Do you feel like the opposite sex ever tries to understand the pain of being male or female?

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When you are having conversations with the opposite sex about the struggles of being male or female, do you think the other side tries to understand your pain or are they really dismissive of it? Have you ever felt validated or seen in explaining what it's really like to be male or female sometimes to the other gender.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

The truth is our minds don't work the same so I doubt we'll ever truly be able to understand one another.

What I desire in a partner is simply:

Chemistry (similarities like similar interests, views, goals in life {where we want to be in 20 years}, style of communication, sense of humor, etc.), kindness, and physical attraction (I don't believe this is shallow. Everyone has preferences for physical attraction, and I don't think it's a hard ask for a girl to care for her health and appearance. I do my best with mine as well.)

However, girls seem to have much more unreasonable desires like:

Wanting a man to be financially well off, pay for all dates and take her out often to "cute places" as well as get her gifts for each occasion (like Valentine's, anniversary, birthday, Christmas, not to mention every other weekend), be extremely funny (I see it on like every other dating profile "We'll get along if you can make me laugh, swipe right if you're funny, things I look for in a relationship "a sense of humor), over 6ft tall, expecting a partner to be perfect in every category (a lot of girls tend to leave as soon as you do something small that annoys them. Because they get so much attention online, they feel they can find another guy quickly).
I don't know. Maybe I'm being too biased and hateful, but I've observed too much to think otherwise. It's why there's a war on the sexes right now and there's a movement called "passport bros" that is growing quickly.

Hulk_kitty · Accepted Answer

I never try to understand someone else's pain, because I have never been in that situation or that person. I can't understand what it is like to be women, cause I never been a women.

So for people to say they understand, is utter bull, if you have never experienced that situation. Understanding comes from a place of experience, and not thinking or imagining what it could feel like it.

I don't understand what is like to lose a child, because I never had child or never lost a child, so how would I even possibly understand that parents pain. I can only imagine that person pain, but its far different from the reality of real pain.

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

In real (opposed to online especially on this app) actually some people do. Of course you only talklabout struggles with close friends but most of them actually try or do understand, while I try the same for them.

The internet (especially this app) its often a 'girls vs guys (inofficial name of this app) type of scenario. Most people just want to say 'my problems are the worst and YOU are at fault for it!!'

For me there is one group who is by far the most understanding when it comes to these issues and a second one not much further behind. Some may know them but even mentioning them here will probably rain hate and insults so I leave it at indirect mentions and will not talk further about it.
Like I said this site often feels like a guys vs girls so people dont WANT to understand.

abbyjgriffin98 · Accepted Answer

I think it depends who we are talking about. If the individual is understanding and empathetic in nature, they will try to see things from another's perspective. If the individual is very self-involved and/or struggle with empathy and emotions, then they will not.

Kaamraj · Answer

No, because it's such an alien existence that I dont think either male or female can even try to relate as it's a lived experience. And I dont think that they should because unless and until they are married and functioning as a unit the self interests of men and women are diametrically opposite to each other, espicially their sexual strategies.

It is against the interest of women to dilute their hypergamy and it's against the interest of men to dilute their polygamy if they achieve any value in life.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Many men I know have a great understanding of women's struggles, especially those related to hormones, periods and emotions around. Of course, it doesn't mean they understand everything, and I don't think it's even possible, but it helps a lot.

Lionman95 · Answer

No or at least rarely. To me it´s topic that´s hard to talk about because I rarely meet men and women that are really willing to listen to each other and don´t enter the conversation with their mind already made up that the opposite sex has it better in at least most terms.

smne35 · Answer

If they care about you they will, if you have an open communication between you they will, your other half only knows and understand what you tell them and how much you tell them, can't read you mind, yet, but if they're paying attention can read you behavior

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think most do, no. I don't think men try to understand women's struggles, and I don't think women try to understand men's. However it's curious: if you hear men complaining about their lives or struggles, most women usually have the attitude that they have nothing to complain about, but if a man did the opposite and said how he loves being a man and enjoys his life, women will try to say his life isn't anywhere near good as being a woman.

Thestupidusername · Answer

No.  I think most women think men have it easy due to media.  While men think women have it easy because they tend to ignore or downplay the bad sides and just see the good stuff.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Yes. I try. My understanding of the female experience in a male dominated work place comes from my wife’s own experiences. I carry that insight to work when I interact with other women, also in a male dominated field.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Sometimes. I know part of me is glad I wasn't born male even though I think it'd be kind of cool. But that's due to the fact I know and realize things are harder for guys than women, societal wise that is. It'd be a lot harsher if I was a guy.

SotiCoto · Answer

Some probably do, but I figure they're the exception rather than the rule.
In any case, it is generally a futile endeavour as nobody can experience both sides. And even bringing the topic up tends to result in people getting competitive.

DarkCarousel · Answer

I’ve met some that really care to try and understand. It’s more important to focus on understanding the individual, I think.

LeeTina · Answer

I think it's important for couples to understand each other.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Quality people do. The rest are too interested in living in their bubble.

MissStrawberry912 · Answer

I think those who is emotionally mature, considerate, and empathetic will naturally would, yes.

SereneScribe3 · Answer

No, I think that's very rare. The majority of people unfortunately seem to lack empathy about others.

Heolurt · Answer

There was a woman who lived as a man for an experiment and ended up killing herself because of the way women treated her as a man. She felt the pain as man and couldn't bare it, honestly most days I can't either

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I've definitely met women who try to empathize with men. Not a ton of them, but those women do exist.

strateguy632 · Answer

what pain? no pain in being either except the day or two of childbirth by mothers

Avicenna · Answer

Probably not. And we shouldn't have too negative a view of life.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most people are opportunists. I trust the opposite gender wants to understand my pain like the car salesmen wants to sale me a car I'm happy with.

InspireGlow678 · Answer

A girl told me she felt sorry I was kicked in the balls and she knew it was a male kind of pain that hurts a lot.

Likes2drive · Answer

Some might try, but it’s still hard to understand without actually being the opposite gender

LiamJHayden · Answer

I think each person has individual struggles and I try to understand those.

OddBeMe · Answer

Us guys don’t give a shit, we know we have it better. Sorry babes

In_Trance · Answer

I think it's horrible to approach a conversation like this with a victim mentality

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sympathetic to periods, pregnacy, dealing with creepy men, etc. In my experience, women are usually very dismissive about men's issues.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

NEVER REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT IT... DON'T REALLY CARE IF THEY THINK ABOUT IT

stratford · Answer

Not sure we ever could.

boobliker · Answer

I feel like giving up 4 out of 7 days

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't like u hun

KrakenAttackin · Answer

More times than you can imagine.

pethouse · Answer

Maybe a small few from both genders

Amara_09 · Answer

Yes and No.

Anonymous · Answer

Some do but many do not.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm guessing people do.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have pain.

butterly248 · Answer

Some

FenixG45 · Answer

I try!

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