For instance: my first name is Joanne, but I really do not like it being used like this, (most of the time) for many reasons. Mainly due to my mum/parents, and it being a trigger and a trauma response. Hence why I prefer Jo.
I've heard this from many people before.
Does it evoke a sense of dread for you? Or do you feel calm/nothing?
What do you feel, when your name is said?
Does it depend on tone of voice and/or who's saying it and why?
What feelings, if any, come up, when you hear it?
Why do you like/not like hearing it/in that way?
Have you done anything to try and change how you feel about it etc?
Have you changed your name? Do you prefer to use a nickname? If so, why?
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How do you feel when someone says your (full) name?
I'm a combination. I feel aggravated if someone (anyone) shortens my first name. It feels very personal.
I don't like seeing my full name (first, middle, and last) in it's written form. Maybe it evokes some anxiety because that's how it's written on tax forms or contacts that involve money. So, I cringed and felt a little like my personal info was abused when the car dealer handed me a receipt for an oil change and it was written out to me in my full name.
Where I live, elders are addressed as Mr. or Mrs. (last name). That's how my children's friends address me and that's how I address anyone my parents' age or someone I don't know.
Maybe I'm uptight, but it does irk me when a receptionist at the pediatric office addresses me as, "Mom." I don't appreciate any nicknames like Hon or Dear or Sweety. I know the person is trying to be nice, but I think it's disrespectful.
On the internet/social media, the only place where people know my real name is on Facebook; and those people are my relatives and my siblings' friends. On all other social media platforms, I go by another name, all the same, except for this one. This is the only website where none of my future name and biological name is known, at least, I'm not sure if my future name is in my bio.
See, when my mum does it, it evokes those memories, from my childhood, and REFUSED to call me by Jo. Even though I get everyone else to address me as such. Her reasoning, because I named you like that.
EVEN THOUGH my sisters name is Jennnifer, and automatically gets downsized to Jenny and of course even Jen.
But God forbid, shorten mine to something that doesn't make my stomach flip, every time it's said!! 🤦🏻♀️
My partner doesn’t call me by my name. He calls me by the fake name I gave him when we first met just cause it’s funny. I know it’s something serious if he uses my legal name let alone my full name.
I DON'T like my name. It's unusual, but it's on all my official government documents. Therefore, only strangers can call me by that name. My friend's call me by another name. And my family call me by a childhood diminutive name!
I don't think that much into this cause mostly people know you by your name it's given anyway so it's not like we could do much about it other than solving with communication if it comes as discomfort.😅
I have a hard time remembering other peoples names. When I am in a social setting, I give my full first name.. when I am in a work setting, I give my nickname
So when someone comes up to me and called me by my full name or my nickname, I at least have a Contacts concerning where they’re from, Social or Work setting.
