I’ve been dating my narcissist boyfriend (44) for over a year now. Pretty much since the beginning he’s been saying things like “i’m done with you”, “we’re over”, etc. at least on a biweekly basis. Then he’ll ghost me for a couple of days, a couple of weeks, or even a month and a half. Then he’ll pop back around like nothing ever happened.
sometimes he’ll catch me off guard and make it seem like a more sincere break up by saying things like “thank you for being so nice to me. I wish you all the best.” But this time he said, “I want your mailing address so I can send you money for the things you bought me…we’re over.”
I don’t know if he’s again trying to switch things up to catch me off guard or what exactly is going on. We had a really nice evening a few nights ago and he was being surprisingly pleasant. Then the next night he was sending me on multiple beer runs throughout the evening and he asked me if I wanted to hang out and I told him I was exhausted and I kind of just wanted to go home. I wasn’t rude about it. I said it very calmly. And this was after he had told me initially that he was too exhausted to hang out, but still wanted me to do Beer runs for him. Apparently this pissed him off because then the next morning is when he sent me the message saying he wanted to send me money for buying him stuff and we’re done.
should I expect him to come back like he always does? My therapist doesn’t think he’s done with me since he’s got me trained to be his personal assistant.
