Would you consider it a red flag if a person has never been married nor have had children by 40 or 45?

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Why or why not?

Raaj4you · Accepted Answer

No, it's not. It depends on the person. Everyone has different reasons. Some folks want to study more. Mostly ambitious career oriented men and women delay dating, marriage and kids.  Some are unemployed. Some are employed but have low salary. Some earn more but they don't believe in dating and marriage. Some people may have sexual / health issues so they don't date. Some are serious but they don't get the right man / woman. Some are scared of responsibilities  Some are married but don't want to have kids. Some are seriously dating but they want a perfect partner.

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

Depends what they've been doing those years. Were they in prison? Out in the mountains? Researching a paper?  Doesn't have to be a red flag.

molonski2 · Answer

Ohhh sht NO ! In todays world? If I could be born again , that would be me , I think the question pins too much faith in both marriage and children , now I have 2 children and was a father at 28 , which was probably the social norm at the time , I wouldn't feel even remotely forced into it if I were able to go again..

I think of Thailand where I am , as representational , 25 years ago , to find a woman of 40 without a kid / marriage , would have been considered " old maid " type stuff , these days there are plenty. In the Western world , certainly for men , marriage is far too risky , too much can happen on a wim.

The people you have pictured with cats , sorry this is stereotypical nonsense , there are some great people male and female in this category , and I'd say that I admire their independence.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I wouldn't say it's a red flag, but I do have a theory about why women who are single later in life find it increasingly more difficult to maintain relationships the older they get.

It's pretty simple. These women get used to being on their own and living an independent lifestyle.
They're usually stuck in their ways and have a really hard time learning to have someone to answer to when they've been on their own for so long.
(I would also say it's hard for them to let a man take over the masculine role of a provider, but that's up for debate)

lightbulb27 · Answer

yea I was 5x when married 1st time with few relationships, so it's a red flag. Unless person was on some kinda mission, it means they lack experience or have some hangups or lack social skills, harbour some wounds, or just don't know how to date. Something is up.

it is frustrating as heck sometimes. luck gets better when you are your best and available... all the time, with something to offer... emotionally, ready to strike up conversations... then things get easier.

there's a reason some people get married 2x 3x and others none.

nolookingbackx · Answer

I would kind of question them and wonder what could be the reason behind it. It doesn't have to be a red flag but I feel like sometimes it's good to know someone's dating history. It is important to me if someone is looking for something serious and if someone's relationships lasted very shorty, it also tells me something important.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

No. there's a lot of reasons: it’s not everyone’s vision, not everyone is super family-oriented, a traumatic life event, didn’t find the right person or they might be infertile. That’s when you ask a person why they don’t have children or why they’ve never been married before making it a red flag.

nastyb · Answer

not 100% definite. but you're more likely to find bad apples within the unmarried older crowds than in unmarried younger crowds. I"m also going to tell you that not everyone who is married is high quality.

But you're gonna find more higher quality people within the married population

kylee2437 · Answer

It could be a red flag. It shows that someone had emotional unavailability for a long bit of their prime adult life - and I think it differs with each person but it’s something you should question and explore why they chose not to date

madhatters4 · Answer

no not really. one having children or not having children is not really important to me. two i think the days of getting married very early and if not it being some sort of issue are rather old school

Anemone978 · Answer

Not really... but if they had no long term relationships then yeah I would defo see it as a red flag.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Not everyone is going to want the same thing as everyone else. If that’s considered as a red flag, then I’ll happily claim that as my red flag. I’m 30 and never had kids or been married. Hell, I never been on dates.

Meropatrick · Answer

Its ok not all people feel the need to get married and have kids. Although its a nice Thing to have a family. But Some people dont have that urge

far2gud4u · Answer

If they haven't had a serious relationship then maybe... otherwise its just a piece of paper and doesn't matter...

Avicenna · Answer

LMAO, I'd much prefer to date a woman who has no kids. And if she's never been married, that is a plus too.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

No. For some people kids and marriage isn't what they want.

BlackJeep · Answer

40 and no kids is a huge green flag 40 and never married would raise some questions. Not necessarily a red flag

Jersey2 · Answer

I think over the next ten years it will be far more common than in the past. It’s sad I think though. Lots of lonely 50 year olds coming up m

ariadneR · Answer

Nope not at all. It's me, and I'm completely happy with the decisions I've made

Dargil · Answer

Not necessarily. there are reasons including career or past experiences.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Not at all. I don’t know that person or their life. Frankly, it’s no one’s business. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Christoff92 · Answer

No. My friend got married at 48. Age stereotyping is a shame.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

No I'm 36 this year never been married or have any kids

dolemite58 · Answer

nope i don’t plan on getting married or having kids so it’s nice to meet women that are on the same page.

Unit1 · Answer

That's me in 12 years. Not sweating it.

meemAda · Answer

Time rushes by, I only care about you.

ShesRad80 · Answer

not at all

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Nope.

EaterPeter · Answer

Nope

In_Trance · Answer

No i wouldn't

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