Do you find yourself saying sorry for things that are out of your control?

[Anonymous]

I guess you could say everything is in your control but, I do believe there are a lot of things that aren't. So do you find yourself saying "sorry" for those things, and have you tried to stop?

I know I have a problem with that, and not sure how to stop

[Guy13]

Firstly, you have to stop that because if one is a repetitive apologizer they are deemed as disingenuous.-In other words, you are never truly sorry if it is a major faux pas that requires a believable apology..."I'm sorry for your loss" means Nothing coming from an over-apologizing individual.

Often, simple courtesy can eliminate the need for apology so you may want to start there. One does not have to "I'm sorry for being late on our call" IF one DMs about an hour before notifying Business Mate that you are running 15 minutes late. NO apology necessary and straight to Business with every intention of ending the Call on time... And the same is applicable for one party forgotten on group emails... just forward the damn thing-they'll figure it out and believe you me know you are not perfect !!!

Do not be an over indulgent, self-protective, insecure, and HEARTLESS over-apologizing individual who simply want s to hear their voice echoing... Your confidence will rise as you desist in degrading yourself and others will enjoy a more positive force in their life. And, they will believe that you actually have a conscience and know how to feel and when to express it with a HEARTFILLED understanding. :-) Good luck with it.

[mobiusforniner]

Considering both my parents beat the shit out of me for stuff my siblings did, just because im "responsible", yes, i find myself saying sorry for a lot of things which are outside my purview. Its made me a successful person, but im always extremely anxious and constantly disappointed by people for failing to meet my expectations.

[Sour-rose]

I used to back in the day? Now, no more fake apologies. No more fake smiles. How I got to stop saying sorry for things that wasn't out of my control was... i just don't care. You don't like the tax of this product ya buyin'? Idc, fk off already. You don't like how my pants are sagging? Idgaf, stay mad and look at my cute underwear.

[Kori1236]

I am Canadian, saying sorry is practically encoded into my DNA. I apologize for things that aren’t even my fault. It is something I’m working on though

[TheVigilantOne]

I’m always saying sorry, I say sorry for speaking, sorry for doing this that an the other, I’m sorry for breathing, I’m sorry that I’m sorry. It’s usually due to abuse, you’re so frightened of the abuser that you just keep saying sorry even if you’ve done nothing wrong well that’s my experience anyway.

[Mynameisbobby]

I did when I was little my mother and sister told me that everything was my fault, so yeah I'm still trying to get over doing this not as bad as it used to be though.

[Hollywoodhillz]

Sometimes, yes. Don't beat yourself up, though. Give yourself a break.

[GreatnessBack]

Ha. I don't even say sorry for things IN my control. lol.

[Asker]

Yikes

[exitseven]

I do that sometimes.

[Jltakk]

All the time. Its a horrible habit

[sheenagwapa]

yes often

[Anonymous]

Never

[xJayleenx]

All the time