Guys if your currently 40 and dont want children and a woman near your age doesn't want kids either would you still skip her for a younger girl?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

No, I would not skip her on the children issue alone.

I am 46, I have two kids and I have no desire to want anymore. I have tried dating single mothers and it never works out for me, because of the kids honestly. It difficult as a single guy like me whose kids are grown and not their own, I have a lot of free time and single mothers just don't.

I have also tried and dating women in their 40's neither married with no kids, and they are difficult to date was well... because hell they got into their 40's without ever having to worry about anyone but themselves. Basically, they made it this far into their lives being single for a reason, and those reasons have nothing to do with me. They are set in their ways and lifestyles, and they tend to be less compromising when it comes to their relationships.

Now when a woman of any age, and especially ones in their 40's, say she wants to have kids, I skip over them immediately. Because other than her wanting me as a sperm donor I have no desire to having or raising kids again.

So, it's a double edge sword in my experience... let's say you're 40 and the other women are 36 or 26, all about the same as far as looks go. The 26-year-old I would be least interested in having a serious relationship with, and it would be a toss-up between the 36- and 40-year-old. It would really depend upon who I thought would treat me better.

Again, in my experience the 40-year-old, tend to be more realistic about their expectations. The 40-year-olds tend to be more grounded, because they know even if they were all of that, there is a reason they are 40 and still single and struggling to find a good guy. So even if they have a lot to offer, they know they can't be all that they once thought they once were, or they would have found it by now. But some never figure this out.

36-year-olds, well they tend to be less compromising, and are still holding on to some unrealistic expectations. I just had a 36 year and tell me that she still gets interest from guys 10 years or more younger than her. She was saying this for not good reasons, within the context of the conversation it was not called for. So that tells me there is a reason why your still single right there, because of course you do, and on some level that really matters to you and that is probably why you can't find good men.

But by 40, this same woman will be ruined on men all together, because her whole life she dated the wrong types, and never learned how to honestly treat a good man right. Because good men are not going to just hang around chasing you, because you think you could land a 26-year-old man that going to treat you better.

So, age is not the primary factor, it's your ability to treat a good man right that matters the most.

[boggboss]

The way your question is designed is essentially if u had the choice to be with a better looking girl would u as the only reason a guy would go for a younger girl if he didn't want kids is because he preferred how she looked

[Asker]

No I would go for what would suit me and not for looks.

[boggboss]

Which is good for u but if the question is based on the choice if age I would assume u and the younger girl are equally suited

[Asker]

You mean he would go for the younger girl cause she looks better?

[boggboss]

If thats why he wants a younger girl yes

[Asker]

Okay then.

[boggboss]

That would be the only reason a guy goes for a younger girl no

[Asker]

What are the other reasons?

[boggboss]

The reasons guys tend to go for younger women is for kids looks or sometimes because they carry less baggage

[Asker]

Well I don't have baggage and my looks are average and don't want kids, but yeah okay then

[boggboss]

No thats what I mean I imagine the reason he would is because he wants a younger looking girl if that's not his goal its more likely he picks u ad most people tend to date in their age range

[Asker]

Yeah I got it and thanks a lot it was helpful

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Hm. Need more info. If I new NOTHING about them and there was a younger, more attractive one, then yes I would. If I knew them and I liked the milf's personality more, I would chose the milf.

[Asker]

When a woman is 40 she is called a milf?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I would personally call "milf" any woman that "looks" mature. Regardless of her age or if she has children.

[Anonymous]

I would like a 40 year old woman now that doesn’t want kids since I did that already a long time ago but I think he would stay close to his age if he doesn’t want kids