It's Okay to Be Single

[Ozanne]

“Oh, how come you’re still single?” they said.

“I don’t know, just haven’t met anyone, obviously.”

“Well, I have a friend who has a cousin I can set you up with.”

“No thanks. I kind of don’t want to be set up.”

“Well, nothing else is working for you. What are you going to do? Be alone all your life?”

Sound like a familiar conversation? A typical “friend” who thinks your single life needs to be fixed. How could you possibly enjoy being alone when you could be in a relationship (that you may not want or even be ready for)?

If you are someone worried about being alone, stop playing in to the societal pressures that you aren’t normal unless you’re with someone. What’s not normal is rushing in to the wrong relationships just for the sake of being in one. If you are single and enjoying it, disregard.

Being single means you have many freedoms that others don’t have and you should be enjoying this time while you’ve got it. Having a partner – even one that isn’t living with you – is a lot of work when you consider one other person for many things that you do. If you come home late at night after a family dinner and don’t text or check in, they worry. If you want to do a late night run to McDonald’s, they wonder what you’re up to. Silly little freedoms that don’t really mean much are gone, and you suddenly have to explain yourself each time things go on in your life. And as more serious as the relationship gets, the more the other person will feel they have a say in when and what you’re doing.

When I was single, I did 2am runs to the 24-hour store for some chocolate and a Green Rivella. (I can’t even think of what my husband would think or do if I rolled out of bed now to just get dressed and go get a treat without saying a word.) It’s little things like this I actually miss!

Part of feeling better about being single, is to embrace it. Do something bold like go out alone. Most single people are terrified to just leave the house and go to the cinema on their own, or sit at a bar by themselves. If meeting someone never was any more non-threatening, it’s someone sidling up to someone single! So if your fear is how you will appear, don’t think so much in to it. Most people can’t imagine going somewhere alone for fear that they will look as if they have no friends. Try it. Take yourself out to lunch and brink a book along. Go to the pub and sit at the bar with your favourite drink. Go to the cinema. Watch a movie that none of your friends would go watch.

Being single doesn’t mean you need to be fixed. It doesn’t mean that there’s no one out there either! It means you are just at a point in your life that was meant to be your time alone to find out what you really like to do and who you really are.

If being single ends up carrying on for years (like it did for me), the more I found it was best to check in to the inner relationship I had with myself, because it might be the only one I’ll know. No point in hating it. How ridiculous can it be to want to break up with yourself?

Read more, listen to more music, take up a class, take up a hobby – this is all your time and no one else’s. If you meet someone, then guess what? -- you meet them doing what you want. If you don’t meet someone, at least you are living the life that is making you happy.

The next time someone figures you should meet someone, or questions why you’re single, I love this response from ThoughtCatalog:

“Because I want to wait until I find someone who I’m really interested in giving my time to. Someone who makes me feel wonderful and who feels wonderful with me. Life is too short to not be with someone I truly deserve.”

[Queen_naki5]

I said it once and I'll say it again, our society is solely focused on the propoganda that the media portrays regarding single vs. being in a relationship. We're told from a very young age that you MUST be with someone to be happy in life and that being single=lonely and sad. Like the saying, 'I hope I don't die alone'... you can feel alone while being in a relationship simply because lonliness is a state of mind. The media has a way of showing us that you're inferior to those who are in a relationship. Even movies, most are based off of relationships and romance. When I fist became single, I was devestated. I felt lonely, day and night. I felt like being single was the worst fate that could happen to anyone. I didn't feel love and appreciation. I realized that the only thing making me feel this way was my own unhealthy thinking. Yes, I still long for that bond, but I'm still learning so much about myself that I didn't know before. I'm able to engage in hobbies that I wasn't able to do before. I'm able to focus on just myself and not have the stress and aggravation of that other person. This is how I chose to look at my scenario and I agree with this Take completely. It couldn't be any further from the truth. Loving yourself is important too and it also attracts the right people into your life.

[Unit1]

I'm still single. And I'm loving it.
To be honest, I never suffered from questioning about myself being single. All I do is just believe in myself and know exactly what I want.

The only issue I have is with the plonkers, who can't deal with the fact, that I am still single. They set it up like a huge mistake and big deal and all but... I can't take idiots seriously, who don't even know common sense. It's after all their problem, not mine :)

Feels like the society is set up to be against me... or god just hates me so damn much :P

I kinda figured on my own why it's OK to be single. I didn't feel anything wrong by being single so that was a good start to figure. I was and am still in comfort.

I will never give up until I want to by my very own will.

[Anonymous]

My problem with being single is the uncertainty of when or if it will end someday, or if it will last for the rest of my life. I hate feeling limited like this. As far as I can tell, no one has wanted to date me yet. I keep running into advice telling me to improve myself, but I am hesitant because I just don't feel like it will make a difference.

Most days, I feel like my BEST case scenario is that I'll have to settle for someone I'm neither all that physically attracted to, nor all that interested in talking to. In other words someone I won't be that crazy about. But that's what I want, some passion, some fascination, some excitement. Someone who will ignite my sense of wonder.

I feel like there's something holding me down, keeping me from doing better than just okay and I don't know how I can break free of it. Worse, that's my best case scenario. I feel like my most likely scenario is just going to be lifetime singledom because I don't see what I can do to change it when so far nothing has worked.

After going all of high school and all of college not meeting so much as one girl I wanted to date, I finally met a few girls online that had a lot of what I'd always hoped to find. They had gorgeous looks and all had at least some interests and ideas in common that we could talk about. In fact with one of them, she had almost everything in common with me. And another said so many sweet things to me, was so easy to talk to and really felt like she enjoyed my company. She wanted to talk to me all the time, it seemed. It was as if the clouds had finally parted and the sun shone through.

However it was all for nothing - I had to watch them all go from single to taken. It was like someone hammering a nail through my heart. The worst part is, these guys they wound up with aren't any better than me. One was a cocky, ambitionless stoner who seemed to want nothing more from life than to just sit around, smoke, and play video games. Another was a druggie who tried to kill himself and almost went to jail. They are hardly the definition of "having their lives together". These guys aren't rock stars, A-list actors, professional athletes, or any kind of celebrity - they're just regular guys with regular day jobs, just "bad boys" who got lucky. I could be just as good as them or maybe even better. But I didn't have myself together beforehand, I didn't make the right impression. And I haven't met anyone like those girls since.

It makes me feel like I'm cursed.

[Opinion Owner]

It's just really frustrating when I hear I have to self-improve because it's like self-improve for what? So I can continue to lose out to guys whose problems are even worse than mine?

I just wish I'd known how to be interesting before I met those girls, because I just don't think I'm going to meet someone who would make me feel they way they did again.

[oddwaffle]

Well, statistics have shown that divorce rate between couples (yes, between 2 married people) have been falling rapidly since 1970s. In fact, people were most unhappy about their marriages before all of this dating scene. People back then married each other because it was efficient and cost saving. A family was like a firm/company. The wife does the house work, watch over spending and reduce costs for operating of the family and the husband try to earn the money, increase revenue... etc.

Now, you have a lot more time saving tools to save you from the house work and women start earning more and more. People no longer need to keep the cost saving model and have more time to enjoy life. People nowadays marry each other because they love each other. They talk to each other, they have fun together and share their time together.

People don't marry each other to be happy. Happy people get married. Nobody wants to marry grumpy people. Marriages is the result of being happy, not the cause.

[thedevilwithin]

I love being single. I think there are two types of people, people who are more themselves in a relationship, and people who are more themselves without one. I fall into the latter. When i'm single, everything is easy. Decisions are made quickly, i know what i want to do and just go for it. I know how to cheer myself up when i'm sad, and how to look after myself when i'm sick. For me relationships are hard and confusing. So many decisions have to be run by the other person, and there's always this awkwardness of do they mean what they are saying or are they just being polite/nice? There's always some form of compromise that results in neither party getting what they want. You have to consider someone elses feelings, etc etc.
It's so much work. I'm not a person this stuff comes naturally to.
So when my friends try to set me up, i just want to cry. It's so much worse when it's a set up. There's this relationship label put on you before you've even had a date. I like getting to know someone, seeing how well we get along, having my independence and life (and freedom to do what i want) while kind of meeting up. I don't want to become one thing, i like relationships where it's two people coming together but bringing their uniqueness with them.
Like i said though, some people are relationship people. They are just naturally good at it. It's impressive and it makes them more themselves and happy, so it's a wonderful thing. It's just not everyone is the same.

[driel]

Agreed, I don't attract people when I'm depressed, sad and not taking care of myself. I have to feel alive and know that I'm living my life right by me and then the confidence just comes naturally. Being single is not the end of the world, if anything it gives you the opportunity to do exactly what you want to do but I think life should be full of friends and family, as long as those two things have a good influence on you. Some people mix up being single and being isolated from friends, family and give up on meeting new people while theyre still single! If anything you slow down when you meet the right person because you both understand each other. You really just have to chase life a little bit, try to accomplish goals and dreams, even if it ends differently than you thought. Otherwise life just passes you by and doesn't wait for you to get your shit together.

[TheSkaFish]

"I don't attract people when I'm depressed, sad and not taking care of myself."

I agree with that, I just wish I'd known it at the time. I met the girls I wanted to date before I was ready. I didn't know what a wreck I must have seemed like. I made lots of mistakes due to inexperience and just wasn't prepared. Those girls represented where I wanted to be, not where I was.

"You really just have to chase life a little bit, try to accomplish goals and dreams, even if it ends differently than you thought. Otherwise life just passes you by and doesn't wait for you to get your shit together."

That's exactly what happened to me. I really relate to it.

[Print]

A few of my friends had babies last year and this year and two of them are married they always try setting me up with someone because
"I need to find someone who will treat me like the world"
can't i just treat myself like the world? -Writes world on my wrist- hello world you sexy beast you -goes about awkwardly kissing my wrist- okay done with that now onto the fact that they have hit 20 this year cool beans marriage and kids are for them is it for me? Nope not at all I'm about to hit 20 on the 25th of this month and all I'm thinking about is finally one more year after that then it's legal for me to drink!!! (mind you I don't like drinking but the thought of just being able to go into a store and buying it makes me feel powerful!!!) jk sorry went off the deep end there
I get why my friends are doing it they're happy in their relationships so they want to spread the joy and I just happen to like the joy I create by myself.

[Scrambled]

Its easy for a girl to be single. You can get your goals and can get your sex. Many women have fun being single and just having fun with random dudes. Many guys can't do this. If a guy is single, chances are he is poor with women, and he is setting himself for failure. If a guy is single, he has to be a player to make up for this. But playing women is hard, calculated work, and you often in a short relationship anyway.

[Ozanne]

"Many women have fun being single and just having fun with random dudes. Many guys can't do this"
Well, then who do you think the random dudes are that they're having sex with? They didn't come from out of nowhere. :/

[DarkHumorRUs]

They're the same 5% of the male population who get 75% of the female population.

[Scrambled]

No my dear:) You used the "equal" argument in the game. Its false however. The best form of quantitative evidence of this is sex workers. In Australia, my sex worker texted me this morning lol, that she has risen her prices to $400 an hour. I googled it, a gigolo charges $150? See the difference? Women can get it easier then men. Supply and demand. This is reflected in real life. You go to a pub, hypothetically, 10 guys will hit on the hottie there, so yes one guy will get lucky. But that guy is probably very good with women and he gets a lot of women. 9 guys are left. Now, hypothetically, 9 women are there. A girl will not just give it up to any guy just because. So the girls will leave and find another guy, or not even bother, leaving 9 dudes (maybe a few got lucky), so lets say 5 dudes at the pub with their dicks in their hand. And my personal experience? I got friendshipzoned by my whole female social environment, whereas my friend has bedded over 100 of them? bottom line only a...

[Scrambled]

... minority guys can have the power that a majority of females possess. And lastly, the easiest example. I could take my profile, and I can take you profile, put it on Adult Friend Finder and you know what will happen? you will get tons of hits and I will have to work for odd one or two. Women have this far more easier then men.

[Scrambled]

lol... basically mine is the long version of what @DarkHumorRUs said.

[GamerQueen1995]

If women can get dates easier then men then why am I 19, a virgin, and never had a date? Oh yeah it's cause you need to be hot for men to date you. I'm the ugliest woman on earth and it would take a pretty desperate man to date me.

[Scrambled]

@GamerQueen1995 its funny, my mom says she is the ugliest girl in the world. So now I am confused? Listen, Marilyn Monroe said it best "there is no such thing as an ugly girl, but rather a lazy girl". Hit the gym, eat right, and get off those games. That will help you. Also your mind is keeping you back saying that a guy would be desperate to take you. I think that's a bit silly to tell anybody how they feel before they even do anything. You do that to yourself, and then project it onto the world. The world doesn't work like that. And yes, you may have nobody, but I was a virgin till 21, many guys here older than that with their V card and many don't ever attract women. You on the other hand can put a profile on craigslist, state exactly what you want and who you are and get laid.

[GamerQueen1995]

I have an ugly face though so even if I lost weight I'd still be ugly. Besides Ivd tried losing weight before by doing a low carb diet combined with exersice for about 5 months and I didn't lose any weight. I've seen pictures from when I was young (like 4 years old) and even then I was overweight. And I allways stay around the same weight all time. It's like, I don't lose it or gain it, I just sit at one weight.

[GamerQueen1995]

And by the way I use a dating site and I only get 1 or 2 messages in a month and it's usually creepy old men who want to "de-flower" me.

[homper87]

@GamerQueen1995 beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I bet you're prettier than you realize.

[GamerQueen1995]

@homper87

No, I'm ugly. Even ugly guys think I'm ugly.

[Scrambled]

Lol... im loving that 5 guys feel me and no woman does. @GamerQueen1995, I am not going to give you Disney shit advice like "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" "god made somebody for everyone" or any of that crap. That advice pisses me off to no end (sorry @homper87). That's not how life works. I was called gross in my teens and early 20 years. You at least have the luxury of getting "deflowered" by a creep, I never even had that option. I just followed Marilyn Monroe's advice. Unfortunately, those with the uglier genes have to work a little more on themselves. If you just work on 3 core things: 1) Confidence. You have black and white thinking (its terrible and wrong, there are grey areas). Don't pin your life success to looks. That's where I fell hard. Just do whatever you love and be really good at it, and base your confidence on the value you can add to the world. Get out the house and find your passion. Don't give a fuck what other people think, just follow your passion and beat...

[Scrambled]

... them. People who get out succeed. 2) Looks/beauty. I spend hours keeping myself in shape and it helps a bit, but number 1 is more important. I think your attempt at exercise was poor. It took me 3 years of hard gyming to get my body. I promise you, if you just get into the habit of eating right and constant workouts, you will lose weight. You will have a sexy bod. In fact, gym is the only guarantee of success and you only have yourself to blame if you don't. Face? I know tons of guys (my brother included) who love hot bodies over a face. Then, even so, when you lose weight, your face changes and looks better. My face when I was 20 is totally different to the face I have now. EVEN so, I am involved in the BDSM scene, and all types of women get their kit off and fun with like minded guys and women. Looks don't matter much and I have spoken to a lot of ladies who say the BDSM scene saved them as they are with open people who accept them for who they are... and then you get tied up:)

[Scrambled]

3) Being vulnerable. Shy/nice/introverted people suffer from not being vulnerable. To ask for what you want puts you in a position of hurtful vulnerability. Just be vulnerable and start working for what you want. Everyone had to start somewhere. I recommend a book Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. Amazing. While im here, go online and search "Centre for clinical interventions". Its a DIY psychology page and they have workbooks to do for people with self esteem issues and BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder, something I had)

[GamerQueen1995]

I was devoted to my exercise actually. And I weighed myself today and for some reason I've lost 10 pounds and I haven't been exersicing or anything. I guess doing nothing works for me. And I want to be in love before I lose my virginty and I want a man to love me for my personality. I've asked plenty of "ugly" guys out before but even they thought I was ugly and they were also virgins.

[BunnyRose12]

I'm currently struggling with this. I have bee single for almost five years and the last guy I " dated" for three years recently made it clear that he was just using me for money. It's kind of hard for me to be happy about being single considering all of my friends are in long term relationships. I can't even remember the last time I had a girls night out. I'm getting to the point now where I have no choice but to be happy with being single and learning to do things by myself. When my son goes to his father for the weekend. It would be nice to go on a date or meet a guy who won't use me.

[homper87]

Spend some time with your girl friends! Enjoy life! Your radiance will draw good men to you. Trust me :)

[BunnyRose12]

@homper87 that's the thing all of the women I know are in relationships, and any time I asked them to go out for a girls night, they always want to bring their dude and of course they dont bring any single guy friends they know so I won't be a third, fourth, or fifth wheel. It's kind of annoying so I just stopped asking them to go out and figured maybe I should just do things by myself.

[homper87]

Maybe it's time to make new friends ;)

[BunnyRose12]

@homper87 yoi make that seem easy.

[homper87]

It can be! you can be my friend easily! :) i love making new friends!

[menina]

I love this Take!
I used to be a sad because the majority of my friends are in relationships and one of them is getting married. Then I realized, that this is my time to be with myself, to love myself and no one can do this for me. So, I don't think that being single is a bad thing.
It's actually great, because I'm find out who I am and what I like.
I like when you say "Being single doesn’t mean you need to be fixed. It doesn’t mean that there’s no one out there either! It means you are just at a point in your life that was meant to be your time alone to find out what you really like to do and who you really are." That really describes what I feel now.
And I know that the right guy will come into my life in the right time. There's no need to be rush.
I love the quote!

[idkwtftoputhere]

"Silly little freedoms that don’t really mean much are gone, and you suddenly have to explain yourself each time things go on in your life."

THIS.

It's exactly one of the major reasons why I don't want to get into a relationship. I have close friends that have boyfriends and all they ever do is vent to me about their drama/insecurities/problems with their relationships. Listening to all that constantly has really put me off getting romantically involved with someone. Thank you for this great mytake though. :)

[Ozanne]

I really do miss that. :( I am happily married, but I do get a bit annoyed when I can't even just slip out the door to go get the newspaper without him saying, "where are you going"? I get it, I'm leaving the house and it looks odd. But jesus, I'm leaving while wearing my bathrobe, I can't be going that far.

[Sara413]

Great take!

I spent almost my entire twenties (and teens) single. Honestly, I think people who jump from relationship to relationship and never give themselves the time to be single for a while do themselves a great disservice. You learn a lot about yourself when you're single, and I think that's important. Besides, when you focus on yourself rather than dating whoever you can get for the sake of having a relationship, you end up carrying a lot less baggage into any future relationship that you DO have.

Obviously, it got lonely sometimes being single for so long, and it was sexually frustrating at times, but I wouldn't trade my single years for anything. I got to know myself, my value, my wants and needs so intimately that now that I am in a relationship, it honestly all seems so easy!!

[HookingSwan]

Yes. people shoukd enjoy being single. I don't know whatever it is wrong with it. Being balanced individuals on our own will make us better partners for someoneone day.
Also, I agree with what you said: never get urself in a relationship just for the sake of being in one.
Like my current boyfriend asked me upon we met: why r u single? Bad experience? Or... (U are sexy, funny and kind, so why are u single) hhh 😄
I answered him: well i never met the guy that made me not want to be.
And now that, for the 1st time, I am not single, I am loving it. The wait was worth it. ididntsettle for anything less than extraordinary just for the sake of not being single.
This is my feedback. I guess. A bit too much about me.
But just wanted to say that i agree completely.
Another great My Take!

[lonelywarrior40]

Throughout my life I have searched always happiness and peace. These 2 feelings are the most important values of this fake life except health!
When I think my relationships, I always think; being with someone which brings me only sadless, anxiety, uncomfortablity and grief isn't better than being alone with a happy life... People always think they must find "someone" to be happy because they are stuck to think they "must" be happy when they have a lover :) I wish this was true; in that we would be happy so easily ;)
It is a great Take; It doesn't suggest to people, "be single forever!!!", moreover It triggers people count about how to be happy ;)

[stephelix07]

Yeah! People are forcing me into a relationship I'm a single mom with one beautiful little girl she's enough to give me happiness, I don't want a boyfriend so far I love being single, it's fun less stress, less needy persorn asking for sex, they like, when! wehn! yo pu don't call me enough you don't kiss me right. WTF already? I like making man spend lol or I just split or spend for myself.
I just have a friend with benefit to fuck with and call when I feel like it, no dam wining talk to me about how this things.

[YourFutureEx]

You reminded me my second question I asked on GAG.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1218717-is-it-bad-to-be-single

"So YourFutureEx, why are you single?"
-Ah! If I got committed with a girl, it'd be unfair for the rest 3.5 billion others.
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Good take :)

[Aspirios47]

Sweet MyTake! At times I do get lonely and jealous somewhat because dang near everyone I come across are in relationships, but then I ask myself "How many of those individuals are truly happy with their partner?"

It's after the realization that I literally have a full life ahead with so many new experiences, new people, and the potential that I can literally have any career that I want due to my skills that I don't need the extra trouble of getting pulled down with people who are not worth the trouble. Being single feels like freedom, it feels like a breath of fresh air. I know that I can work on bettering myself as a person before settling down later on in life with the right person for me.

[JustPhillip]

In 9th grade I got rejected by so many girls that I gave up I've been single all my life that I'm able to accept it and be happy about it. I still have my family friends and hobbies to enjoy so there's no reason I should be sad. All though I dodnt mean me being single is going to change. I plan on being single for life I'm not getting a girlfriend when Im done with school and all that & I dont plan on getting married ever either

Why? Because I save so much money not dating or marrying/having kids I can save thousands

Did you know marriage costs $25,000 the least thats fucking nuts how am I supposed to pay the bills netflix and gas when I wasted so much on marriage

[ArtAttack]

Somehow, it seems funny that being rejected in 9th grade made you give up on girls. Sure, you're absolutely right: there are many other things you can and should be focusing on in life. However, you're only 19, dude: I wouldn't give up on girls altogether just yet, although waiting until you're ready is always advisable.

[Bipolarjew02015]

Being single your entire life you'll begin to hate possibly even despise the single life because you try to get into a relationship but you fail many times and then it brings insecurity and you begin to harbor negative emotions such as depression or bitterness/anger and then when you are single and you address it to others then they try to convince you to remain that way when really you don't want to or they tell you to wait when you have waited 23 years of your life and then when your 30 they tell you to wait and so on but you made every effort to get in a relationship you look your best you act your best you put yourself out there but nothing

[BunnyRose12]

story of my life. I know exactly what you mean and the people who tell you to wait are the people in relationships. Like wtf how long did you wait exactly? Nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like that!

[ArtAttack]

Yeah, the one's with the advice are almost always the ones who have nothing to complain about because they've already had at least one relationship, if not more.

[Anonymous]

While this is true that you have to be happy with yourself before you're in a relationship, I've still struggled to find a relationship. I've had so many first dates with women, have gotten 4 at the most with some, where we have amazing dates but then out of nowhere, they're gone and leave no explanation. Now it hasn't been like that all the time. There's been some who liked me but I didn't like back whether we had common interests but no physical attraction and vice versa.

What gets me is they leave without any explanation and I don't know what I did wrong, whether I did too much or too little, something with my personality, etc. and I'd like to figure out.

[homper87]

Most women are fickle, that's why :)

[Anonymous]

"It's Okay to Be Single"

It's more than ok, it's great, women are simply not worth the effort to in a relationship.

I do prefer just to have casual sex with different partners and then live my life as I pleases without all the female bullshit. No girlfriend getting fat on me, no "I want to have children", no mothers in law. I can do without all the female crap, and just have the part I do enjoy, sex.

The only problem is, I am getting older and it's increasing hard to get the young attractive girls into bed, but I guess that's part of life. Fortunately girls are overall fairly easy to seduce, but age means I have to spend more money to get the same sort of girls back home than I use to. Still, it beats the hell out of relationships :)

[love2run13]

How are good women not worth the effort? lol is that why I'm having no luck in dating ;D

[love2run13]

Sounds like your a commitment-phobe lol

[Ozanne]

@love2run13 His is just MGTOW ignorance speaking. The guy doesn't want women having one single shred of shared benefit in a relationship because of all the wrongdoings feminism created the gave women privileges in family law, so he is opting for being single and just fucking women. MGTOWs usually will not accept that there are any good women (they've called them NAWALTs Not All Wimen Are Like That). Now that he's getting to be older and less appealing, he's complaining. It's basically a movement that paralleled what femiznazis did. This is why you can probably note the bitter and women-hating tone in his response.

[Opinion Owner]

@love2run13

There certainly are good women worth the effort, but they are as hard to find as descent man. I rather spend my time having fun, than "having no luck in dating" and be sad. I may be selfish or superficial, but I have only one life and I'll be dammed if I don't make the most out of it.

"commitment-phobe" ... I am told that, so it must be true, not that I actually care about it.

@Ozanne
I don't see how MGTOW or feminism has anything to do with it, it's about what's good in life and what isn't.

There are lot's I love about women and lot's I don't like at all, in relationships I'll get all the bad along with most of the good. I'll rather have all the good and non of the bad part, of course I get get a bit lonely sometime but it's still a small price to pay for getting so much good and so little crap.

[Hannah591]

Of course it's okay. We're born single and stay so for many years as we grow as human beings. When we're single, we continue to grow and experience new things which can lead you to someone new. No-one should be ashamed about being single and no-one should try to "fix" it. Some people enjoy the single life.