Are you good at reading people?

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Some people admit they can read people instantly… others say they miss every red flag lol. Where do you fall?

AydenHazor · Accepted Answer

It depends on the situation. Oftentimes en I see someone I'll get a feeling about them that often turns out accurate, but I'm oblivious toward people's feelings and unspoken communication directed at me.

I'll get an idea of someone's personality often by how they walk in the room and it'll be spot on, or, less often, I'll feel that there's something off about a person and can't say why. Especially that last feeling I pay close attention to as it's nearly always proven true eventually, whether that person is verbally and emotionally abusive to their significant other, a sexual predator, ends up stalking someone who's not interested in them, or something else, when the truth finally sees the light of day I'm glad I listened to my guy. (And yes, all the if those examples have happened)

On the flip side, if someone likes me it is flirting with me I have no idea and just think they're friendly, and if someone dislikes me I also usually have no idea, usually thinking they're neutral at worst. I've had several friends tell me they were crushing on me hard when we first met but I was oblivious toward then so they moved on, and have found out through someone telling me about it that there was a co-worker who was actively undermining me to senior management on a weekly basis for over a year without me knowing at a former job.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Yes to an extent. I have this bar trick that I did in my early 20s. I would go up to random people, ask them if I could write a couple paragraphs about their personality and ask if it's right. I had one girl jokingly ask if I was following her after I showed her what I wrote. I had a guy say "That's fucking creepy dude." And I had another guy say "This is as close as you can get without watching me every day."

Then my friend did a test to see if I could do it too, except this was with MBTI. He gave me 16 different celebs or characters from movies and I had to guess their MBTI. And I guessed 15 out of 16 right. The only one I got wrong was Dwayne Johnson. I guessed he was an ESTP. And he was actually ENTP. My friend was blown away by this and told me I should start a business in it of giving people personality evaluations. But I don't ever want to do something that doesn't necessarily give people accurate results. If I get it wrong, it might offend them or set them on a wrong path or something.

My partners all told me I read them better than any partner they had before. My last ex told me it was like I was reading her mind 😂

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I used to be very good at it but people have changed and lie about so many things. They lie even when they don't have to.🙄

I used to be good with reading people and anyone who wouldn't look at me in my eyes 👁️ 👁️ I felt like they weren't honest or trustworthy. But people can look at people directly into their eyes and lie 🤥 like a rug!!

RandomGirl42 · Accepted Answer

It's kind of a curse sometimes 'cuz like I'm really sensitive to people's energy without wanting to be. That's another reason I avoid WalMart.

MontBlanc · Answer

I’d say I’m pretty good at reading patterns more than single moments.

I notice tone shifts, inconsistencies, body language, and how someone’s energy changes depending on who they’re around.

That usually tells me more than their words do.

But I also try to stay aware that intuition isn’t the same as certainty, sometimes it’s insight, sometimes it’s projection.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I am but my compassionate empathy can lead me estray down bad paths. I don't let someones corruptness dissuade me as I attempt to get them to a better place.

My wife is really good, really quick. She's like an emotional triage physician... precise, and quick with the scalpel.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

"Where do you fall?" Depends, 5 years ago I fell in the bathtub, hitting hard on my underarm, it hurt for at least 3 weeks duh. 10 years ago, I fell on the pavement, well cobblestone sucks, it may look fancy for some, but it hurts I'm telling you.

FreyaRed · Answer

I wouldn't say it's reading, it's cold and logical calculation what they want and what is their motivation to play certain games.
Having the ability to take reference point of other peoples perspective helps a lot, however there is always an error margin because people don't act always 100% logical.

ohsheeT · Answer

Give me 5 min with you and I could tell you about yourself give me 10 min and I could tell so much more and even tho I dont know you except for on here. But give me 1 hr and we are in trouble lol

Massageman · Answer

I have had "gut feelings" about people and they usually turned out to be right in the end. Of course, at times, "the end" was a decade or two down the road. In one case, it was about 60 years in the making, but that's the way life goes.

DishLady · Answer

Usually the red flag is right there, plain and simple, but someone talks me into giving the person a chance. ALWAYS a mistake. Sigh...

SieghardWalsung · Answer

No and that's an intentional choice. I don't "read people" in the same way that I don't read picture books.  There's nothing fucking there.

queenofcardio · Answer

I can usually sense someone's vibe instantly

dragoblack · Answer

Lmao, no. I'm not anime protagonist bad, but i do feel the intent behind words... though I'm really oblivious when I'm talking about a subject I'm passionate about.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

A must have as bartender. I give myself an A-

Shiprex · Answer

If I can be bothered I will but mostly don't bother because I don't need to.

LiamS95 · Answer

Yes, I'm usually pretty good at reading people it comes from years of dealing with many different persons for work.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Yes, I can reliably read people. It is a survival skill that kept me alive for a long time. Now it's an asset and a liability.

serious · Answer

Yes I am. However, it does take some time for me too.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

No, I'm not a mind reader and I don't have an instinctive understanding of body language.

Likes2drive · Answer

I’m decent with it, but some people just seem bipolar

Mark987 · Answer

All my friends told me.. you have a nag for reading people.

aaron13547 · Answer

Tis my super power 😎 lol

888theGreat · Answer

The best at it. I can complete their sentences.

exitseven · Answer

I can spot a moonbat a mile away.

Anonymous · Answer

I am good at reading most everyone except the women who set off the alarm in my pants.

DarKnight36 · Answer

I can tell from every move.

msc545 · Answer

Extremely good - I do it professionally.

AgentG111 · Answer

I'd say mostly.

fish5505_87 · Answer

I'd say I'm in the middle.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Usually.

CubaPirate · Answer

Very much so

shortster · Answer

Not at all

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