I texted my friends with benefits that I had caught feelings and to say good bye he now want to talk in person, should I?

[abbyrawrs]

I've had a fbw for a year and a half. I ened up falling for him due to mixed signs. Not small ones, he had me sleeping over basically every night, he'd buy me things and take me out to eat, had even kissed me a few time. I hit my breaking point when he we were talking. I made the comment that he's probably friend zeroed girls what were interested interested in him. He had the comment that they knew were they stood just like I knew I was just a 'plaything'... I left him alone for a few days before coming to the decision I'll just be honest tell him how I felt and that I'm sorry but this is my good bye as im should I just threw away our friendship. He said I haven't thrown away a friendship and he appreciated everything I had said. He would like to talk in person at least once if that was okay, but I have already said my goodbye. Should I even be considering talking to him in person? I highy doubt it'd be because he got feelings as well as I don't think I could continue friendship knowing he'd want us to continue to fool around. Do I stick with my gut or do I give him a chance to say what he wants?

[Effably]

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Will you be content if you don't or will you be there wondering and tormenting yourself? Had it been me, I'd go. Even if I don't expect a good outcome I'd rather know.

Realistically you'll talk about where you stand. That seems like a healthy, mature thing to do.

[abbyrawrs]

It is the mature thing to do, i dont disagree on that one. we unsally do talk things out when we have issue's that arise. My only problem is my anxiety acting up from confessing how I fell. Being an over thinker can sometimes cloud you'd judgment instead of clead them. Thank you for putting it in a different angle for me.

[AviatorTom]

Your gut is right more than 90% of the time. Stick with it.

He's had a good thing with you... sex every day... and he would like to continue that... with no strings. And that's not what you want now.

[abbyrawrs]

He did have a good thing with me but its not my fault he crossed the line. I had rules put in place and he broke them not me. If he would of kept with the rules our friends with benefits would of lasted way longer.

[AviatorTom]

@abbyrawrs No one is blaming you. Your gut sounds like the right to do.

[abbyrawrs]

I didn't think anyone was blaming me. I took the right steps, I just don't understand why he wants to talk about it. It's not that hard to find a replacement.

[KrakenAttackin]

@abbyrawrs. What were the rules?

[abbyrawrs]

No sleeping over, no going on dates together. no buying things for each other, no random kisses outside of fun time. I thought they were reasonable.

[KrakenAttackin]

@abbyrawrs. Wow, sounds ideal to me.

[abbyrawrs]

They seem pretty standard. His excuse for me sleeping over was I was to late now and I was to draining. So no buy was broken when I to the store with him. Said it was easier to just put my one item with his instead of doing too different transactions. When he made a habit of it. The no dates. That one was sneaky. Told me he needed something out of town asked I'd go. He took me out to eat and bought me a few things then said oh this outing was for you. The no kissing was broken when I was reaching for a cup for coffee. I asked what that was for his comment was oh I thought tgats what you wanted. He did it again after a few weeks when we were having a normal conversation.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for the mho

[KrakenAttackin]

He doesn't want to lose a super easy piece of ass. Also,. let's be real, no man has respect for a fuck buddy, he will never take you seriously.

[abbyrawrs]

Oh ya I know that. Honestly I was hoping he would of just said I understand 👍 and leave it at that. I just find it easier to cut ties then to drag it out but I guess he wants to drag it out when I've already said what i wanted with a bye. why can't he just text me what he wants to say.