Take Owner.. it seems like you want a fucking medal for admitting you cheated.
You aren't owning up to your own actions either since you paint your choice as a mistake and make yourself the fucking victim throughout the entire take. You don't feel bad for cheating; You feel bad for being labelled as a cheater, and that's it. It's a personal issue, not an issue of you abandoning your morals.. because you clearly don't have any. Why don't you actually be honest and admit you're not sad for him but sad for your image being tarnished? Just kidding; Honesty is clearly not your strong suit.
In fact, this entire take is a pathetic attempt to get people online to validate your belief that you're 'still a good person' and that it 'wasn't your fault', and anyone with half a brain can see your lame attempt at a forced pick-me-up.
Cheating is not a mistake. Let's call it what it was, a decision. Calling it a 'mistake' makes it sound like a way of avoiding full responsibility.
I think it's great that you've realized how wrong your choices were, however, a person who cheats is a cheater. Hopefully you've learned from that, can move on, and not repeat those same decisions in your future relationships. Best of luck to you.
Is there ever any point at all in which she and others should stop calling her a cheater? Will there ever be a time in the future at which calling her a cheater is just kind of pointless and stupid? If memory serves, you believe in mortal souls, honeybee. Should she be labeled and label herself a cheater for all of eternity?
Wouldn't it be great if we could just do whatever the hell we want when we are young, and have it not affect us later in life? Wouldn't it be great if we could erase our mistakes?
Well unfortunately for you, that's not how the world works. So i wouldn't be so high and mighty if i were you. You cheated. You made that decision. Enough excuses, you have nobody to blame but yourself. It isn't "their loss". Its more like "they dodged a bullet". You need to accept the fact that your mistake DOES in fact define you. You can't erase it.
If someone comes along and is willing to put up with you, then that's great. But i wouldn't count on it.
You aren't specifically defined by your mistakes, you are defined by your actions.
Your actions has defined you as a cheater. You could make as many excuses as you want about why you did what you did but it doesn't change the fact you are immoral.
Your boyfriend can only see you for a few hours a week? How fucking lucky! There's women out there who have military boyfriends/husbands who they don't see for months on end! Hell it's been 2 months since I seen my boyfriend and oh wait I haven't had any urge to cheat on him.
At end of day this is your reputation... think of it like a credit score. You are going to be judged on how your previous relationship was and how it ended. I have yet to find someone to prove the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" wrong.
@CheerGirl38139 Preferably they die after monogamously settling down into a relationship that lasts several years in which they never cheat on their significant other that they love very much.
I too don't know anyone who has cheated who didn't cheat again. It's sort of a Pavlovian response. Whatever situations triggered the first infidelity will trigger it again if it happens again. If she gets married and her husband's work starts dominating time again the likelihood increases that she will fall back into this routine. We're creatures of habit, and once a pattern presents itself (she cheats on her boyfriend because he isn't spending enough time with her) the outcome of a similar pattern is generally the same.
my girlfriend lives 8000 miles away... There is temptation there. You have to fight it. To say, "finding someone closer would be really really really nice." is giving up on what I already have. Yes those thoughts have crossed my mind. I do not act on them. I have never actually "met" her in real life. I have never held her hand. Never kissed her lips. Nothing. I'd kill for a few hours a week...
If you cheat, you are morally incorrect. Have enough respect to tell the person first or break up with them. Actually, GET cheated on, know how it feels, understand what it does to your head and then come on here saying that you're not a cheater. Look past your naivety and try reflecting what kind of person you are and who you want to be, and grow off of that. If you ever have to choose between the person you are with and another, choose the second choice, because if you ever loved the first person you wouldn't be thinking that way.
Thank you for your wise words. I actually really love the quote you added at the end, it's very, very true. I have been cheated on, actually, at the beginning of my relationship with my ex. I decided that I could try to look past it and try to make the relationship work, but it was a hot mess all throughout... I will never understand how someone can read a myTake and then think that they know what the poster has gone through in their lives aside from the posted experience. Thank you for commenting, have a nice night xxxx
OMG this is me giving you a standing ovation for the courage to post this and not go anonymous. I predict you will get blasted (like I did for a question I asked about cheating) by the "once a cheater always a cheater" / "a cheater is a selfish, disgusting amoral, POS". etc etc..
I've never cheated nor been cheated on. I know the horrible pain and collateral damage that infidelity can cause. And I AGREE a million percent that one poor choice does not define a person, nor make them a bad person, a poor role model, etc, etc.
Man I'm ashamed of the people my age that have so little life experience and act like they know for a fact that if someone commits a one time act of infidelity at age 17... that they without a doubt one hundred percent cheat on people for the rest of their life... which could be like another 80 years. Smh... wherected do you people come up with this stuff? You're 20 years old FFS... God.
I'm secure in everything I do therefore I don't need second chances if it didn't turn out the way I wanted that's fine at least i was secure in my decision before hand. Second chances are unnecessary to me. I have no use for them and I won't hand them out either people need to start being more conscious of what they're doing. I also downvoted your opinion by the way :)
Your mistakes don't define you and obody is perfect. You are right there. But what you did wasn't a mistake. You were fully aware of what you were doing. You cheated. Period. And while owning up to it a day all is great, it doesn't really change anything
Your right she made a conscious decision to cheat not caring about the consequences, I dont think that counts as a bad decision. Hell even this take is a cop out and an attempt to make herself feel better.
@BlackDynamite83 yes it was a conscious decision and that's the only issue I have. She didn't make a mistake. This was planned. And that's why most people are coming at her the way that they are.
lol a mistake is accidentally knocking over a glass of water or something. Cheating is a conscious choice that takes a lot of premeditation. I have no sympathy for cheaters because it shows complete selfishness and a complete lack of empathy. You are a cheater and you'll always be defined by it. Sorry but it is what it is.
Thank you for your input! I was getting a little worried that you weren't going to come and put me in my place with your superior intelligence... Thank God you showed up.. Have an awesome day xx
Knocking over a glass of water is an *accident* A mistake is a wrong decision. Happens to everyone. Let every 'man' who never took a decision he regretted raise his hand.
Your title is a lie. You cheated, therefore you are cheater. If you murder someone, you are a murderer. If you rob someone, you are a robber. Just because you learned from your mistakes, doesn't mean that they didn't happen. YOU ARE A CHEATER! IT's good that you know you were wrong, but don't try to act like you aren't what you are. Being a cheater doesn't define you. I'm sure there are more qualities, traits, and other things that make you YOU, but one of those things just happens to be the fact that you are a CHEATER.
You are not the victim in this story no matter how paint yourself and your reasons. You need to accept sole responsibility for and what you did and deal with tge consequences. You say your not a cheater yet you cheated and are likely to cheat again when things get difficult and some charming stranger comes around looking for an easy lay. Your inability to be loyal has stained your relationship and your mans seething resentment will probably bring it down eventually. #theatgirlaintloyal
I've accepted full responsibility for my actions, and I don't see where you're coming up with the idea that I'm playing the victim. I hurt my significant other, I cheated on him. I shared this myTake to tell MY story, to share MY experience. Thank you for commenting xx
Sorry to butt in @Explore2016 your right she doesn't want to accept responsibility ot deal with the consequences, she even tries to justify what she did.
@BlackDynamite83 No, no, it's fine! I've been blasted on here by about 70 people, all saying the same things. I don't think anyone could say anything that could offend me haha xx
I don't feel shamed. I feel shame for the 80 people on this thread that think they're doing their civic duty by trying to teach me a lesson I've already learned, hahaa. xx
I murdered someone, but I'm not a murderer, after all, nobody is perfect, right?
You cheated, you're a cheater. Period.
It's good you acknowledge it was a mistake, but you still did it. If every time your relationships hit a rough path you're gonna cheat, and then say you're sorry, you're gonna have a tough life. Anyways, you are a cheater, don't try to convince the world that you're not, accept what you did and move on.
I'm not trying to convince the world. I have moved on, that's why I've written this myTake, for other people going through similar situations. Thanks for commenting xx
I don't think the murder thing is a useful analogy at all. Some offenses are so heinous that the stigma should be permanent (rape, murdet, and others).
Were you ever mean or selfish or an asshole to anyone ever? (That's more or less rhetorical. If you answer "no," then I know I am addressing a liar)
If you go to a poker house and you cheat once you may get away with it. but it always leave you in the frame of mind of 'i could do it again and not get caught. And if you have cheated people may catch on, and you will be labeled a heater of the poker house. Your ex boyfriend knkws you cheated, he has told all of hus frinds and family, and maybe many people fron each of your towns know about it.
If your future relationships start going downhill, where will your mind end up? Right back with the possibility of cheating. It wasn't hard the furst time, and usually gets easier to do a second time as you are les afraid. And you can get guys, you know that. So you are a cheater, and always will be.
Yeah, no one's perfect, and we all make mistakes. But we are defined by our actions, mistakes or not. That's life. You cheated, therefore, you were a cheater. You're trying to claim you're not, and make excuses for what you did. You don't need to. You did it, it's done, you're moving on, and that's great. But you still did it, and that's never going to change. We all have to live with the mistakes we make, from the minor, to the catastrophic.
Dude was working three jobs a day and still managed to fit you in his schedule. You have a fight and instead of figuring things out you go fuck a 20 year old "mature" dude who ended up just using you to try the other side. But you know... you're a woman of substance so keep doing you. You'll be a joy in the army tho LOL.
Wow you were emotional cheating, then you cheated physical and then you told him about it (cause your a really good person). Then while you were emotionally cheating on him (cause he wasn't paying enough attention to you) you probably put him down so much just to justify your actions. You are definitely pathological in your reasons. And yet you still don't take no responsibility, yet you say you do in the description, but your title says it all. And the only reason why you care cause it hurts YOUR image. No gay guy goes to third base. There is absolutely nothing special about you to make a gay guy go straight. I really hope you find someone like you, so you won't cause pain to anyone else. I have experience with women like you best thing that your ex can do is never talk to you again.
Well, I'm amazed. I'm truly bewildered by your astonishing remarks about my life and my choices. You're brilliant. For the record, the guy was bisexual... I did not "turn him straight", nor did I think I did. I hope you're getting the satisfaction you needed from your boring day by trying to make someone a decade younger than you feel like shit! However, it's not working too well--you may need to find a better hobby. P. S Thanks for contributing to making myTake successful. :) xx
You cheated because you "love being around your significant other" but he was working 3 jobs and couldn't meet your needs. It sounds like it was more about you then your significant other. If he wasn't meeting your needs why didn't you just break up with him instead of cheating?
I did the immature and cowardly thing and cheated on my s/o. I regret it, but I can't take it back. I'm not sure why I didn't just break it off. Thanks for commenting xx
Regardless, I don't think there is an excuse for cheating. If you aren't satisfied leave the relationship. You only hurt the other person more by cheating and if you cared about and loved them you wouldn't cheat. You're a human being who has cheated and a lot of people don't like that. I don't. I already have trust issues as is, I don't want to be constantly worrying that the person I'm with might cheat on me if I can't meet their standards or they get bored. I don't hate cheaters, I just don't value their decisions and wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who has cheated in the past. However, you're young and I do believe they can change over time. To me a mistake is leaving a coffee on the roof of your car and driving off, not sleeping/doing sexual things with another when you're committing to someone, that's a conscious choice.
I get where you're coming from. You're not a dog, you're not a habitual cheater.
And I wouldn't label you. Your mistakes don't define you.
But you should accept that some people might not date you or might think you are a cheater because very often, once a cheater always a cheater. Meaning, I don't think most people cheat just once.
You're a cheater I'm a murderer, a thief, and a liar. Doesn't matter if I murdered for science, Stole for the hungry, and lied to the dying. I still did it and so did you. Accept it. We don't get to just erase our past because we don't like it. You did it. Learn to live with it and deal with the fact that you'll be judged by it. Doesn't matter if you refuse it's still gonna happen. Now you gonna keep beating yourself up over it or you gonna move on? We've all done shit we aren't proud of.
But wait, if you cheated than you are a cheater, Cheater means "Someone who has cheated"
You cheated, thus you are in fact by logic a cheater.
You might have changed your ways which is nice, meaning you are no longer someone who participates in the act of cheating, buy you still are someone who has cheated.
Good luck on the armed forces bit though, everyone should do there part :)
Well, if you're being technical, I guess that'd be so. I just meant in the figurative way. Thank you so much for your comment, and thanks for the luck! I'm sure I'll need it haha. xx
I guess what comes to question is your trustworthiness.
Its like the saying "I wouldn't trust a theft with my money" just because he stole is no proof that he'd steel again, let alone from you, but his reputations perceives him.
You'll learn that once you go downrage to basic training
You'll learn in that environment you are not measured by what you say but what you do.
I fell asleep ONCE in basic and all throughout I was known as the guy who always falls asleep, even though I never did it again after.
If you stole something like a buddy of mine did, it would make your whole billet less likely to trust you regardless If you did it again, was sorry or not.
Same goes with this. Its more of a reputation thing, you did it once, so why am I to believe you wouldn't do it again?
Well the remedy is proving through actions that you have changed your ways, the more you do that the more the latter will fade from existence.
Yeah, a ton of them. Most of them telling me that I'm a dirty sl*t and that guys will have fun with me in the military, things along those lines. Lmfao. I've had a few nice conversations, though!! xx
Well then if you're a dirty slut I guess most people are full out whores. Statistically more than 70% of SOs cheat on each other at some point.
Nevertheless, mistakes are mistakes, we all make them, you seem like a brilliant chick who's trying to do something good with her life despite what she did, besides it ain't the end of the fucking world.
And hey, you seem to take critism well, was creeping this page a bit, your responses are priceless XD
Haha, no kidding. And yeah, it takes me quite a fucking lot to get me rattled! I'm a pretty level-headed person. I don't really understand why people think they're going to offend me by calling me pathetic and a whore... Seems like a waste of time, to me. Haha xx
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Take Owner.. it seems like you want a fucking medal for admitting you cheated.
You aren't owning up to your own actions either since you paint your choice as a mistake and make yourself the fucking victim throughout the entire take. You don't feel bad for cheating; You feel bad for being labelled as a cheater, and that's it. It's a personal issue, not an issue of you abandoning your morals.. because you clearly don't have any. Why don't you actually be honest and admit you're not sad for him but sad for your image being tarnished? Just kidding; Honesty is clearly not your strong suit.
In fact, this entire take is a pathetic attempt to get people online to validate your belief that you're 'still a good person' and that it 'wasn't your fault', and anyone with half a brain can see your lame attempt at a forced pick-me-up.
Women kill me sometimes.
And it's funny how she says on her profile that she's brutally honest.
@Strider90 I guess half-truths are just brutal truths that made a mistake?
Cheating is not a mistake. Let's call it what it was, a decision. Calling it a 'mistake' makes it sound like a way of avoiding full responsibility.
I think it's great that you've realized how wrong your choices were, however, a person who cheats is a cheater. Hopefully you've learned from that, can move on, and not repeat those same decisions in your future relationships. Best of luck to you.
I saw your response here quoted on your profile.
Is there ever any point at all in which she and others should stop calling her a cheater? Will there ever be a time in the future at which calling her a cheater is just kind of pointless and stupid? If memory serves, you believe in mortal souls, honeybee. Should she be labeled and label herself a cheater for all of eternity?
Were you ever mean to somebody ever?
Sorry, I know this mytake is old.
Wouldn't it be great if we could just do whatever the hell we want when we are young, and have it not affect us later in life? Wouldn't it be great if we could erase our mistakes?
Well unfortunately for you, that's not how the world works. So i wouldn't be so high and mighty if i were you. You cheated. You made that decision. Enough excuses, you have nobody to blame but yourself. It isn't "their loss". Its more like "they dodged a bullet". You need to accept the fact that your mistake DOES in fact define you. You can't erase it.
If someone comes along and is willing to put up with you, then that's great. But i wouldn't count on it.
Thank you, anon, for holding that crystal ball of yours and looking into my future. I appreciate your hard work! Thanks for commenting xx
You are already a cheater, you can't afford to be bitter too. With those 2 things combined, you will surely be forever alone.
You aren't specifically defined by your mistakes, you are defined by your actions.
Your actions has defined you as a cheater. You could make as many excuses as you want about why you did what you did but it doesn't change the fact you are immoral.
Your boyfriend can only see you for a few hours a week? How fucking lucky! There's women out there who have military boyfriends/husbands who they don't see for months on end! Hell it's been 2 months since I seen my boyfriend and oh wait I haven't had any urge to cheat on him.
At end of day this is your reputation... think of it like a credit score. You are going to be judged on how your previous relationship was and how it ended.
I have yet to find someone to prove the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" wrong.
Youve yet to find someone prove that saying wrong? So everyone you've even known that cheated once had done it again?
I guess to PROVE it to you... a person who once cheated would literally have to die, having never cheated again... for yourl theory to be disproven.
@CheerGirl38139 Preferably they die after monogamously settling down into a relationship that lasts several years in which they never cheat on their significant other that they love very much.
I too don't know anyone who has cheated who didn't cheat again. It's sort of a Pavlovian response. Whatever situations triggered the first infidelity will trigger it again if it happens again. If she gets married and her husband's work starts dominating time again the likelihood increases that she will fall back into this routine. We're creatures of habit, and once a pattern presents itself (she cheats on her boyfriend because he isn't spending enough time with her) the outcome of a similar pattern is generally the same.
my girlfriend lives 8000 miles away... There is temptation there. You have to fight it. To say, "finding someone closer would be really really really nice." is giving up on what I already have. Yes those thoughts have crossed my mind. I do not act on them. I have never actually "met" her in real life. I have never held her hand. Never kissed her lips. Nothing. I'd kill for a few hours a week...
If you cheat, you are morally incorrect. Have enough respect to tell the person first or break up with them. Actually, GET cheated on, know how it feels, understand what it does to your head and then come on here saying that you're not a cheater. Look past your naivety and try reflecting what kind of person you are and who you want to be, and grow off of that.
If you ever have to choose between the person you are with and another, choose the second choice, because if you ever loved the first person you wouldn't be thinking that way.
Thank you for your wise words. I actually really love the quote you added at the end, it's very, very true. I have been cheated on, actually, at the beginning of my relationship with my ex. I decided that I could try to look past it and try to make the relationship work, but it was a hot mess all throughout... I will never understand how someone can read a myTake and then think that they know what the poster has gone through in their lives aside from the posted experience. Thank you for commenting, have a nice night xxxx
Can you message me helped?
Helpha* dumb aucto correct
OMG this is me giving you a standing ovation for the courage to post this and not go anonymous. I predict you will get blasted (like I did for a question I asked about cheating) by the "once a cheater always a cheater" / "a cheater is a selfish, disgusting amoral, POS". etc etc..
I've never cheated nor been cheated on. I know the horrible pain and collateral damage that infidelity can cause. And I AGREE a million percent that one poor choice does not define a person, nor make them a bad person, a poor role model, etc, etc.
"to err is human; to forgive, divine" - Alex Pope
Thank you so much @militarygirl509
Haters to this post will be blocked. Flame on.
Thank you so much, sweetheart. It took me some courage to post this, because I know all of the hate I will get. You're a gem, thank you x
Trust me I know @militarygirl509
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LOL@ the dogmatic down voters living in their utopian dreamland where no one ever makes a poor choice and no one that does deserves to live in it.
God help you if you ever need a second chance at anything in your life.
Man I'm ashamed of the people my age that have so little life experience and act like they know for a fact that if someone commits a one time act of infidelity at age 17... that they without a doubt one hundred percent cheat on people for the rest of their life... which could be like another 80 years. Smh... wherected do you people come up with this stuff? You're 20 years old FFS... God.
I'm secure in everything I do therefore I don't need second chances if it didn't turn out the way I wanted that's fine at least i was secure in my decision before hand. Second chances are unnecessary to me. I have no use for them and I won't hand them out either people need to start being more conscious of what they're doing. I also downvoted your opinion by the way :)
Your mistakes don't define you and obody is perfect. You are right there. But what you did wasn't a mistake. You were fully aware of what you were doing. You cheated. Period. And while owning up to it a day all is great, it doesn't really change anything
Thank you for reading in between the lines and telling me that I've cheated! Wow! :) Great observation. xx Thanks for commenting
Lol no problemmm 😉
Your right she made a conscious decision to cheat not caring about the consequences, I dont think that counts as a bad decision. Hell even this take is a cop out and an attempt to make herself feel better.
@BlackDynamite83 yes it was a conscious decision and that's the only issue I have. She didn't make a mistake. This was planned. And that's why most people are coming at her the way that they are.
lol a mistake is accidentally knocking over a glass of water or something. Cheating is a conscious choice that takes a lot of premeditation. I have no sympathy for cheaters because it shows complete selfishness and a complete lack of empathy. You are a cheater and you'll always be defined by it. Sorry but it is what it is.
Thank you for your input! I was getting a little worried that you weren't going to come and put me in my place with your superior intelligence... Thank God you showed up.. Have an awesome day xx
Knocking over a glass of water is an *accident*
A mistake is a wrong decision. Happens to everyone.
Let every 'man' who never took a decision he regretted raise his hand.
@jacquesvol Sure I have regrets in my life but they're usually spontaneous decisions I've made without thinking about something rationally.
You're welcome
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Quite right
Your title is a lie. You cheated, therefore you are cheater. If you murder someone, you are a murderer. If you rob someone, you are a robber. Just because you learned from your mistakes, doesn't mean that they didn't happen. YOU ARE A CHEATER! IT's good that you know you were wrong, but don't try to act like you aren't what you are. Being a cheater doesn't define you. I'm sure there are more qualities, traits, and other things that make you YOU, but one of those things just happens to be the fact that you are a CHEATER.
Great analogy! Thanks for commenting xx
You are not the victim in this story no matter how paint yourself and your reasons. You need to accept sole responsibility for and what you did and deal with tge consequences. You say your not a cheater yet you cheated and are likely to cheat again when things get difficult and some charming stranger comes around looking for an easy lay. Your inability to be loyal has stained your relationship and your mans seething resentment will probably bring it down eventually. #theatgirlaintloyal
I've accepted full responsibility for my actions, and I don't see where you're coming up with the idea that I'm playing the victim. I hurt my significant other, I cheated on him. I shared this myTake to tell MY story, to share MY experience. Thank you for commenting xx
Sorry to butt in @Explore2016 your right she doesn't want to accept responsibility ot deal with the consequences, she even tries to justify what she did.
@BlackDynamite83 I was simply sharing my story, bucko. Sorry you didn't like it. xx
Sorry but like a lot of people see cheaters a vermin but I dont know you.
@BlackDynamite83 It's all good! xx
Sorry to be mean
@BlackDynamite83 No, no, it's fine! I've been blasted on here by about 70 people, all saying the same things. I don't think anyone could say anything that could offend me haha xx
Well hopefully the shame will teach you a lesson.
I don't feel shamed. I feel shame for the 80 people on this thread that think they're doing their civic duty by trying to teach me a lesson I've already learned, hahaa. xx
I murdered someone, but I'm not a murderer, after all, nobody is perfect, right?
You cheated, you're a cheater. Period.
It's good you acknowledge it was a mistake, but you still did it. If every time your relationships hit a rough path you're gonna cheat, and then say you're sorry, you're gonna have a tough life.
Anyways, you are a cheater, don't try to convince the world that you're not, accept what you did and move on.
Interesting analogy about the murderer.
@MargaritaPeach Thank you ;)
I'm not trying to convince the world. I have moved on, that's why I've written this myTake, for other people going through similar situations. Thanks for commenting xx
I was thinking the same thing. Great minds think alike.
I don't think the murder thing is a useful analogy at all. Some offenses are so heinous that the stigma should be permanent (rape, murdet, and others).
Were you ever mean or selfish or an asshole to anyone ever? (That's more or less rhetorical. If you answer "no," then I know I am addressing a liar)
If you go to a poker house and you cheat once you may get away with it. but it always leave you in the frame of mind of 'i could do it again and not get caught. And if you have cheated people may catch on, and you will be labeled a heater of the poker house. Your ex boyfriend knkws you cheated, he has told all of hus frinds and family, and maybe many people fron each of your towns know about it.
If your future relationships start going downhill, where will your mind end up? Right back with the possibility of cheating. It wasn't hard the furst time, and usually gets easier to do a second time as you are les afraid. And you can get guys, you know that. So you are a cheater, and always will be.
I'm glad you know my future, and what my state of mind will be in my future relationships! Very philosophical!! Thanks for commenting xx
Yeah, no one's perfect, and we all make mistakes. But we are defined by our actions, mistakes or not. That's life.
You cheated, therefore, you were a cheater. You're trying to claim you're not, and make excuses for what you did. You don't need to. You did it, it's done, you're moving on, and that's great. But you still did it, and that's never going to change.
We all have to live with the mistakes we make, from the minor, to the catastrophic.
Thank you for the life advice. xx
Dude was working three jobs a day and still managed to fit you in his schedule. You have a fight and instead of figuring things out you go fuck a 20 year old "mature" dude who ended up just using you to try the other side. But you know... you're a woman of substance so keep doing you. You'll be a joy in the army tho LOL.
Thanks for you input, just sharing my experience xx
Wow you were emotional cheating, then you cheated physical and then you told him about it (cause your a really good person). Then while you were emotionally cheating on him (cause he wasn't paying enough attention to you) you probably put him down so much just to justify your actions. You are definitely pathological in your reasons. And yet you still don't take no responsibility, yet you say you do in the description, but your title says it all. And the only reason why you care cause it hurts YOUR image. No gay guy goes to third base. There is absolutely nothing special about you to make a gay guy go straight. I really hope you find someone like you, so you won't cause pain to anyone else. I have experience with women like you best thing that your ex can do is never talk to you again.
Well, I'm amazed. I'm truly bewildered by your astonishing remarks about my life and my choices. You're brilliant. For the record, the guy was bisexual... I did not "turn him straight", nor did I think I did. I hope you're getting the satisfaction you needed from your boring day by trying to make someone a decade younger than you feel like shit! However, it's not working too well--you may need to find a better hobby. P. S Thanks for contributing to making myTake successful. :) xx
You cheated because you "love being around your significant other" but he was working 3 jobs and couldn't meet your needs. It sounds like it was more about you then your significant other. If he wasn't meeting your needs why didn't you just break up with him instead of cheating?
I did the immature and cowardly thing and cheated on my s/o. I regret it, but I can't take it back. I'm not sure why I didn't just break it off. Thanks for commenting xx
Regardless, I don't think there is an excuse for cheating. If you aren't satisfied leave the relationship. You only hurt the other person more by cheating and if you cared about and loved them you wouldn't cheat. You're a human being who has cheated and a lot of people don't like that. I don't. I already have trust issues as is, I don't want to be constantly worrying that the person I'm with might cheat on me if I can't meet their standards or they get bored. I don't hate cheaters, I just don't value their decisions and wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who has cheated in the past. However, you're young and I do believe they can change over time. To me a mistake is leaving a coffee on the roof of your car and driving off, not sleeping/doing sexual things with another when you're committing to someone, that's a conscious choice.
I get where you're coming from. You're not a dog, you're not a habitual cheater.
And I wouldn't label you. Your mistakes don't define you.
But you should accept that some people might not date you or might think you are a cheater because very often, once a cheater always a cheater. Meaning, I don't think most people cheat just once.
Thank you for sharing your opinion xx
You're a cheater I'm a murderer, a thief, and a liar. Doesn't matter if I murdered for science, Stole for the hungry, and lied to the dying. I still did it and so did you. Accept it. We don't get to just erase our past because we don't like it. You did it. Learn to live with it and deal with the fact that you'll be judged by it. Doesn't matter if you refuse it's still gonna happen. Now you gonna keep beating yourself up over it or you gonna move on? We've all done shit we aren't proud of.
Thank you for your input!
But wait, if you cheated than you are a cheater, Cheater means "Someone who has cheated"
You cheated, thus you are in fact by logic a cheater.
You might have changed your ways which is nice, meaning you are no longer someone who participates in the act of cheating, buy you still are someone who has cheated.
Good luck on the armed forces bit though, everyone should do there part :)
Well, if you're being technical, I guess that'd be so. I just meant in the figurative way. Thank you so much for your comment, and thanks for the luck! I'm sure I'll need it haha. xx
I guess what comes to question is your trustworthiness.
Its like the saying "I wouldn't trust a theft with my money" just because he stole is no proof that he'd steel again, let alone from you, but his reputations perceives him.
You'll learn that once you go downrage to basic training
You'll learn in that environment you are not measured by what you say but what you do.
I fell asleep ONCE in basic and all throughout I was known as the guy who always falls asleep, even though I never did it again after.
If you stole something like a buddy of mine did, it would make your whole billet less likely to trust you regardless If you did it again, was sorry or not.
Same goes with this. Its more of a reputation thing, you did it once, so why am I to believe you wouldn't do it again?
Well the remedy is proving through actions that you have changed your ways, the more you do that the more the latter will fade from existence.
Thank you, sweetheart. I understand and agree with what you're saying. xx
I'm glad you think so honey. I wish you mad luck in the Canadian Army.
Thank you so much!! xxx
Do you get a lot of messages regarding this post? Lol
Yeah, a ton of them. Most of them telling me that I'm a dirty sl*t and that guys will have fun with me in the military, things along those lines. Lmfao. I've had a few nice conversations, though!! xx
Well then if you're a dirty slut I guess most people are full out whores. Statistically more than 70% of SOs cheat on each other at some point.
Nevertheless, mistakes are mistakes, we all make them, you seem like a brilliant chick who's trying to do something good with her life despite what she did, besides it ain't the end of the fucking world.
And hey, you seem to take critism well, was creeping this page a bit, your responses are priceless XD
Haha, no kidding. And yeah, it takes me quite a fucking lot to get me rattled! I'm a pretty level-headed person. I don't really understand why people think they're going to offend me by calling me pathetic and a whore... Seems like a waste of time, to me. Haha xx
It takes quite a fucking lot ***
You should get mean, you'll need it for the Army, well... depending on what it is you want to do that is
Eh, no point in getting mean with a bunch of people on an online forum who have no idea what they're talking about. xx
Eh good point. Maybe I just get a rise out of seeing women stick it to men sometimes.
(In a complete non-that's what she said kinda way)