Do you see the mistakes in you, or are you in denial?

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EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

Ooof... mistakes are basically  ALL  I see in myself. When talking to therapists I have to make up some "good qualities/strengths" just to get through that part of the therapy assignment, but I don't believe them for one second. I genuinely believe I don't have even one redeeming quality. I basically see myself as the worst a human being could be besides true monsters like murderers, rapists, and pedophiles.  Is it actually true? I don't know, as my own viewpoint is quite biased and I don't know what others are thinking in their head. But either way I personally believe it's true. I don't think I've ever received a genuine (emphasis on genuine, not forced or small talk) compliment from anyone (not even from my parents) besides from my therapists. Lol.

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

I've got a good support system around me. So even if my held got all up there they'd pull me back down to reality.

My biggest problem is I'm a different kind of cat. So it's really hard to compare me to anyone else as a result. Sometimes I feel I'm way behind and other times light years. ahead. One thing I'm a firm believer in is a quote by lily Tomlin "the problem with living in the rat race is even if you win, you're still a rat". So I believe in living life on your own terms while still maintaining enough normalcy to not be completely ostracized by the rest of society. Nobody has chased me down with pitchforks and torches yet, so I can't be doing too badly.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Yes I do. I often seek out men for validation instead of looking for it within myself. It's a really bad habit that I'm trying hard to break. I think it's because I didn't have a father growing up. So I'm definitely not in denial and doing the work to change that via therapy.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately there's quite a few I'm well aware of :/

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I try to engage in almost daily self-examination and reflection. It's a slow process, but I have made myself into a much better person than I was 50 years ago.

Finchie40 · Answer

Oh yes lol I am not in denial at all , I am very open and honest about myself , to the point I don’t hide anything , I am who I am , and I know I am not perfect whatsoever, but I still treat others’ the same way I like to be treated in return. If someone doesn’t accept me for who I am , Oh well , no skin off
My back , I try to live life the way I was raised and taught but unfortunately it doesn’t always go that way , I make mistakes like everyone else and try to learn from those mistakes the best way I can.

Lynx122 · Answer

My mother was a bit overprotective and my father didn't really help me much to grow up so I'm figuring things out myself but I'm doing well :) I think it's not just important to have self awareness but also self assuredness even when you're struggling with something not letting it bring you down and staying confident in difficult situations that's what I wanna work on. Because the self awareness part I have a lot of experience with that now.

14gurlz2gagonit · Answer

Oh no I see my bullshit. I was just talking with my sisters about my/our antisocial behavior created by our narcissistic psychopath mom. I literally go into fight or flight mode when dealing with new people. I become normal once I get a feel for a person, but at first I am on major guard and I'll either rip your face off and murder your family or get you the fuck out of my life by whatever means necessary as my first option.

If you're chill though... you'll probably think I'm a socialite that has no issues. It's just our Mom fucked us up so bad that we actually do look out for freaky weirdo shit first even though it's highly unlikely.

glennos89 · Answer

Nobody is perfect but damn I'm reaaallly close to being that haha😝

Back to reality now I'm actually far from being perfect. But I believe that self reflection is very important to do so that you can grow in being a better human being. Some mistakes I realise myself while self reflecting but sometimes other people can also help you point out mistakes that I overlooked

50/50 I think. But admitting your mistakes is very important to be able to learn and grow as a individual

purplepoppy · Answer

They're not mistakes, they're quirks that give me character.

Screenwriter · Answer

I know my shortcomings, but prefer to live in denial! AHahahahahahaha!

Account · Answer

I do. I am guilt-ridden 24/7. That doesn't mean that I voice it to other people.

unknowngurll1212 · Answer

I see my mistakes... denial only delays growth. Owning them helps me evolve.🤍...

Agape93 · Answer

I see em just fine. Every stunted emotion, every scar and every fuck up

msg321 · Answer

I usually see but according to my experiences there is no difference between seeing or denying the mistakes as long as you don't finish making them. Lots of people see their mistakes but they continue making them.

DishLady · Answer

Apparently I see a few flaws that aren’t there along with the ones that are there… 😂

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes, I know them. I can't allow myself to be depressed or having some illusions about myself and others. I have to remain highly functional and Freud's coping mechanics like denial, replacement, rationalization, projection, retrojection, etc. and emotional dependencies are a luxury for people others care for. I have to care and it's one sided.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Oh, I've got all sorts of flaws. I'm aware. And I try to account for my flaws in my thinking and actions. My success rate is less than 100% but I do try to be self aware.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I see plenty of my own mistakes. I try to be very honest with myself.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Useless contemplation.
Focus on things to do, not things you did or were subjected to.

People who dwell on the stress of their will past or their own limitations, will have no future nor will they surpass said limitations.

"Be better today than I was yesterday" is an every day thing.

Jay-_- · Answer

Yes, I believe in morals, I purposely concentrate on my wrongs and correct them as soon as possible.

Pohjolan · Answer

How would I know that I'm in denial if I'm in denial? Either way I'm going to focus on the flaws I do see.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

in the first reaction, I can deny it and defend myself... but I like to return to what went wrong... and I like to clarify things and if I did wrong I would say I'm sorry

Anonymous · Answer

I surely admit some of my mistakes, and I also accept someone pointing them out.

Yet, seems hard to convince me.. be powerful and convincing in your presentation/delivery, and I do instant change. Otherwise just broad talk means nothing to me.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am well aware of my numerous imperfections.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

What mistakes? 😎 jk I do try my hardest to be cognizant of them

molonski2 · Answer

Never in denial on strengths or weaknesses. If I make a mistake , I admit the mistake.

NathanDavis · Answer

introspection...

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No i see them I'm definitely a week in progress. What about you?

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I see it more than people see in me… and i guess that’s the reason behind my low self confidence

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. I'm just a human that's going to die someday in the future and that's filled with past mistakes and will make mistakes in the future as well.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Both. Depending on the day. Sometimes both simultaneously. I am well aware of my faults. But totally in denial about some of them (most of the time) in order to function day-to-day.

Cristi019 · Answer

I see them clear as day, can't turn back time though.

CaitlinSims25 · Answer

I'm always fucking up and makr many mistakes. Making friends has been very difficult for a learning disabilities users.

Dargil · Answer

I have never been in Egypt or North Africa.

Anonymous · Answer

I can see many mistakes. That's why my life sucks.

Likestorizz · Answer

I've been seeing them for years, I accept them and try to fix them

fish5505_87 · Answer

The first step is seeing! Yes, I do! How does that Michael Jackson song go? " I'm looking at the man in the mirror, I'm asking him to make a change!"

DrPepper12 · Answer

Therapy has helped immensely

najekim · Answer

I call them learning points.

alice55 · Answer

I see them usually

Travvvvv · Answer

I'm perfect. What ya mean? Haha

Manuelwe · Answer

Yes and blame others for them

exitseven · Answer

I see them, they are hard to miss.

Grond21 · Answer

Oh, I absolutely see them

Anonymous · Answer

Ofc I do I am a sinner and I love it, I know my death will be painfull but i keep repeating them anyway

EmmiL · Answer

I see them when they are my mistakes

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I do. Self-awareness is very important.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Every one have some mistake

NicholasRedone · Answer

I sure do 😁

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

What kind of mistakes you are talking about.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes I do

Lilly1979 · Answer

I see them, especially from when experiencess.

DCVsMarvel · Answer

I see the mistakes I made in you

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Definitely see them

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 110% mistakes

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