A guy I liked dumped me for not wanting kids and said I'm not young?

[Anonymous]

So I never wanted kids nor I ever dreamed of it, it's something I just never had on my to do list.

So I'm 31 and the guy I liked was like 42 or something and he stated that he wanted kids and also stated that I wasn't young.

I was okay with him being honest about how he wanted children and I wouldn't hold anyone back on that but at the same time my choice of life was to be child free but he took it as it was something really ugly and said that I'm not young and my chances of having kids or husband is gonna run out.

I thought his comments were really personal and wasn't nessasary to overly state my life choice or my age just cause it was different from his.

I feel like I have my rights to choose the life I wanna have, it's not like most of us are gonna always be young or rich or other elements that a human being wishes that wouldn't run out but we at least get to choose how we want to live.

My family never lets this go and I'm kinda tired of them too. Like my sister had kids cause she really wanted them and is really happy cause she got what she wanted but my family don't see me that way...

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1 y

And no sexist answers.

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1 y

I was actually gonn call him and break it off but before that he called up my family and somehow they got angry with me and the situation turned out so wiered

[OceanGirl21]

He’s just projecting. You still have time, woman have kids into their earlier side of 40s. It’s him that had no time and so he’s being a bit manipulative and trying to rush you. That’s a big red flag in all honesty, nobody with the right intentions would want their kids to have a parent that didn’t feel ready if they truly cared like they should.

[Asker]

is it weird for a guy to be that cautious for kids?

[OceanGirl21]

Yep I’d say so

[OceanGirl21]

It’s weird that he tried to guilt you about it, for sure! Red flag undoubtedly. Stick around and you’ll regret it I reckon. But a positive is that it’s good that people are honest about what they want, that’s how it should be, everyone knows where they stand then. Many men do that without the guilt trip though.

[devilish-cutie]

A lot of people will not understand you, even your own family, that is the sad truth, especially if they think opposite than you
But u just gotta be u n strong in who u r

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing that perspective.

[ColHathi]

I'm sorry, what's the question?

I agree with you, if that's what you're looking for.

[Asker]

My family doesn't forget him they seemed to have liked him more than I actually did. What should I do when my family disagres with me?

[ColHathi]

Ooof, no idea. What is there to do, really :/ I'd let them know my thoughts on the issue and let that be that, after which I'd probably either try to ignore further stupidity from them, or cut them out of my life until they can cut the shit out.

[Asker]

He left but the clash with my family never stopped.

[ColHathi]

Ugh, that sucks :(

[Jamie05rhs]

Sorry to hear that.

I don't want children either, though.

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing.

[Jamie05rhs]

You're very welcome!

[Anonymous]

He was kind of harsh in his delivery on that... but not wanting to have kids would be a deal breaker for a lot of guys and is a valid reason to break up.

[Asker]

I was actually gonna dump him but before I called him to break it off he called up my family and friends and everyone got mad at me.