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If someone shares their experience and you turn it around to share your own similar story, is that being selfish or just relating? (Page 2)
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It depends. Some people, more men, exchange war stories. More women want to vent to attract sympathy and want neither solutions nor relating.
I dont need sympathy and a lot of the time I dont want advice/solutions but I do like knowing if the other person can relate. Similiarities in views and experiences has always fascinated me
I just survived the Wuhan Red Death and and a septic UTI at the same time. I have gotten a few "Oh Shit's" recently. Hard for anyone to relate.
Yea i dont wanna relate to that. I’d say “I hope you feel better” then change the subject 😂
I do it a lot too and it’s not selfish. I’m just letting the person know that I’ve experienced something similar so they don’t feel alone in their experience.
Okay thats a good way to put it
Omg same. I do not know how to comfort crying adults. Like do not call me… cause I will not be the supportive friend you need. It’ll just be awkward.
Exactly 😂 I can be there for a kid but I don't know about the rest. I said to
Someone that i could be there for my guy but i actually remember one cried and I just saf there and he got mad and said he’d never cry around me again 💀 All i could say was “aww dont cry” like wtf else did he expect
Exactly like I’d rather not say anything at all. Than to say something stupid and I don’t wanna fake it.
I do the same thing and people sometimes get upset with me when I try to relate. Some people just want you to listen and shut up, but it’s hard to do that when you want to help.
You are like an onion and every day we all get to see another layer. It is natural to talk about a similar experience that you had. I do this too.
😂😂😂
I wouldn't consider it selfish, you're just relating a story
Mmkay :)
I say mostly relating unless they are try 1 up with something better like you might have one kid and a girl says she has two and try relating to you or something like that.
Oh nah not 1 upping
I kinda do the same as you I just ask why before saying me too lol
I always felt like I was relating
I dont think i ask why because i really dont care to know why 💀
I love the honestly and brutality.
I just can't make myself do that to someone who hasn't wronged me 😅
Guess I'm losing my edge 😆
I dont think im wrong them by not asking why. Its just if they tell me why, it’ll go in one ear and out the other. I dont really try to remember facts about others unless i’m dating them
If giving credit where credit is due then it is just relating, otherwise bordering on selfishness… But that is for other people, you’re not selfish…. are you?
You tell me
not in my eyes... You have given me no reason to think differently.
Thank you
I will call it as comforting coz i will feel i am not the only one going through somebody has also gone through it and they would handled it differently so i can learn from it
Aww thats sweet
Dont change yourself
it really depends on the specific energy given for those that dont care they'll unecessarily burn bridges and that's bottom line i know for me personally i sure as hell dont wanna deal with em
I only burn bridges if i dont care to see the mf in my future
I guess it’d depend on the situation as well as how you do it.
That's how people relate to each other, it's not selfish
Okay good
That is completely relating. Not being selfish at all.. it's good to share the same experience
Thank yoi
:) no worries
I'll have to ponder this one dizzy, I'm not sure and I do it a lot
Lol ok
No it's not you're just letting them know you share the experience. I do it too🤣🤣
Lol okay
relating is normal in my opinion, i think everyone has done it once or twice in their lifetime...
I think most people have good intentions when they do that and are just excited to relate to you
Yea i share cause i like to share 🤣
I think it's about a pattern, how often do they do it, etc.
Oh well i got that pattern lookin like a mf checker/chess board 🤣
😂😂
(should I comment? am i being selfish or just relating) cool no comment.
It depends, are you sharing it because you want to relate or just because they have finished speaking and now you are telling them your story?