girl? well, I am actually seeing a young man who considers himself introverted, and I see it. But he seems to welcome my personality to it's very refreshing.
@BruceJender I mean. I clearly stated at the end that this take was old and in my drafts and introverted and shy aren't necessarily synonyms. Someone can be off to themselves but not afraid to speak to others. He doesn't come off shy when directly spoken to.
A man being shy does not mean he will be faithful at all. Anyone can be capable of cheating regardless of being introverted or extroverted. Those factors do not determine your morale.
I find it kinda hard for some not to take it personally as you're basically saying we're not good enough simply because we're socially awkward when trying to talk to girls-it could stem from many reasons. I'm sure you have a few flaws yourself-how would you feel I made made a mytake slamming girls with whatever flaw you have?
@Sabretooth are you talking to me? Yes, you ARE TAKING THIS TOO PERSONALLY. I say right there in the title, "FOR ME". I didn't say they aren't good enough, and I do simplify it to ME having trouble dating them but everyone loves to shove their foot into a shoe that doesn't fit just to get upset. I never said introverts are good enough for me because they're socially awkward. And what's up with the fact that introverts think that social anxiety/awkwardness is exclusive to them? I'm socially awkward, I have anxiety, some people are more uppity and hyper with their social awkwardness. I never claimed to not have flaws, if anything, I make them clear, I mention that I speak too much and come off too strong for many. I'm not slamming you, I said that I don't do well with shy men. But everyone is taking it as "i think shy men suck because they aren't cool enough for me". You're getting hurt over nothing. You missed my point.
Yes! Not everything is said to be true, this is based off of personal experience which is why I don't understand why people are so personally effected by what has happened in my life. If being shy is part of what makes you you, then be you. This whole take is why I as an individual have not had luck with shy men. Extroverts can be shy, ambiverts can be shy. Maybe you're on of them, and thats why you aren't comfortable with being shy, if that's why you're trying to say.
how though, how does my individual love life effect shy men who have never met me? not to mention, i'm seeing a shy guy right now, so it's not like i refused to ever date one.
Because we are dismissed easily without giving a chance just because we lack confidence-one has to actually have something to be confident in. It's not because you're intimidating or you're annoying-we're simply struggling to say something. A shy guy wants to to change-but we have no reason to
But that doesn't mean that I do it. The guys I'm basing it off of I did give a chance, and it didn't work for ME. How can you say what my reasons were in my own private relationships. If you have no reason to change, don't. This wasn't a persuasive take, this is just my personal experience. Not all shy men are the same, some do have something to be confident in, shy is a broad term. If you don't have anything to be confident in, why did you claim to be honest? Is honesty not a positive trait?
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You remind me of myself, so I just wanted to say good job.
I love a guy thats confident! So sexy!
Shy guys aren't for me either.
why are you telling me this
how come you read it?
Awesome. We all have preferences.
find you a man who isn't shy girl
girl? well, I am actually seeing a young man who considers himself introverted, and I see it. But he seems to welcome my personality to it's very refreshing.
"Why Shy Guys Just Aren't For Me"... but you're "seeing" a young man who considers himself introverted?
I don't get it?
@BruceJender I mean. I clearly stated at the end that this take was old and in my drafts and introverted and shy aren't necessarily synonyms. Someone can be off to themselves but not afraid to speak to others. He doesn't come off shy when directly spoken to.
I used to be very shy but I changed my ways.
It's okay to be shy.
interesting mytake!
a shy guy is an honest guy.
There is no correlation in shyness and honesty.
I mean when it comes to things like like cheating and such or his interest-stuff like that
Can't be confident when you have no reason to be
By honesty I mean we won't babble nonsense just to get in your pants-
I also wanna say that it can take time for a shy guy to open up
A man being shy does not mean he will be faithful at all. Anyone can be capable of cheating regardless of being introverted or extroverted. Those factors do not determine your morale.
Confidence can exist in shy people, confidence goes beyond being outgoing. Some people find comfort in being quite.
You sound like you took this take a little personally, and that you dislike outgoing men.
Well, yes. That's what being shy is.
I was a shy guy and no, I don't
I find it kinda hard for some not to take it personally as you're basically saying we're not good enough simply because we're socially awkward when trying to talk to girls-it could stem from many reasons. I'm sure you have a few flaws yourself-how would you feel I made made a mytake slamming girls with whatever flaw you have?
@Sabretooth are you talking to me? Yes, you ARE TAKING THIS TOO PERSONALLY. I say right there in the title, "FOR ME". I didn't say they aren't good enough, and I do simplify it to ME having trouble dating them but everyone loves to shove their foot into a shoe that doesn't fit just to get upset. I never said introverts are good enough for me because they're socially awkward. And what's up with the fact that introverts think that social anxiety/awkwardness is exclusive to them? I'm socially awkward, I have anxiety, some people are more uppity and hyper with their social awkwardness. I never claimed to not have flaws, if anything, I make them clear, I mention that I speak too much and come off too strong for many. I'm not slamming you, I said that I don't do well with shy men. But everyone is taking it as "i think shy men suck because they aren't cool enough for me". You're getting hurt over nothing. You missed my point.
So, what's the difference between a shy guy and yourself? What is your point? I'm not getting hurt over it
Plus, not everything said about introverts is true-one such thing as we gain energy from solitude-we don't
Yes! Not everything is said to be true, this is based off of personal experience which is why I don't understand why people are so personally effected by what has happened in my life. If being shy is part of what makes you you, then be you. This whole take is why I as an individual have not had luck with shy men. Extroverts can be shy, ambiverts can be shy. Maybe you're on of them, and thats why you aren't comfortable with being shy, if that's why you're trying to say.
Become it affects us a great deal
how though, how does my individual love life effect shy men who have never met me? not to mention, i'm seeing a shy guy right now, so it's not like i refused to ever date one.
Because we are dismissed easily without giving a chance just because we lack confidence-one has to actually have something to be confident in. It's not because you're intimidating or you're annoying-we're simply struggling to say something. A shy guy wants to to change-but we have no reason to
But that doesn't mean that I do it. The guys I'm basing it off of I did give a chance, and it didn't work for ME. How can you say what my reasons were in my own private relationships. If you have no reason to change, don't. This wasn't a persuasive take, this is just my personal experience. Not all shy men are the same, some do have something to be confident in, shy is a broad term. If you don't have anything to be confident in, why did you claim to be honest? Is honesty not a positive trait?
We want to change
It is a positive trait
But that doesn't help us when trying to talk to girls
but isn't "we" presumptuous? In my take, I only speak myself, shouldn't you do the same in your opinion?
If honesty is a positive trait, why not be confident in that.
who wants to be shy? in my experience-it's never been enough
some people don't mind it.
I can't imagine that-for me-it was a real hindrance
Interesting.
To each his own