So I've always been just average in looks?

[Anonymous]

Even when I was much younger, I never got hit on too much by the most desired ethnicity, men of Nordic, Scandinavian features.

It was always the two least desires races (you can probably guess which ones I'm referring to so to avoid getting insulted I won't mention them) that hit on me so much, no offense but I was never attracted to them. Even if they were the last options for me, I still wouldn't go for something I never wanted.

Once again I went to a dating site and filtered my search to just white, European, Nordic or Scandinavian types. I still got hit on but not so much, only got 3 emails from them. I was excited for a moment (it was like a ''yes finally, my type messages me, hits on me'') but it was short lived by the disappointment that neither of them wanted kids. My only option is the remaining white, Italian man (yes he has light eyes) that wants to meet me and supposedly would like to have kids. That's my only small victory.

If I never had those types of white men going crazy for me (just on the rare occasion), does that really mean I've always been just average overall?

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Getting just 3 emails was nothing in comparing to getting 30+ emails from the least desired races. If I were to put any race, I would get hit on like crazy from the groups I don't want.

[exitseven]

Are you a racist? maybe that is what turns people off.

[Asker]

This is exactly what I was afraid of getting called. I have friends of all races so nope I wouldn't be a racist. I don't mind when it comes to friendships.
When it's about who I'm attracted to then I can't help that. I'm attracted to what I like. The men that hit on me so much, I'm just simply not attracted to those types.

[exitseven]

Okay I am sorry about that. It's just that you have limited yourself to people of a certain race. That is the very definition of racism.
I understand having preferences as well. You don't say what your ancestry is. Maybe Scandinavians mostly like tall, blue eyed blondes and if that is not you then you are out of luck.

[Asker]

I'm have both European and Indigenous ancestry. I'm a mestiza (hispanic) of a light skin tone. It's not white but it's not that tanned either unless I spend too much time on the sun, 5'7 tall and dark eyes, wavy mid-dark brown hair.
I don't know what to tell you. I've seen other hispanic women or even darker women that got a Scandivanian boyfriend or even married one.

[exitseven]

Relationships are maybe the hardest thing in the world to get right. There are billions of people on the planet and there is only a very small fraction of them that will make good partners. Between the genetics there is also the effect a person's environment has on their temperament.

[Asker]

and out of those relationship, very few make it to engagement and marriage, never making it past the initial early infatuation stage. It's like the equivalent of who becomes a recognized author and rough drafts getting rejected, never making it to even the editorial section.

[exitseven]

It is a wonder that mankind survived past the ice age

[Anonymous]

No race is least desired. That's a racist statement. Personal preference is one thing. Why do average people expect supermodels to hit on them is another.

[Asker]

I'm not asking for a Justin Timberlake. I'm sure there are average Nordic, white men too. That would be enough for me too. He can have those features and still be average too.
I have no problems having friends of any race, as friends but when it comes to what I'm attracted to that's different.

[Opinion Owner]

That's fine. No one stopped you from liking who you like. But deeming certain races are "unattractive" in general terms is racist. You did not say it was your personal opinion. You said it as almost a fact. Which isn't the case.

[Asker]

I didn't say unattractive but certain groups are the types not the majority of women go for. It's even shown on a graph, statistically proven. That's not my words, that's the chart right here. Even my group (hispanic) goes for either other hispanics or white men, not so much towards the other groups. White men have a thing for Asian women more than us. That's not racism.
www.datingadvice.com/.../online-dating-race-statistics

I guess it can be a difficult feat if an average person gets someone higher than them. It can make your self confidence increase for a moment. It's like a ''wow'' special moment. You would probably feel flattered for a moment too if a woman above your league was after you too. If an average person gets with an another average person that's not really a feat.

[Asker]

The chart clearly shows which types of women go for the men I'm not attracted too, it's usually women of that ethnicity too.

[Opinion Owner]

Again. It varies from nation, culture, upbringing and sample size. No race is "undesired" or "least" desired. Individuals are. It may be due to collective individuals rather than race. It is a racist statement nonetheless without any nuance. It's crazy when women are oblivious to their racism and discrimination.

[Asker]

Though if I were to somehow came to loving the person, I might make an exception. That's the only time, your mind forgets it all, goes back to being at the innocent stage of not distinguishing the ethnicity, but you're madly in love by then.

[Opinion Owner]

Again, I don't care who you like. That's your choice. The only problem I have with you is generalising certain races are unattractive.

[4ngelic]

girl what

[Asker]

I really can't help what I'm attracted to.

[4ngelic]

there's nothing wrong with prefering like nordic looking dudes but the way you phrase stuff is real weird

[Asker]

It's partially my disappointment for years of them not hitting on me too much, being practically invisible to them. In comparing to one of my friends (she was a lot shorter than me, hispanic too) and other women that used to get hit on by them more.

[Asker]

I was always hit on by men I'm not attracted to. That's the disappointment so it makes me wonder if maybe I'm just not a very attractive woman myself at all.

[Anonymous]

Where are you living?