When a woman calls you handsome, is that a bad thing?

[GymStatus]

When a woman calls you handsome, is that a bad thing? I was called this once before from a vary attractive woman and I was like huh... I have not heard anyone being called that in a while. Should I feel bad?

You should feel good

You could be handsome

Bacon

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She was a few years younger than me.

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The reason why I asked this was because I have heard that being called handsome is almost like being rejected. Kind of like a thanks but no thanks deal. Handsome=not getting the woman in the end lol

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So is handsome above or below hot ?

I have heard that it is below hot from some women...

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If 9 people called me ugly and one person called me handsome, would that make me ugly or handsome or both?

[green22]

Darl, please stop freaking out. *breathe* Everything is opinion. If 9 people called you ugly and one calls you handsome, all it does is demonstrate how people feel differently about things. For example, I love dark chocolate, but there are so many people in the world who think dark chocolate is disgusting. Does that mean I am wrong? Does it mean that dark chocolate is disgusting? ...People have different tastes, different expressions, different experiences. Do not let the words of a few people disrupt your belief in yourself. If a woman calls you handsome, enjoy the moment. If a woman calls you ugly, let it go. I've done modelling and seriously, the agencies say all kinds of horrid things, but that doesn't mean anything. One agency hates me, another loves me. Please dearest, please just breathe through these comments from others. What women want is not *really* "hotness". We want a man who is attractive as a person. If the woman only likes you for your looks, she's not going to stick around anyway. Your looks are "as is". You can be fit, eat healthy, look after your skin and dress well... but at the end of the day you're still the same person. Better work on yourself- be kind, loving, gentle, compassion, assertive, passionate, authentic, learn to cook... offer her something MORE. Then she'll stay... and love you... and I think that makes it all worth it, don't you?

Blessings, A.

[green22]

I've called men handsome before. I think they would appreciate that a lot more that "hot", "sexy", "pretty" or "cute". At least saying someone is handsome offers a sort of gentlemanly compliment that is not focused around sex, as the standard ones are. I also feel the word handsome lends itself more to maturity, intelligence and an overall attractiveness (personality and physical), so it is something which is appealing... :)

[green22]

Re update: it depends on what you'd prefer. If a girl calls you "hot", surely you feel like a sex-object? That can be attractive at times, but why be sexy or hot, when you can be handsome? If you feel you are worrying so much about what she meant, you should have asked her to expand. I think "handsome" is not a blow-off, but an invitation. FYI. Women generally do not compliment men we dislike. Handsome is just that- attractive, clever, manly, mature, appealing, want of desire. It is good! Chill.

[GymStatus]

Perhaps. Some women on here put handsome blow hot... I think is should just say okay and walk away lol.

[whattothink]

I reserve handsome for people either much older or younger than me. They still look good (unless it's your underage son) but it seems weird to be like that 60 year old guy is looking hot (hello Richard Gere). I doubt the profile pic is you, but if she is calling that handsome she needs to have her eyes checked.

[GymStatus]

So you are saying that Handsome is worse than being called hot?

[whattothink]

I reserve it for men that are attractive, but that I am not fantasizing about.

[GymStatus]

See that is what I have heard from women. Handsome=thanks but no thanks. Hot=you get the woman/marriage

[whattothink]

Well handsome is good. I actually have been involved with some men I thought were handsome. Now that profile pic you got for example I would marry in a heartbeat.

[whattothink]

But that's because it's hot. Attraction is much more than looks however it's personality too. And that can override looks. Once I dated this guy and thought he was the hottest thing ever. Bad teeth, a beer belly, super shaggy unkempt hair, the works. But the most awesome guy ever.

[GymStatus]

So I guess being called handsome depends on the woman...

Perhaps I should just take the complement and walk away lol. (I ended up doing that)

[whattothink]

Yes it depends on the woman.

[Sovereign1979]

No, handsome is a word ladies use to say or mean you are good looking. Where women who lack taste will call you sexy, or hott, or just plain cute.

Handsome can mean "good looking", just with a touch or elegance behind it.

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Definition of HANDSOME

1

chiefly dialect : appropriate, suitable

2

: moderately large : sizable

3

: marked by skill or cleverness : adroit

4

: marked by graciousness or generosity : liberal

5

: having a pleasing and usually impressive or dignified appearance

[GymStatus]

So that is what's up

[islands7]

Handsome is deeper than hot, whoohoo, stud muffin & shows more respect and candidate for long term relationships - someone who cold be hot behind closed doors but handsome enough to take to church w/family

Now spent less time here & more time with her - that's what I'd do

[cazza3]

That's pretty much as good as it gets. Hot/sexy is just a guy that looks good, its completely superficial and not necessarily something that will last. Handsome is more than that, its what I reserve for my fiance.

[cazza3]

@update. Its way above hot. Hot doesn't even come close to handsome

[GymStatus]

Please define how it is way above hot for you that is...

[cazza3]

Hot is just a pretty face. Handsome is the whole package. Its something about the guy that draws me in be it a mischievous smile or a glint in his eye

[GymStatus]

I have no glint/mischieveousness :(

[cazza3]

Just because you don't see it doesn't mean other don't either. Plus they were just two examples

[GymStatus]

What are more examples?

[cazza3]

There is no definitive answer its completely relative to the person saying it. Its like you saying a woman is beautiful and another guy saying she's pretty. Both are a compliment, take it as such.

[cazza3]

@update. It means neither, an insult or compliment is just an opinion, don't take it too seriously and don't let it get to your head.

[heavyicebox]

I always think that boys will be offended if I say ''cute'' which is not my intention at all! So what I say instead is : you are very handsome! Which is more manlier I guess...

Handsome being rejected! W t heck? Whoever said that need a personal '' Hitch '' or something cause they are definitely wrong on that. Maybe the '' You look good. '' is the one they are talking about but handsome is in a higher level A.K.A. '' Sexy '' in a more polite form.

Source: A reserved girl

[MichaelCarlin]

I get offended when girls call me cute. Being called handsome is one step up from that, so it's like your ok. Let's be real though if you are just ok, you are not getting the girl.

[emzy-89]

How could calling a guy handsome be a bad thing? I'd usually call a guy handsome if I liked the way that he looked, as well as liked him as a person. I'd be more inclined to call a guy hot if I just saw him and he looked good but I had no idea who he was.

[calialltheway1993]

I'm the one should be saying huh.

Last time I checked, handsome is more powerful than cute... So feel good about yourself!

[GymStatus]

Some would say no from what I got from some women. Some told me that hot is above handsome then comes cute and handsome is almost ugly but a tad bit better looking.

[calialltheway1993]

Well those women don't know, because handsome is above hot and cute. Hot is more physical than overall- "his body is hot" versus "he looks handsome."

[teasegirl]

How is that a bad thing? I mean I know us girls have something backwards where yes means no. No means no. We will see means no... But handsome means handsome or cutie or person I enjoy to talk to and find nice to talk to. I only use handsome,sexy, honey, sir in a flirtatious way

[teasegirl]

Unless she's your mom then it means you're ugly

[why-makoto-kun]

TURKEY BACON.

*cough* Handsome is good. :) No worries, bro.

[GymStatus]

Lol

[lilstrwberygal]

Bacon? lol...I almost chose it just because but I ended up going with you should feel good, it's compliment after all. Now if someone calls you bacon, well then...I'm not %100 sure what you should feel in that situation.

[teasegirl]

Hot is just someone you want to f***. Handsome is someone you want to make love to.

[GymStatus]

I don't get it? Is it not the same? lol

[teasegirl]

No. One is just animal sex the other is more romantic I guess. Lol I don't know what trying to explain here but yeah

[GymStatus]

I think that they are the same lol

[Robotic]

she's saying someone you just want to f*** is just that, not someone you really want to be in a relationship with. while making love is sex with all the lovey dovey emotions of being in a relationship

[teasegirl]

Exactly what Robotic said.

[Alexias]

Had a hard time choosing "you should feel good" over bacon, I hope I will never have to make that decision ever again. Being called handsome is a good thing, just like bacon.

[Prof_Don]

Imo, there is nothing "bad" about being called handsome by a female.

I don't get this damn insecure obsession of everybody wanting to be called "hot", or else they question the compliment in question out of insecurity.

[Prof_Don]

You probably aren't used to being called handsome because that term is usually used in women in their mid 20s and higher.

[MikeK]

Obviously, none of the people here have scratched to see what COULD be under the surface...

I know what you mean man - if a young girl calls you "handsome," it can be somewhat condescending... same with being called "nice." Guys (and girls) don't go for these kinds of compliments anymore - we want to be told that "we look hot" or "look sexy."

[MichaelCarlin]

This guy gets it

[MyUsernameRules]

Lol are you serious? This question has got to be a joke. I'd give my left nut for a woman to finally compliment my looks in life, even if it is handsome. Yet you are complaining about it? Handsome is probably the best compliment a woman can give to a man appearance wise. There are guys out there who have never been called anything good by girls in their whole lives when it comes to their looks. You best believe it!

[ninjastar]

I think you're good looking

[MyUsernameRules]

Really?

[aquachic]

Why hello there handsome.. To me handsome means having some mysteriousness to your attractiveness.. So it's at the top of the top.

[sistik123]

Adding those 3 words makes it sound like she is flirting, saying something like "you are handsome" sounds more like when a guy just say's hey you look okay/good.

[Anonymous]

Huh. Kind of surprised at all of the bacon votes...

[GymStatus]

People like their bacon lol

[JML510]

Why would that be a bad thing? Would you have preferred that she call you ugly?

[Prof_Don]

I know, Tyrogue. Some people are never happy with ANY compliment from the opposite gender unless the person calls them "hot".

[TangerineFire1]

I personally think you are reading way to much into this, handsome.

[GymStatus]

Perhaps.

A part of me wanted to get into the meaning of it. I am usually called ugly so when I heard handsome I was like um no lol

[Wilddj]

I had to choose bacon because I never would believe it when a girl calls me handsome, I hardly believe it when my girlfriend says it.

[stupidstupidme]

No... "cute" is like being rejected. (Unless you're under the age of 20.)

Handsome is definitely flirtatious.

[LizTheWeirdKid]

Not at all. I call guys handsome all the time. Id rather say that than to call a guy hot or sexy or whatever. Handsome is a compliment.

[Anonymous]

@ question and updates. Stop smokin that dope. Being called handsome is a GOOD thing. Stop hangin around people so stupid that they tell you being called handsome is a rejection. Being called cute can sometimes but not always. Either hang around smarter people, don't be naive or both.

[GymStatus]

I have seen women call a guy cute but they wanted to call the dude hot etc... It is all messed up lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Well it IS a compliment

[Opinion Owner]

@ update...just stop already

[1-3-2-4]

Only people I ever heard call me handsome is people older then me.. or telling me how I look like my father.

[johari]

lol wow I get mixed comments too but I just like the way I look,everyone has their own preference what matters is what you think

[kangaru]

U sure they call you ugly? Or they just don't find you good looking but they didn't reallymean ugly. Beauty is in the eyes of beholder.

[Anonymous]

That is definitely no a bad thing! It means she finds you attractive and just wanted to call you handsome instead of hot or sexy like how girls would be preferred to be called beautiful.

[CorneliaisPretty]

Its a veryyyyyy good thing calling a guy handsome is calling a guy datable.

[BackAgain]

Its the equivalent of calling a women so ya take it as a compliment

[MichaelCarlin]

Considering I've been called handsome and cute a lot, I can say to me it's definitely NOT a good thing. All the females that have called me this, wound up not being interested, although I will admit, I'm the king of flirting, yet never escalating. I like the thought of being friends first, but once you a friend, that's all you will ever be. It's definitely a nice rejection.

[froc1]

It not a word used commonly nowadays but when I a call a guy handsome and word I hardly use it very good thing indeed, a sure sign of interest.
Handsome is like having the whole package, it's like hot and much more.
Hot is just is saying you good looking and that's it

[8Oclock]

Funny, I've never heard that being called handsome is a form a rejection. I must have been absent that day when they taught that. lol Handsome has nothing to do with hot.

[GymStatus]

Some women told me that being called handsome is like you are okay but not datable... etc

[8Oclock]

Maybe only to them, I don't think this goes for most women.

[youngmaninfamus]

I've never had a woman call me that, at least in front of me. Take it as a compliment

[GymStatus]

It took me by surprise. No lie

[Anonymous]

Come'on, why on earth would you feel bad?

It's not like she may have said it to get in your pants right?

[RedSmartie]

That's probably one of the more ridiculous things I've heard on this site. Handsome is a compliment. Take it as such.

[karatecutie5237]

i call guys handsome all the time. I do not see it as a bad thing at all. I think of it as like how a guy calls a girl beautiful or gorgeous rather than hot or cute.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. The answer is clearly bacon.

[GymStatus]

I know right lol

[Anonymous]

It's a compliment. Was she was older then you by 5 years or more?

[Opinion Owner]

She was younger? That's not something I find to be common. Only people who call me handsome are the milfs.

[102938]

it is horrible to be called handsome, if you get called handsome again you should consider plastic surgery

[sochillin]

...hmmmm...YES it's a bad thing for a woman to call you handsome...

[Anonymous]

How is being called "handsome" ever bad? If my guy calls and I say "Hey handsome" or "Hey sexy" they're synonymous with each other. She was telling you you look good...

[abundantlyrich]

Handsome? sounds like someone from the Queen Victoria times would use that word...

[Tw1nm3t3or]

Handsome is a good thing. If anyone says different they are dumb as shit

[aDzNichilista]

Yeah. So bad that you'll be put in a solitary confinement for life time, after she says it.

[Forgetable]

I picked "bacon" because you could be ham-some.

[Zoemarie101281]

Haha I get it :D

[Deathcabforcutie]

Oh my heck you're awesome. And I seriously mean no sarcasm!

[Forgetable]

Thanks, I try B)

[BrotherhoodInc]

Duh bacon is the answer to everything.

[GymStatus]

It truly is.

[crunchy]

I only here this from middle aged-older married women. No idea what that means.

[Anonymous]

Handsome is a polite way of saying sexy

[GymStatus]

I hope so lol

[AnaxGrypos]

That's like an obvious compliment

[Prof_Don]

Any person who finds being called "handsome" as some sort of back-handed compliment is insecure...because said person wants to be called "hot" and nothing else.

[LilKim]

Bacon.

[GymStatus]

Yeah Some people like their bacon lol :P

[Anonymous]

Some people need to read more books and get a larger vocabulary.

[kangaru]

you should feel good why do you have to feel bad?

[MissAM]

It's a compliment. Feel good about it. ^_^ v

[Deft_maiden]

It's a good thing.

[GymStatus]

According to some it is a mixed signal. It can mean better than hot or less than hot or even you are okay but I am moving along lol...

[Deft_maiden]

Handsome is more of a mature and classier depiction. It could entail all or some of the above

[Deft_maiden]

If others judgement shape your onion of yourself, then yes. Otherwise irrelevant!

[confugirl]

Is this a serious question?

[GymStatus]

Yes it is. I will up date the question soon

[confugirl]

Being called handsome is a compliment, compliments are always good. There. That clears it up for you?

[Robotic]

no need to be rude/ girls ask similar questions like this all the time

[confugirl]

I'm pretty sure that when a girl is called beautiful, she thinks of it as a good thing. What double meaning could you possibly extract from a simple compliment like that?

[Robotic]

read his update

[confugirl]

He's heard some very weird things. None of them are true

[vertigo1201]

It's good, like bacon.

[InvisibleNinja]

No, not a bad thing to me ;)

[SilentEarth]

I feel like the poll is rigged.

[Saint69]

God I hate questions like these...

[GymStatus]

Yourwelcome

[Lj238]

definitely not a bad thing

[Anonymous]

its not a bad thing...be happy that you heard it

[Anonymous]

Fishing for compliments

[Anonymous]

How on earth could it be a bad thing? O.o

[Opinion Owner]

@update Handsome is about the face, hot can be about the body too, to some people hot is better than handsome to others handsome is better, and people say hot meaning different things too.. But in any case both are good and you can be both. Being handsome doesn't mean your not hot. My girlfriend has told me many times that I'm handsome and also that I'm hot (and that I'm cute). If you tell a girl she's pretty do you mean it as a bad thing?