works really well and keeps my managers on their toes.
My boss has similsr with my managers, which keeps me on my toes.
wanna see my bewbs?
@Still-alive in a pink shirt
maybe. gonna need some coin first tho
@Still-alive I'll make it hail on you
ill get my sack then
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A few days ago I revealed to @Brainsbeforebeauty that as a teenager I essentially destroyed the promising relationship my mother (a widow) had established with a man. Let's face it, not many guys are willing to become involved with a woman with two kids, especially when one of them is as obnoxious as I was to him. @Brainsbeforebeauty said it wasn't to late to apologize to my mother (who never remarried), which I will do when I visit her next month.
If I could find the man- I have no idea what became of him, I'd apologize to him as well.
I have a female co-worker that I've liked for some time and I'd like to tell her how I feel, but because we have to work together, it would only go well if she returned my affections. If she didn't then it would be very awkward. But if I didn't have to worry about that, then I'd tell her that she occupies a lot of space in my head, that she's breathtaking to look at, that she's one of the few people that can make me smile, that she's a stand out among women, that her sweet voice is soothing to my ears, and that the next guy that ends up with her, if not me, will be one privileged man.
Awwww now I want this to be a thing
It might end up that way, and I think she likes me, but she just got out of a terrible relationship so I'm not sure she's ready for another kick at the can just yet. I wanna give her a little more time before I take that risk. And your questions are great by the way
Thank you! I really appreciate the compliment.
I also totally need a followup to this one to hear when you tell her and get her reaction
You'll get the follow up whether it goes good or bad. You have my word. Keep the good stuff coming in the meantime.
Will do and good luck!
I'm probably overanalyzing the question but I don't see the point of saying anything to someone if there's no consequence. If there's no negative consequence though, I'd ask my wife to cut down on the carbs in her cooking so that I don't have to work out as much. :-D
I think I'd do the wife cooking one. It's a bit tricky since I was raised never to insult the chef and also to finish every last grain of rice in a bowl. I'm not a picky eater at all but those two things combined with my wife's cooking make it a bit difficult to stay lean as I get older. :-D She has no problems with it since she walks like hours every day while I sit on a computer.
I might be something in between you two. I'm driven by tact but at the same time have a habit of blurting things out as soon as they pop up in my head. Well, my balance is like this. Say a woman asks me if her pants make her ass look big. My super-fast response which balances tactfulness with speedy responses is like, "I believe the pants are innocent."
Always have a preloaded response for questions like that.
"Who cares how they make you look in them, I'm more concerned on how I can get you back out of them and into bed with me."
See? Sexy and avoids the question WHILE making her feel good about her sexual attractiveness to you.
I got a preloaded tactful answer for that one after mulling over it for some time. It's "no". There's no deception required because the question wasn't, "Does my ass look big in these pants?" It was, "Do these pants make my ass look big?" When I was unprepared my swift response was "the pants are innocent," but with time to think about it, I optimized it to a simple "no".
I've started to prepare more after learning the hard way. For example, say a colleague no one likes and ends up showing to work with a haircut that looks horrible on them. Then they ask, "Do you like my haircut?" I thought about this situation a lot and came up with the most tactful answer that doesn't require the slightest deviation from my true thoughts: "It really matches your personality!"
Especially when I was a teen, I felt the need to apologize to strangers all the time for him including people like waiters and waitresses... "Sorry about my dad! He has no filter. He's actually a decent guy if you get to know him." Then I'd try to scold him and he's like, "What's the big deal? I am just being genuine with my thoughts. I was being completely honest."
Sorry to hear that. Maybe I don't like him so much now. I got disowned by my mother for dating a black girl. She was a big member of this Southern Baptist church that made racial slurs a lot towards black people. I didn't think she was so close-minded since she married my father who is Japanese. I haven't spoken to her in over 20 years.
Cheers! Well, seems like we share that in common a bit with traditional outlooks conflicting with our parents. I have this communication style where if someone shares something that troubles them, I try to respond with an account of my own as my attempt to indirectly show that I might have experienced something at least vaguely similar and can empathize or at least sympathize somewhat. It might be a flawed style of communication though since, every once in a blue moon, I get accused by someone of shifting the focus away from their troubles and that wasn't my intention at all. I just wanted to give them a sense that they aren't alone.
The last girl I was in love with. I am bi. Her belief is that you are either straight or gay. There is no bi sexuality. And she made it clear that she could never kiss a guy who has had a dick in his mouth. I would tell her that it is wrong to deny someone's sexual identity and I would tell her she shouldn't kiss any straight guys because they have eaten other pussies and she's not a lesbian. Finally I would tell her that past partners are in the past and have no influence on current relationships. What matters is honesty, loyalty, commitment, and willingness to compromise and treat each other as equals.
I would be the same way as I do now. I can say what I want to anyone but that doesn'tewn that I will or do. There is no reason to be uncouth or just plain ignorant where that I think I can get away with saying something that I'm just going to go out of who I am and do that. let's be honest, if people knew how to communicate and can be direct in what they say how to say it, combined with people being less sensitive about what is said to them, there would be a lot more understanding in the world today.
Just one man's thoughts.✌🏾
I wish to tell my grandparents that I hate them for siding with my abusive mother, and that I only speak to them out of civility and that I will be glad that I won't have to do it anymore once they pass away.
*hug*
Thank you, it's ok now.
I've already said it to that person and it fealt incredible. What would you say to me without the veil of civility, about my extreme and very brash discussions with you because well I get carried away a lot of times because I can't lash out my thoughts very often.
Hmm, without the veil of civility?
You are an incredibly well spoken person with a lot of incredibly hateful and, in my opinion, psychotic thought processes especially about the ideas of killing people. Im on board with you wanting to be nationalistic even if I personally disagree, but where you completely put me in the opposite camp to you is your almost obsessive compulsion to punish those different than you including, but not limited, to murder and the loss of human lives.
To me that's a waste of a brilliant mind to harbor so much anger over a narrow point of view. You are so much better than this and I'd love to see you use it towards something more constructive.
Your words still aren't genuine but disguised in immaculate grammar. Killing people that were your enemies was normal until the Geneva convention and the false illusions and benefits of democratic society were established and engrained into our minds. Are you calling me retarded? I have Asperger's but that's a false diagnosis by a sandnig, that's why I'm channeling my anger towards my goal in life which is to become a politician, I've already contributed a lot to youth rallies and I take a leave from school some days to pursue some goals, in our time we need a strong orator that guides people towards a righteous path, a genuine person who speaks his mind and deeply cares about his people. I try to learn from my favourite leaders like Sir Oswald Mosely, listen to one of his speeches.
https://youtu.be/sPB1jy4vmFA
To the police.
it was me I buried him at the following coordinates
You should have been at my firearms renewal interview lol.
Owning and shooting 0.5cal (50BMG) is not the norm here 😂😂
@ez-bri-z ref update - hugs
I would like to one day sit down with a Trumpist or Q anoner (prob the same) and delve into peacefully why the fck…
😏. Already proved ya wrong bud.
Well their prophecies came true, the white house is run by a pedophile that eats children and overrun with Jews, even though they are just 4% of the American population.
Watch info wars and you'll be enlightened. They're still going strong.
Those are news outlet that cater to left wing self hating degenerates. War is coming you all should be prepared, and be proud to be Texans.
https://youtu.be/P-Ns1jjBGvU
I would tell my mom God is going to make her pay for abusing my me and my dad and I am glad she is dead. She is still alive but I’ve been waiting for her to die for 17 years because she made our lives a living hell.
damn. i hope you find your peace some day
@Still-alive she has Alzheimer’s now so she might get moved into a retirement home in a few months or years, if she is still alive than.
Have you seriously thought about therapy? it can really help you
@Still-alive they cost too much but I read books on therapy cause on session can probably equal the price of 5 books
its true they do cost. i guess you don't have insurance to cover it then?
@Still-alive I think I can do it myself with bible meditation and book reading
hmm if you think so. not impossible.
I would tell my father what a good role model he was and to thank him for helping me become the person I am.
To a certain nameless individual learn the difference between being joking and just straight up being a creep.
yeah lol
Yeah those people!
@update aww well i guess we all out our little peculiarities
One of my concept languages. I say “Hlureh” and “Gwao ow waw”
The language I demonstrated is based one creature sounds
Update 2: marriage is hard and not for the feint of heart. Respect.
I would tell big bird he was way cooler when he was less fluffy.
To my friends with benefits, express my desires in very explicit words!
I would say the most SIMPING speech to Belle delphine or Taylor swift!..
I'll say to my old teachers that I always wanted to fuck them 😅
I would say this to my exFuck you bitch. You are a slut. You slept with another guy when you were dating me. Fuck you
That would be to all the snowflakes, cancel culture nitwits, and others in the related ilk. . . Grow up, get a real life and stay the hell out of other lives. You're human too.
Taiwan is a country. So is Hong Kong. Tibet should be free and so the Uyghurs
I say anything anytime to who deserves the cutting truth fuck feelings
Not sure, I’ve never been one to refrain from speaking my mind
I'd sit a few generals down and set them straight.
How can I answer without giving details?
Suppose I don't want to, how would I do that?
I want to talk to a guy about how he's and his cronies are severely fucking up the country.
Chuffed?
bite me..
you dont exist my eyes..
My boss I'd beat the fuck out of him
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