I think its unfair that society feels the need to divide people into the beautiful and the not so beautiful. Because society, if anything, is right only at face value. Good looks are something that many people assume are the only basis for attraction(they're right, if that's their case). I'd dare say that there are no ugly people. But there are people with horrible personalities. And that in the truest sense is the very definition of true ugliness.
To unwind, while looks do matter, I think I would prefer a solid personality over beautiful figure. My ideal woman must be.
1) Humourous
There are fewer things that are more important than sharing laughter and fun with your partner. If you can make him laugh everyday, there's no way he'll ever pass over you. Laughter between me and mine is an intimate moment, to forget the world for a moment and lay aside the burdens that strain your mind so that you can be your true self without prejudice or judgement. I don't think there's any feeling quite like it.
2) Family Person
“You must remember, family is often born of blood, but it doesn't depend on blood. Nor is it exclusive of friendship. Family members can be your best friends, you know. And best friends, whether or not they are related to you, can be your family.”
Yeah, being a family person is important. While there are exceptions to the case(there always will be). Its worth noting, I feel, that every person has an innate desire to start a family, grow and be a part of it. A loving family can turn lives around and they will always be a pillar of strength.
I don't care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching--they are your family. Someone who inculcates these values is a gem.
3) Willing to Learn and Teach
"Educate a man, and you just educate a man. Educate a woman, and you educate an entire generation"
I admit to being an ignorant person, if I didn't, I wouldn't be genuinely able to learn. I'd expect her to share what she learnt, how excited she was to learn a new skill. Because when this happens, it brings about subtle life style changes. The only proven way to improve yourself is to learn. I feel women, in general, are better learners, because while they learn methodically, we men learn by intuition.
I don't mind being corrected, if someone has taken the care to correct me, I'd genuinely be grateful for this. Many people mistake this for humiliation. Because as Einstein said "education is the progressive realization of our ignorance". It holds true to both genders.
4) Must Be Oriented With Hardships
This is an important one, I hate the sheltered lives people take for granted. Having lived in poverty and seeing how much of my days I had to shred to just keep it together, I want a girl who realizes the values and lessons that lie here. Better yet, someone who has faced the insecurities and uncertainties that being poor offers.
Whatever you earn in your own life is what you get to say is yours. I don't like the princess attitude that some girls adopt whilst being ignorant of how much of a ridiculous mess life can be.
I don't know how long good times last, but I promise you they end. They will. There will be bad times, that is a given, but I can also promise you they will end too. But as long as I have someone who knows this, makes the change in times all the more bearable.
5) Must love Food and Travel
Wanderlust! The girl must love the world.
“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
The journey and not the end, life is a journey. The want for travel is completely natural to mankind. I want to travel the world with the one I love, every journey no matter how small or great is an experience of a lifetime, every moment of it is fun, and is filled with fun, romance and adventure. Call me old fashioned. But this is a absolute must do before I die.
“Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the 'Titanic' who waved off the dessert cart.”
You ought to love food, food is the best way to learn about the different people in the world. And also to cook.
“The only real stumbling block is fear of failure. In cooking you've got to have a what-the-hell attitude.”
I love cooking and eating, I love cooking with a partner. Its a very fulfilling feeling. And also chemistry. Cooking is the ultimate chemistry.
6) Loyalty
Last but not the least, loyalty. All of the above stand to fail, if there's no loyalty in a relationship.
We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence. You have to work at a relationship every single day without taking it for granted. Sometimes even a lifetime is too less to completely know a person.
The most you can ask of a person is a loyalty, but its a fault to assume loyalty can be given, taken or bought. Loyalty and trust are earned. I'd expect my girl to have me earn her loyalty and vice versa. A relationship can withstand the test of time if there's loyalty, if not, its as good as done.
So to conclude this myTake, I'll end it with a quote from Bob Marley, to surmise how important the right girl is to us guys.
You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.
― Bob Marley
Thank you for reading. #loveliving
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