I don't care about my appearance anymore, should I care?

[Anonymous]

I mean what's the point? Women are not interested in me when I did. I still shower because I don't like to smell, but I do that for myself. I don't shower for anybody else. My friends and few others started saying somethings about it. Like get a hair cut, or shave, but for what? I've already accepted that I will always be single to never feel how it is to care for another women and for her to care for me back. I honestly don't care how I look, I'm not going to judge myself. Their is already enough people that judge me and dismiss me, even when I did groom myself. Who cares? I know women never have!

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+1 y

It's been a little over a month since I wrote this question, and I still haven't cut my hair or shaved, and I feel way more comfortable. I also like the fact that I do not pay attention to women any more. They get no attention from me. At least before they would feed of the attention that I gave them from looking at them, making eye contact. Women have been very mean to me in my life and I feel that when I attempted to put myself out there it was exhausting and had some negative stress on me.

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+1 y

Now that I have let that go and coursed a lifestyle not think about girls and relationships, I am very happy and yes I do love myself! I have never been so free in my life. I use to think that love should be freely given, not chased. I was always told by the girls I tried to pursue not to even try. So now I don't and I am free. The only reason I am writing this update is because I got a new answer to this question, and felt that I should give you folks a update. Thank you

[Cmndrkool321]

You really should take care of your appearance. It might not look like a big deal to you, but it means a whole lot more to a lady than you think it does. Not grooming yourself shows women that you have a "I don't care personality"; or you are unable/unwilling to take care of yourself. Women prefer guys who are able to take care of themselves independently; and not need any assistance from them or Mommy. It takes a guy to make an image for himself, but a man to keep that image. Women love men like that.

I lost my girlfriend for reasons being; and really let myself go over time. My hair grew 10 centimeters, and I grew a mustache. I looked like a completely different person. I decided I needed to change who I looked like to feel more confident and happy in myself. I trimmed my hair and shaved; and I look like I am three years younger again! I feel a lot better towards myself and the breakup after giving myself a makeover.

Don't change yourself just to get attention. That will get you nowhere fast. Change yourself for your own good. I struggle everyday in being that "forever alone guy"; but putting the effort in personal grooming, hygiene, and exercise will give you inner strength and make an impression to everyone around you.

[Asker]

I was one of those guy that seriously up kept his appearance. I've been like that for years. Girls never showed any interest, when I put myself out there, they got mean and attempted to humiliate me! What's the point?

[Cmndrkool321]

By looking at your reply and what you chose as your best answer, you also suffer some minor confidence problems. Women like confident guys: Not guys who give up and never say anything good about themselves. Girls are like predators observing prey: They can sniff fear and weaknesses from guys. It's our job not to hide our weaknesses, but to improve and CHANGE your appearance and personality.

[Asker]

Before you evaluate yourself depressed, first make sure you're not surrounded by a**holes! I respect that quote. I once had a lot of confidence, unfortunately it was crushed! If girls have been continued to be mean to you, you would feel as I do. They have been mean to me my whole life, and the rest are just neglectful!

[Cmndrkool321]

See? There you go again: giving up on yourself. It doesn’t matter how many times you get pushed over: It’s whether you get back up and continue. I like what cheesesteak7 said. You do need to get over yourself; and work on your tenacity and optimism before anything else. Personality is what women look for. We only work on our appearance to complement our personality. I always get rejected, but it never bring my spirit down. If you can't get over how you look or act, neither will others.

[Anonymous]

That sounds quite liberating and I may join you!

[Opinion Owner]

:) thanks man. Let's watch some football

[standUP]

He's too busy watching his cats lick themselves !

[Opinion Owner]

Glad things are going well for you.

[Asker]

Yes, who cares about keeping up expectations for a gender that doesn't even appreciate you. You have to appreciate yourself and forget about them! Well, in my shoes however!

[geekninja]

dont be so depressed ;P you just haven't met someone who suits you or is compatible with you yet. what has happened so far has absolutely NOTHING to do with what will happen later on in your life, and looking at your age range..you have a ways to go. your younger than you think. I'm not even trying to be optimistic, I'm just being logical.

that being said, the idea isn't to look good for the opposite sex, but for everyone in general. you want to be an impressionable guy in a good way, not bad. you don't wanna be remembered as the guy who really needs a hair cut (especially by your boss), but as the dude who cleans up nice. got a good personality? good! because that just adds one more positive thing to say about you ;)

forget about women! do it for your own good!

[Asker]

She don't exist!

[kangaru]

yes you should care because you have to love yourself before others could and to keep a good and clean appearance would make one feel happier/freshier and you never know which girl would come along.

even though there aren't anyone who approaches me in life, I still see the need to take care of my appearance.

[Anonymous]

Dude admire you I always was an outcast because I was fat and then I killed myself to lose the weight. Women still don't give a shit about me. To me its kinda sad to accept that I will be alone forever but at least I can stop my false hope and I don't have to act like an idiot around women just in the hopes of one day getting a first date

[Asker]

I agree! I have a strict diet. I follow the paleo diet and I haven't cheat it for almost 3 years. Literally. Not once. I worked out a lot and the last time I checked my body fat % I was out 5%. I do this for myself though. It feels so good to be healthy. The amount of clarity I feel in my head feels great. But I use to groom myself a lot. Haircuts, shave, dressed nice. All of that. I know I have the personality. I just talk like a human being. When I got the courage in the past to come out of

[Asker]

my shell and talk to a girl, on several occasions I was humiliated in front of my friends, peers, and strangers. It has traumatized me. Have you ever approached a girl and she says eww get away from me? It is like the worst feeling you can have! I don't think I'm ugly neither. I just think my face is not what girls like or something. I honestly don't care! It's been like a month since I have wrote this question, and I still haven't shaved or cut my hair!

[cheesesteak7]

first of all, get over yourself.

second, why do you care about how you smell but now how you look? Oh yeah...other ppl. You can convince yourself otherwise all you want.

Third, I mean it's fine if you never groom yourself. Just grow your hair, beard, and nails out to like 10 feet. Just don't expect to impress any boss in an interview or expect people in general to treat you like someone sane or expect your friends/family starting to wonder what's wrong with you.

Believe it or not, there are other reasons to care about your appearance besides girls... it's sad you're 25+ and don't realize that.

[Asker]

Well, I only work for myself, so I don't need to impress anybody for a job. As far as people respecting me, never had a problem with people not respecting me, the ones that did saw how I felt about that! Also, I don't like the smell of musk, so yeah, that's the reason why I shower!

[standUP]

awwww someone needs a hug... OK you go do that, but just know you don't have any right to complain about how others avoid or treat you anymore !

So thank you for that...

[Asker]

They can avoid me, however my tricks comes with their treats

[Anonymous]

I know I feel better when I look better. As in, when I'm clean, teeth brushed, and hair fixed. If you don't take care of yourself, I guarantee you'll feel worse than you do now. Just keep up with your hygiene and getting a hair cut.

[TangerineFire1]

If you get down wind of someone male or female...believe me they will care.

[Tabra]

I say do what makes you happy

[Anonymous]

Then don't. Walk around like a bum.

[Asker]

What you see as a bum, he will see you as a loser, because you are!