I thought he wasn't interested, what does he want?

Question

I met this really gorgeous guy. We hit it off talked every night for hours. And we began to really like each other. We hung out and it led to intercourse the first time. Then every time after that which was weeks apart that we would see each other. He would ignore me and it would be only when it was convenient for him. Eventually I got annoyed stopped calling him. I got over liking him because it was ruined and figured he wouldn't like me.all of the sudden these passed two weeks  after not having seen him in almost a month,He has not stopped calling me to hangout. I mean he will call me twice a day..but the more I don't respond the more he try's to talk to me. But literally every time  before that when I tried to talk to him, he wouldn't even text me back.I don't understand I thought it was just about hooking up.. Could he be interested in more then that? I'm so confused.he could honestly have any girl he wanted.

xyhic · Accepted Answer

The key word here is challenge alright. When he had you wrapped around his finger he could control the shots. You backing off caused him to pursue you much harder.

Guys are scared of rejection and you basically rejected him by pulling away. This means he is all over you or all over your phone so to speak.

He is into you because you are playing hard to get so to speak. When he had you he has very low interested level in you. Now that he doesn't have you his interest level is through the roof. He has become a wimp so to speak.

Do not use the he could have any girl thing because he clearly wants you. BUT would you respect a guy who calls all the time like a love sick puppy? Is he really being a man that you could respect and call a real guy?

If you really want this guy hangout every time he ask and give into him and he will eventually back off like he did before. Than you pursue him which will cause his mind to settle back into the man he was before you met.

You hurt his ego girl and he is acting like a wimp. You cannot tell me you can't do better than this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I guess it is kinda like this. You guys have intercourse, he ignores you and calls you again.
The chances of intercourse are high since you have done it before. I get the feeling he is using you though. Remember that you HAVE GOT OVER HIM. Why after such a long time is he calling back, wanting to meet with you? There is something very suspicious here.

Honestly, I think tell the guy to take a hike. How old is he? Go get someone else who won't ignore you for a few months.

thegirlnextdoorxx · Accepted Answer

Naw, you gave in too easily and too soon. He lost his respect for you.. and I wouldn't think much of the fact that he wants you around, because you don't know his motives. I think he wants another chance at getting in your pants.
People treat you the way you let them treat you. You're letting him treat you badly by letting him in again (as friends, lovers, whatever).

sugarpop · Accepted Answer

Forget about him, he's the sort of guy who can only be interested in you when he's not sure how you feel about him.

As a gorgeous guy, he probably gets advances from other girls all the time and it bores him. He doesn't sound like he'll ever be happy until he can mature up and stop the power games.