We all crave to be loved. We want someone who is reliable, compassionate and enjoys spending time with us. We want our partner to find us physically attractive. We want to know that they are thinking about us, not obsessively, but that we pop up in his/her mind throughout the day. We want security and reassurance, confidence that our partners wouldn't just lose interest because the next best thing showed up in their lives.
Well, did you know that these things by themselves are extremely easy to find? Right now you're probably saying to yourself, "this jerk lives in a fairytale." Nope! I absolutely do not live in a fairytale, and I will explain deeper what I'm talking about. Notice how I said, "these things by themselves." There are many thay will give you these things and wouldn't mind sacrificing getting the same from you, just so they can have you. They will sweep you off your feet and you will feel like you're making a mistake for not committing to them. Why? Because many of us feel that's what love is about, all about how the other person treats us, but I think deep down we know better than that.
Love is when you want someone in your life, feel sexual passion toward them, care for them, want to know them more, be there for them, proud to call them your love and wanting to put a smile on their face. All these things, plus anything else that comes to your mind, plus one more thing I'm about to mention. You feel those things for your partner and your partner appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted. Ah! There it is. If you don't feel these things for your partner and your partner still adores you, how could you say you love them. What we want is the person who we feel that burning desire for to love and cherish us right back.
When we burn with desire for our partner and he/she appreciates it and reciprocates, THAT'S true love. This is the ONLY way that you can truly know if he/she loves you. It's having that person you desire without sacrificing the passion because we've been with so many people who've gotten bored with us because the chase is over. When they get bored of the chase, they see your love and passion as just an option, something to do and they can take it or leave it because it doesn't excite them.
With true love, you don't need to sacrifice finding a partner who fulfills your desires sexually or emotionally. Many say I should just marry a rich guy and I'll have the life. What life? Being taken care of, but left with a void in my heart because I'm committed to a man while I have no passion for? Or many will say to be with a guy because he adornes me jewelry, flowers and romantics getaways. What are those things even worth of its not from the person that you burn with desire for. You want that person to appreciate how you are on fire for them and not just be simply flattered or bored because they think they have you wrapped around their finger.
The partner that can appreciate you for sexual love and your emotional love without letting it go to their head and while having the same feelings for you, sexually and emotionally is what true romantic love is. Love is not about settling. Love is about making sacrifices for that person your truly want. It's not about settling for a partner you find less attractive because you know they will get you to the destination you're after. It's about mutual sacrifice for the person you burn with love and lust for; enduring hardships, understanding them, wanting to add to their life while they add to yours. There's a big difference between sacrifice and settling. Love yourself FIRST and never ever settle in either direction. Love is not a transaction. It's a bond and a pact that you are worthy of.
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