Guys you ever regret not giving a girl a chance?

[Anonymous]

that one girl that got away, you had her right there she liked u, she was nice to u, your talks were cute, and you didn't want her. ever beat yourself about it later? why does this happen? this guy contacted me out of the blue saying he's sorry for what he did and misses me but I don't know if I should even trust him.

[Anonymous]

Twice. In 2010 and 2012. Honestly in both cases both girls were very friendly and distinguishing between friendly and flirty was impossible so my instincts said leave them. The 2010 moved on to a long distance relationship. I wasn't supposed to fall for the 2012 girl as I was on a detox from romantic interations with girls (funny how when you don't want them they want you). Either way I had two good women who thought I friend zoned them when in actual fact I did not have the balls to ask the out. Nowadays I rarely interact with girls because I know I won't have the balls to ask them out and seeing that crestfallen disappointed look in their eyes hurts.

I would never call them back out of the blue if my balls suddenly appeared.

[jacquesvol]

It happened a few times indeed.

I'm happy with my wife (I've always been happy with her!) but of course, she isn't the only one I could be happy with, I think.

Off hand:

I regret not giving a chance to M. (my guy friend's little sister)

I regret not giving a chance to H. (my guy friend's twin sister)

I regret not giving a chance to another H (my other guy friend's little sister)

I regret not giving a chance to another M. (a French girl who was our guest)

I regret not giving a chance to another H (my first love's female friend)

I regret it but for them, not for me.

[jacquesvol]

And I only had a good reason for my guy friend's little sister: she was REALLY too young: 13 when I was 16.

My first love's female friend never got married. Many people (me included) wonder why.

[Anonymous]

yes, I have a guy firned who had a "one that got away" and he has still been dating but doesn't forget about her completely. its sad sometimes, like when he gets drunk and talks to me about her.

[Asker]

was he mean to her at the time?

[aMuse]

Nope. The ones that realistically had a chance, had their chance... If they did their part at the time, then it would have gone forward, but they didn't. If I run into them again, I might give a handful of them a second look, but I'm not holding my breath. I meet new girls all the time.

[Anonymous]

No.

Every girl that showed interest in me that I didn't act on, or rejected--I did for a reason. There's tons of girls out there, and it usually seems that the girls that want to ask you out/do the approach are always hitting weigh out of their ballpark.

Maybe things are different if you do online dating. But in person--girls don't seem to do much unless the guy has great game, or is 2 points above her. Such, a 5 girl has little trouble making the first move for a 7 guy.

But if I make the first move in real life (not online) I can get way better looking girls than the ones who approach me and want a chance.

So, no guilt, no regrets. I've never wished I gave a girl a chance instead of rejecting her, haha.

[Asker]

first of all, you're damn cocky. get over yourself. you don't even have balls to show a pic of yourself you go anonymous and you claim you get way better looking girls anytime, please.

secondly, guys are always complaining why girls don't put in effort or make any moves and when she does, it suddenly becomes that she's chasing a guy 2 points above her?!

third, how is it 'hitting out of their ballpark' when he's the one that led her on?!

[Opinion Owner]

An anonymous question asker reprimanding someone for answering her question anonymously... this is golden, haha. And it's great when a girl chases guys her own level. But most guys will agree, girls usually only take action and chase if the guy is significantly above them. So yeah, when I put in effort, I get girls way cuter than the ones that hit on me by themselves. And where did "he's the one that lead her on" come from?

[Asker]

well I choose to be anonymous and admit a guy led me on and rejected me, but you're claiming you can get any hot girl you want that's why I challenged you

[Asker]

her own level? what exactly are levels? how the f*** is one supposed to know what level they are? are you mentally deranged? how is it my fault I meet a guy and he shows interest in me and we have chemistry he leads me on and when I ask him out he decides he doesn't want it anymore or gets scared. then comes back messaging me he misses me.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually, I never said that. I said the girls who I can get when I initiate are a lot better looking than the girls who approach me. Basically, girls who approach me/show interest are usually 5's or 6's. The girls who respond well when I initiate are usually 7's or 8's. And given that you abruptly start saying a guy led you on--what, am I a mind reader? You didn't even write it, how am I supposed to know?

[Asker]

holy sh*t you are so superficial and disgusting. you rate people by a number?! JESUS CHRIST. how old are you 14?

[Opinion Owner]

Haha, you're damn right I rate people by numbers. Why not? Easier to use numbers than letter grades, lmao.

[Asker]

thats probably all you can do with the size of your brain and iq level. peace out f**.

[Asker]

now you're going off topic of the question. this is the internet you don't know what I look like and I don't know know what you look like yet you assume all that about a stranger on the internet? do you sit at home watching high school movies or something and base your answers on GAG that way? o.o

[Opinion Owner]

It's a guess, haha, based on things you say and write. That, and you calling me shallow for ranking girl's looks is a dead giveaway that you're deeply dissatisfied with your own looks and have probably suffered some bullying/rejection due to them. Probably weight, since that's what most girls suffer from when they lack looks. Combined with how you're anonymous, good bet... though you could feel free to replace your photos with Gina Carano and then remove the anonymous, lmao.

[Opinion Owner]

In all fairness, I could just as easily delete my own photos, upload the best looking guy off my FB friends list, and then remove the anonymous, lmao.

[Anonymous]

No I've never felt that way.

The only girls who've ever come onto me are friends (I know their personalities well already, so I already know whether I could ever date them) or drunk strangers. I've never had a girl I know just a little (who I might want to get to know better) come onto me.

[Deviouscourage]

No regrets yet.

As a matter of fact, I think it's mostly the other way around.

When girls I use to adore see me with a different girl I adore, they then seem to become jealous...

[Asker]

nice! I hope I get a better guy too ;)

[Anonymous]

Well, I guess I'll be one of the few on here to admit there was one girl. I did like her back, but It was a complicated situation where I was on-and-off with a different girl who is now an ex for good. The girl wanted to wait till I figured things out with the ex, but eventually lost interest. Its just weird to think that if I had chosen the "girl that got away" instead of the ex, things could have been a lot different.

[front2back]

So far I have never had a girl that ever admitted to liking me or gave me signs that she liked me. I have always been the one that has done the admitting, asking out, etc. So no, I regret nothing!

[Anonymous]

Nope, never regretted not giving a girl a chance. I make my choices and live with 'em. Plus, there's tons of girls out there, doesn't matter if you pass up 5 good ones, you can find more.

[Anonymous]

Why would a guy regret friend zoning a girl?

[Anonymous]

some guys do

[Anonymous]

yes, some do