Why You Should COMPLETELY Avoid The Married Man

[Anonymous]

Lets just say from my experience messing with a married man was not ok. Of course I didn't know he was married until after we had sex and I spent 300 dollars to go see him....

1. He's married. He made a commitment to the woman he calls his wife and has invested a lot into the relationship, (Kids, house, etc)

2. He didn't take his wife's feelings into consideration when he cheated, so why do you think he will take yours into consideration? He won't. You will see that once he goes back to his wife and cuts you off. Lets face it....You're not as special as you think....

3. If you are smart, you will cut him off as soon as you find out he's married. If not, he will lose respect for you cause CLEARLY you don't have any for yourself.

4. If him and his wife are having problems (which is really none of your business), it's still not right to encourage him being a cheater....If you cared so much about him, you will leave him completely alone and let him and his wife work things out because you dont want to be the reason he loses everything while going through a divorce....I know you think if he loses everything because he cheated well you are just as guilty because you slept with him knowing he was married. Its not completely his fault.

Don't be a bitch on a mission trying to take someones man. Its not right..(Think about it, he could lose everything he has for cheating). Have more respect for yourselves...And as much as some of you don't like hearing this, HAVE RESPECT FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP. Move on with your lives, and don't wait around for that divorce to happen because more than likely it won't.

[Anonymous]

Adultery is evil, plain and simple. It may seem attractive, but that's only because it's your gut telling you that you must have sex with that person... NOW. It is selfish, inconsiderate, and dishonest.

I agree with this take for the most part, but I'd like to add that all this adultery stuff can be rid of if people are cautious about and more selective of who they are sleeping with. "Casual sex" sounds like a neutral term, but it's just the modern version of an ancient immoral phenomenon: fornication. If people only choose to have sex when they are married, and only have sex with the person that they are married to, then adultery will cease to be problem, and divorce caused by adultery may even decline.

[myTake Owner]

Tell that to my selfish EX... He was a straight up asshole. Lied to me and told me he was single and living with his parents. Over the five months we talked everyday until I saved up enough money to see him, I fell head over heels in love with him. But after I went to go see him out of state, I stayed at a hotel and of course he stayed with me, but after I came back home, I found out BY HIS WIFE that he was married and had 3 kids and one on the way... She didn't come to me directly I guess he felt bad and told her about what happened so she made a facebook account and I ran into her on his friendslist. We didn't exchange words but the pics of her and him and their kids was enough to end everything. I layed into his ass, and even after i found out he was married he kept begging me for sex, sweet talked me and everything, even after I told him no he still begged. Then out of thin air he cut me off. He did the right thing though.

[Opinion Owner]

Did you meet this guy on the Internet? Why did you have to save enough money to meet him? Did he live very far away from you?

In any case, the guy probably had some mental issues. No sane, conscientious person would commit adultery. He probably just wanted easy sex and excitement from a slutty woman and then would return to his wife as if nothing had happened. In reality, adultery cases like this are the prime reason for the rise of STDs. People don't buy condoms, because doing so means having evidence that their minds have been perverted. The costs of adultery outweigh the temporary benefits, so even from a rational point of view, as well as Jewish and Christian and Muslim, adultery is immoral. I particularly like the Christian take on adultery: that adultery can be made by sight alone. In other words, the intention to have sex outside of marriage is as sinful as the act itself.

[myTake Owner]

Um well lets see, first of all We went to high school together, second, im not a slut please dont degrade me, third, he claims he's jewish so he shouldve known better and I thought because he was Jewish he wouldn't lead me on or lie to me... Thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry, I didn't intend to say you were a slut. I meant to refer the guy's mindset.

[Opinion Owner]

There are many, many non-practicing Jews. He probably just identified with the culture and ancestry, but not the beliefs. Though, even religious people do wrong.

[myTake Owner]

oh ok as long as thats clear between us. Well he did play me, then after everything was said and done he apologized and told me he fell in love with me, but it was a very selfish thing for him to do... This was before he cut me off. I mean we dont talk anymore but I do catch him looking at my profile and he tried to make a fake facebook profile and send me a request but I told him to stop it that its not healthy

[Spiorad_Aisce]

I agree with a lot of what you say - 1,2 and 3 are straightforward common sense - 4 is slightly complicated, he is just as much to blame as the mistress if not more if he was blindsiding the mistress if it ends in a messy divorce. There is a slight caveat if something really strong develops and he is fully honest plus the marriage is on its last legs (very rare but it does happen) - I would advocate taking a step back and saying when the marriage is definitely over maybe then a relationship can restart (again I stress it is probably quite rare but I personally believe nothing is black and white)

[Psi_Unknown]

I agree with these points and the reverse for guys too. It is probably best to ask person if they are married if unsure. Now, people and couples might view marriage differently, but I personally view it as an important commitment, and am not here to ruin any relationship, which also does beg the point that people don't necessarily have to be married to be in a committed relationship. As has been said before, marriage and long-term special commitments to certain individuals have their own set of problems and are not for everyone.

[NatashaJ]

Another one I could think of is that none of his family or friends will like you if you two get together, sure they be nice to you upfront but they probably talk shit about you behind your back. To me I prefer a guy with friends and a family who likes me, they clearly will call you a whore and not like you no matter what you do if you two end up together.

[NatashaJ]

will not like you*

[Alayio]

I hate it so much. Some women even are more attracted to married men for the challenge or some shit like that and it's like wtf? I know when my SO and I announced we were a thing some girls told him how jealous of me they are for having them? It's so disrespectful people need to re-evaluate their morals and be considerate to others and their relationships.

[Alayio]

*having him

[madhatters4]

agree on all counts... don't even bother with me i'm married.

some girl "matched gamed" me on kik... is that a thing?
she started trying to chat me up. i told her i'm married so don't waste your time. she kept at it though. i told her why would you bother with a married guy you don't even know.

[godfatherfan]

all you need is 1
1) he is married. You would have to be a lowlife piece of trash to fuck with another persons family. the person helping the other cheat is a worse piece of slime then the cheating asshole.
it is just disgusting anyone would have to put up a post like this.

[Londonscotland]

I made the mistake of talking to a guy who had a girlfriend I listen to all he's lies and drama and I turned out to be the crazy and the liar while I was nothing but a good friend to him and try to help him at the end I told he's girlfriend everything he was doing and like all insecure girls she forgive him and took him back then I found out he cheated again and she's still with him I'm just laughing and I moved on.

[ManOnFire]

OF COURSE you shouldn't be going after a married man. However, many women who know a guy is married will STILL try to have some sort of inappropriate relationship with him. I've heard it said that married men are more attractive to women. I don't really know, but either way, it doesn't give you a right to think you can jump in there and be with him too.

[CaramelCookie]

I think these days marriage has lost its meaning, there are far too many quick divorces and s a lot due to adultery. Some men will never change even if they're married, I've come across a few who will still want casual sex from other women, its sickening and disrespectful.

Good take

[Random_Joe]

Sorry you had to find out he's married after spending the $300. I'm the sort of person that would of told him to pay me back or I'd go tell his wife :) .

[LittleSally]

Very true. But stupid people will continue on being stupid and claim not to care about other people's feelings. It's a sad world out there sometimes.

[killerboots]

Good take but I believe women mess with married men because they are harder to obtain than single men. I know when I'm taken, women be trying to get with me without me even trying but when I'm single, no girl be trying to talk to me. I guess the forbidden fruit is more tempting.

[Sunflower19]

Great take! I hope a lot of the "I'm with a Married Man" questions will die down after they read this!

[evenlift]

The fact that this even has to be said is sad.

Women want what other women want, unfortunately even when it's a bad idea! But, perhaps, you will change a few minds.

[OlderAndWiser]

100% correct on all counts.

[Anonymous]

Sadly, some people have no respect for others. Yeah, the married person should not even think about messing around but I also hate how others can get with a married person and not feel guilty. Sick people.

[JPSAM]

this is exactly what ruined my marriage but only i was the one that have been cheated on, with the same guy, since we were still going out, before even getting engaged.

[MikeGaultier]

Honestly... reason #1 on it's own is sufficient grounds for avoiding married men, or women.

[Anonymous]

This right here is why I'm having so much trouble... women don't trust men plain and simple... and plain inexperienced guys just getting by and looking for that special girl are up against an enemy if you will that they are no match for.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I can't believe that there needs to be a take about this. Lol

[Waffles731]

People who cheat on their wives or husbands don't deserve to be happy