What does it mean when a girl says you're "too serious"?

[diver012]

I've noticed over the past year that when I speak with girls sometimes they say I'm too "serious" when I speak with them. I've asked a few friends about it and I've gotten replies like my body gestures are too powerful or I'm too rigid when I talk. So its like I'm trying too hard or too awkward. I'm starting to understand a little, but I would like some more clarity, and if anyone has any advice on how to "loosen up" I would greatly appreciate it!

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Usually I have fun for a while, but sometimes I notice when the girl is losing interest I start to become more withdrawn. I agree with being silly is key to making a girl laugh, but I think I talk about serious things right from the get go. I like the advice I've gotten so far. Thank you everyone :-D!


What would be a few things to "lighten up the mood" and a few things to notice when talking to a girl?

[TheDigitalSaint]

It means you should joke and tease a bit more, as if you're to serious, it is kind of a mood killer. You don't always need to talk about serious topics or be smart with a girl. Sometimes a girl just wants to know you have a playful little boy inside that adult male body. Bring that boy out a bit more often, tease and be silly.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Update: Poke her more often. Playfully tell her to stop invading your space. Accuse her of stealing your food while at the same time you take a piece of food off her plate. Playfully shove her into the bushes, but grab her right before she falls into them. Show her that you aren't afraid of joking around. Once again, ask, what would a five year old boy do? :)

[diver012]

Saint you make a very good point with the little boy inside. I always have more fun when I'm being goofy and spontaneous. I never noticed that before until you mentioned that. Thanks for the useful advice and the tips.

If you have anymore wisdom to share I'm all ears or eyes since I'm reading this instead of listening :-P

[TheDigitalSaint]

You can't remember everything in advance. When in doubt, just ask yourself what a five year old boy would do? Keep that mindset and you'll find creative ways to keep it fun.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Thanks for BA!

[Bernie2000]

The only complement that i ever get is that im “nice”and “well-mannered” , but im really funny too and im on track to have a very good career. Is there any way I can sacrifice being nice in order to be more attractive for girls?

[Luv2run]

It means you need to laugh , laugh like you've never laughed before and do it often

[sammy67]

That you need to relax more and have fun that's what it means

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Not playful, fun, relaxed

[Anonymous]

Alcohol. Drink more of it.

Worked for me.

[Lj236]

probably that you don't joke around much