Is it disrespectful for a male patron to say to a female waitress, “good girl “?

Question

A girl I know had this happen to her, and I really don’t like it

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

Respectful or disrespect is not in the word. It's in the meaning and intention.

Very few words are derogatory or negative in any way. It's how they are used that is derogatory or negative. Some words get used in a derogatory way long enough and often enough so the word itself becomes derogatory.

"Good girl" needs more context. It MIGHT be disrespectful, but I think it's far more likely that it's just a well meaning person who is not "woke" and doesn't tip toe around because somebody, someplace, might be overly sensitive and get offended.

It's meant as a compliment even if some people think the wording is not the best. I don't see any disrespect whatsoever.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's disrespectful. The guy  probably  didn't intend it that way, but it still is disrespectful.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

I most certainly wouldn't like it... It's just so downright rude and disrespectful.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Good girl is pretty sexualized so I'd say that's inappropriate

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

I guess it highly depends on the context and the way it's said. I admit it does sound a bit condescending, but it is still a praise. Thus, I'd think it's preferable to outright rude and demeaning comments, especialy berating the waitress just to vent the frustrations. On the other hand, if said with audible kindness, "Good girl" might even be interpreted as simply aristocratic, basically a VIP honestly complimenting their servant (a paid servant, to be clear). Yeah, still a bit condenscending, but otherwise pretty wholesome and respectful.

Billlewis · Answer

Yes, absolutely. Whenever I'm having a meal at a restaurant, I always go to great lengths to avoid her having to do much of anything , because that's just my philosophy in general -- 'Never let a woman have to do a task that you can do yourself'. I take my plate, glass and cutlery, etc, and any paper or debris that's accumulated and leave the table or counter, etc absolutely spotless, as best I can.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

Yeah, I'd consider it rude and infantilizing. Same if someone said, "Good boy," to me in that situation. I'd be tempted to immaturely dump the tray of food on them.

blueonblack22 · Answer

It’s not right. But I could see someone from a different culture or an older generation saying that and not intending as an insult. That doesn’t make it “okay” but some male patrons have said much worse then “good girl”. It’s definitely not worth going nuts over.

I’ve had older women call me “cute boy” when I worked customer service jobs when I was younger. I wasn’t crazy about that remark but I wasn’t losing sleep over it either.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes.

if a woman says "good boy" to a boy waiter it's bad.

If she says it to a black boy waiter, there will be dishes thrown.

If she says it to a female waiter that is trans gender, she may be correct, no problem.

Seinna · Answer

The only time I think it'd be acceptable if the girl looked very young and the man who said it was a cute, innocent grandpa who because of his dementia is not well adjusted to the society but means well.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

LOL ya that's pretty bad. Or it is the way I'm imagining someone saying it. I feel like maybe someone might come from a time and place where it's not seen quite the way someone like me might see it.

dustybiker2 · Answer

It's clearly disrespectful.. Designed to place her below himself in maturity.   "Good boy" is an equivalent. Instead of "Good man" which is praise.

spartan55 · Answer

I fucking hate that shit. So condescending, misogynistic, controlling... makes my skin crawl.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

It’s definitely inappropriate. Waitresses use inappropriate and creepy semi-sexual language at me all the time. I don’t like it. So, I am not going to start doing the same thing.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Ok that depends in what country or culture the customer or the waitress is from hard for mento answer since I have travel do different countries of the world.

Dargil · Answer

Awkward, yes. Disrespectful, no. Is it disrespectful for a male to say  Thank You  to a female who just gave him a blowjob?

AviatorTom · Answer

To call it "disrespectful" might be a bit too harsh, but it definitely is inappropriate and unwelcomed.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

"Good Girl" is a compliment. If spectators see this as a negative, it's perhaps because of social brainwash on their own side.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yep. What if you were a baristo (coffee-serving dude;I don't know why they're called "baristas" like the women who have this job) and some broad told you,"Good boy?"

SolitarySolace · Answer

Women see it as demeaning while men see it as a way of showing respect.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Lol hell yes. Imagine if he even offered up a top or a piece of food as a treat, crikey yikes 😳😬

Kelly6 · Answer

it's so rude. she is waitress, not your dog

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I think that's disrespectful coming from anybody even a woman.. 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Yes unless she is someone who loves those stuff

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes... Considering the only other times that's usually said is to a dog, a young child or with a sexual connotation

RingOfFire · Answer

Sounds obnoxious and demeaning to me. "Bad girl" ... might be better! 👌

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Yes. If she was doing a horrible job than bad girl would suffice as well. Also no tip.

Anonymous · Answer

Gross. It sounds demeaning in that context.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s weird and rude unless they were talking awhile and said it as a joke

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, it is degrading.

SweetDripp · Answer

It’s demeaning

Paris13 · Answer

Way of Saying Nice Going? xxoo

BCRanger10 · Answer

It's not appropriate.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

It definitely doesn't sound appropriate.

strateguy632 · Answer

girl is young. just say thanks

mobiusforniner · Answer

What the hell is she, a dog?

laly520 · Answer

yes since its too sexualized nowadays

Booklover_90 · Answer

Yes. She’s not a dog.

worldscolide · Answer

Disrespectful and inappropriate.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

That's sooooo creepy!!

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, she's not a dog

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

It sounds disrespectful

Dongie · Answer

No. Unless the two don't know each other.

Fuentes · Answer

Yes in 2024 lol

ab2shifty · Answer

Little unnecessary..

Siri137 · Answer

Good boy! :*

BlissfullyCurSed · Answer

Awkward!

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