Have you ever made up a fake boyfriend or girlfriend?

[steveman2008]

i have a girl that I have been chasing for the last couple months. this week she is supposed to come meet with her family where I will be too. but she has secede communication and when I confronted her she said that she didn't want to hurt me so she is distancing herself. when I didn't believe her I asked again and she said that she had just meet someone. what was weird was the fact of how much we communicated and how into me she is. so when I heard this I told her that I was happy for her. she told me that she didn't expect that as a response and said that she expected a meaner response. I said that I wasn't that kind of guy. the questions that I have. is this guy real or is she actually scared? is there anything that I can say to her when I see her this weekend to rekindle this relationship or should I move on since I know she has strong feelings towards me? please help if you could.

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+1 y

I can't say that I'm an expert in reading women. that's why I'm here asking you. give a guy a break. when she told me that she found someone else I told her that I was happy for her. I am just confused as to why the sudden change is all. her constant talk of how excited she was to see me this weekend and then this happened. I'm only human.

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Well I saw her this weekend. And she is in a relationship with a guy. But for some reason she wants me to continue talking to her even though she is seeing this guy.and she stI'll tells me how much she likes me. But she doesn't want me to bring up relationship talk. My answer was k. But inside . Said forget that! Thanks for your help you were all very helpful.

[bijinbijinbijin]

awwwww. You deserve way better than that. Sometimes things like this happen because we need them too. These expirences get us on the right path towards what we really are looking for. They teach us how to love ourselves and how to make better decisions.

I had a guy do that to me once, he wasn't in a relationship though. he was just being very nice. He knew exactly how I felt about him becasue I told him and he would respond with "you are very sweet and beautiful, and funny..i really like you too". He kept telling me things like that which is why I kept sticking around. I was thinking he wanted a relationship with me because I liked him enough to want a relationship with him. I was an idiot for 5 months. He even would take me out on dates. I ended up having my heart broken and I felt really dumb. I had wished he told me what I needed to know before I wasted 5 months of my life.

What I learned from that expirence was,"I like you" just means the exact same thing as, "i don't hate you. You are a nice person so I'm not gonna cut you off because I may need you someday (or maybe I can get you to sleep with me)". "I like you" has nothing to do with relationships. I like pizza but I don't want to be in a relationship with pizza.

Also I learned that Mutual Interest is not complicated and that you really do not have to chase anyone for 5 months or even 3 months. You don't have to chase at all. If someone wants a relationship then they will not keep you trying to figure them out for that long because they want one too and They will tell you upfront "i am looking to be in a relationship" and then they will get to know you on a level that will lead to a relationship because they want to see if things will work out.

I aso learned to stop doing things backwards. (STEP 1)Find a girl who is looking for a relationship, (STEP 2)then get to know her by taking her out and talking to her regularly (STEP 3) if you two share the same values and can agree on the type of relationship you want then make it official and give her your feelings.

I currently am in a relationship with an amazing guy. Just like I was telling you, mutual interest is not complicated. On the second date I found out that we both were looking for a relationship. So we continued to get to know each other. It doesn't have to take 5 months or 3 months. you can learn a persons intentions by the second date. Sometimes by the first date.

I am positive that you will meet someone now that you have expirenced this becasue now you know how to go about things differently.

[bijinbijinbijin]

you are a guy who clearly does not know what "I don't want to be in a relationship with you means". wether she made up a boy friend or not, she clearly has told you that she wants to distance herself from you. How do you figure that means that she has feelings for you? You are not giving us enough information. Why are you seeing her this weekend, did she invite you out or did you pester her over and over again to get her to say yes? and what makes you think she has feelings for you? She is obviously giving you mixed signals which is a red flag right there.

[steveman2008]

its a family event this weekend. she point blank told me that she likes me. she has also said that when ever she hears my name her heart jumps. I jut thought because of that and the constant flirting that she liked me is all.

[bijinbijinbijin]

she sounds pretty wishy washy to me, I wouldn't read much in to her if I were you. But if you must like her so much, then what you should do is talk to her yourself. Only she knows what's going on her head, not us. Besides everyone is different which is even more why you should not be asking us. If you ever end up in a relationship with this woman then you have to be able to communicate with her. Be open about your feelings with her so that she is not confused or has to guess. And she would have t

[bijinbijinbijin]

to do the same back. If she is not willing to communicate with you and help you understand her better then that is also a sign that she is not ready for a relationship. Relationships can't work without communication, they also can't work when you have outsiders telling you what you should do. A relationship should be between only two and no one else. Mutual interest is not complicated either two people want to work together to understand each other better, or they dont.

[bijinbijinbijin]

also, if you do not feel comfortable being yourself around the person, like you can easily talk to them about anything, and ask them anything about themselves. That's another red flag. Its a sign that you two are not compatible and/or someone is too immature to handle honesty.

[steveman2008]

We had great communication.but I really appreciate the advice. I'm just a simple guy.

[RedSmartie]

I've never made up a boyfriend, but I've had my best guy friend pretend to be my boyfriend to get guys to leave me alone. It works sometimes, but sometimes they still chase, which is really annoying. Why isn't, "I'm not interested," a good enough reason for a guy to leave a girl alone?

[whatyousaid]

Maybe she did like you but things can change drastically especially if someone else comes on the scene. To me this situation seems like she had you as an option but then someone else came along who she felt she connected better with. It's nothing personal against you. But you did the right thing confronting her. I actually believe she told you the truth. I can't imagine anyone making anything like that up but saying that this world we live in is a strange one so anything is possible.

I think she has met someone to be totally honest with you.

[Anonymous]

I never heard of girls doing that, but I have heard of guys making up fake girlfriends . They do it based on society's pressures and expectations they have for men.

[Opinion Owner]

Quit chasing that dumb broad. All you doing is boosting her ego to astronomical heights.

[Anonymous]

no but I ended up with one kind of by accident when I was about 14, I had a crush on a boy and my friend told my mum who misinterpreted it that we were actually going out, she was so excited about it that I was too embarrassed to tell her it was just a crush, so for a couple of months I had to pretend I was going out with this boy she never met and who definitely had no interest in me.

[harveykinkle]

Why have you been chasing her for multiple months? Has she said no and you refuse to take that for an answer?

Any answer other than "yes" is NO! This girl is clearly not interested in you. Find someone else who is!

[steveman2008]

what I call chasing is really just conversation. she contacted me first. out of the blue. I would have never contacted her. but when I hear a girl tell me that she loves talking to me because she loves to hear my voice and she has never has connected with someone on such an intent level I tend to take that as a sign as she might like me.

[harveykinkle]

I feel as though we're not getting the full story here... She's sending you mixed messages and as someone else pointed out that's a red flag. No girl would EVER tell you she has a boyfriend if she's interested in pursuing you. If someone actually likes you it doesn't take a lot of work to be with them!

[steveman2008]

She never said she had a boyfriend she just said she found someone else.

[523206720]

Not a fake boyfriend. But I will sometimes refer to a long term flirting partner or best friend with mutual interest as a "boyfriend" even if we didn't date for social, cultural, religious or economic reasons.

[Daph81]

Yes, I do it when guys can't take the hint that I'm not interested. I don't like to lie, but hey, it's more polite than completely ignoring them.

[britannny]

Lol, Only in like middle school. I can think of a few girls who lied about having a boyfriend to sound cool, but only when they were like 12 or 13.

[Anonymous]

How about you just take her no for an answer and respect her wishes not to be with you?

[Opinion Owner]

@Update: Maybe she really really likes you, but as just a friend.

[Anonymous]

I've heard of girls making up bf's, but they were in middle school lol

[kangaru]

I made it up so that people could leave me alone