To men wanting a girlfriend: There’s no use being nice. Just have the money!

[Anonymous]

I am 25 and I should have realized this long ago but I did not want to accept it. I should have known what it really is that women are after. I tried to be nice, funny and good spirited to most of the women and other folks. But nothing happened at all. No dates, no interest, no flirting, nothing. Nothing at all.

I didn’t expect too much but I expected at least to be able to find a girlfriend. Boy what was I doing? daydreaming? I can not count how many regrets I have and how much time and some money I have wasted on women and absolutely nothing came out of it. It’s time to take charge and do what I do best with my life now without involving too much into women.

Women care for the biggest part of all about one simple yet hard to obtain thing.

Money.

The more you have it, the more likely you can get a girlfriend. In fact the more you have the better your chances. I saw how women exclusively have chosen to date the one’s with better financial statuses than the rest of us. Me and my buddies have wondered what do these men have, that makes them so desired by the women?

Only recently I have found out why and I did not want to come to this realization but the truth does hurt a lot.

So if you are a man then you are likely to be average like the rest of us and cannot get a girlfriend. If you have tried then you know what struggles I have been through. Women cannot be impressed by you and me and the rest of us to be our girlfriends.

In fact you can be exactly that charming man, who is nice, sweet, funny, makes everyone laugh, is supportive, cares about his woman and lends his shoulder to be cried on if something terrible happened, reminds her how much he loves her and how beautiful she is – yes, all of this in one gentleman, that many girls think about at night and are crying themselves to sleep into their pillows because they do not have that gentleman as their boyfriend or maybe because he doesn’t exist (but they do!). But if you just got some of that cash available to spend it on her, then she is as good as all yours. Hell you don’t even need to be nice. Being nice is just what can be seen as a plus much like if you apply for jobs. Money is a requirement. No money, no honey! Being nice will not bring you any farther.

Simple as that.

So if you want to have a girlfriend then I will have some solid advise for you so you can get started as soon as possible. These are:

- Enroll in college, institutes, universities and get a better degree in any profession, that the job market today demands. Check what jobs are available in your location and check what profession is required in order to be employed in that position.

- DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BECOME A DROPOUT!!! This would be a very huge mistake and a setback! Unless you didn’t like your chosen profession of course.

- Do your current job and work hard. Get those promotions!

- Never stop! Sure, you can take some time off to rest or to lay off in order to rejuvenate yourself but don’t try to be without tasks for too long

- Keep applying for better jobs with better salaries. If you are unemployed, get an employment anywhere as soon as possible and spam those resumes!

- Keep updating your resume and CV at least once every 2 months

- Realize, that there is much more in life than just girls! Enjoy your life!

Last but not least: Be careful about your spending habits! You do not want to attract a gold digger!

If you achieve all of that and make a good amount of money, then you will be THE CHOOSER of women. That’s right! Currently the women choose which men they want (and they deliberately choose those with the money) but not if you are cashing big time, then YOU will choose the woman if you will. What should your woman be like? Big boobs, big booty, a seemingly sweet girl or a hot model? Blonde, red hair or dark hair? It doesn’t matter! Women will be competing for YOU!!! And that will be the time when YOU are in charge and that will feel most empowering!

Then you will remember my words and thank me. You will remember, that being nice is NOTHING! Money it is. Then hopefully you can pass on my advise, that I have given to you to the other men.

That’s it! I hope I have helped some of the younger men here. I know it is disappointing that you cannot get a good woman let alone a woman at all at your age and under your living circumstances but hey, that’s just life. I am not sure when I will be able to be successful with women but I am working on my plans.

Good luck my brothers! Focus on your plans and keep a clear head. It won't be easy but in years of hard work and countless efforts later this may be you.

[meganthemenace]

Fuck money. Give her food and back rubs.. maybe a little bit of cock in her pussy here and there.

[myTake Owner]

I need money in order to buy her food ☹

[meganthemenace]

Not exactly. Go pick some fruit in the backyard lmao

[myTake Owner]

Hahaha, okay, nice 😂
Sounds good. I'd like that kind of woman :)

[DoubleAJ]

my favourite quote this year so far!!!

[meganthemenace]

@DoubleAJ Aight

[Jedah225]

Sure. If you want to attract a certain type of woman

[AdamThomas]

It's not all about money. If that was the case would have been a virgin til now, but that's not the case at all. Once I learned some game I was able to have my fun with multiple women before finding a girl to settle down and have kids with, without having much money at all, and while being a short-arse.

Money makes you a good provider, but it doesn't turn her on. For a woman to be sexually and romantically attracted to you, it's about more than just how much money you have. Plenty of guys with money struggle with women. Plenty of those same guys who get a girl who only wants him for his money get cheated on too - why? Because money isn't what gives her the 'gina tingles. She isn't attracted to a wimp with money, she's just using him.

The number one thing women are attracted to is strength. Ask most women why they prefer a taller guy, and they'll say that it makes them feel safe. Ask them what the number one thing they look for in a guy and they'll say "confidence". Why? Because also, as well as a provider, they need a guy who can protect them. If the guy is a pussy with a lot of money, he isn't gonna be able to protect her is he?

"Nice guys" struggle with women because a lot of their behaviour is percieved as being weak, whether you think it is or not. Trying hard to impress a girl, giving too much too soon before she has earned it, being needy, being afraid to say what you think in case she gets offended, being afraid to make a move etc. All weak things.

The trouble is that many women don't understand that, so they tell us to be these nice guys, they complain about these assholes they always end up with and they'll tell you "I just want a nice guy!". You might say "well I'm a nice guy" and they'll say "yeah you are! You'll make some girl really happy one day! I want a nice guy just like you, who isn't you..." lol. They mean well, but they just don't understand that what they're encouraging you to do makes their pussies as dry as the Sahara desert.

But no, it's not all about money.

[Catie101]

In my relationships I have paid my good fair share of things. When I lived with my boyfriend I paid for half the rent, half the internet, half the grocery bills. If we went on dates, I paid for about 85% of them or we paid for ourselves. I owned a car and he didn't. If we went places, I would still be paying for the gas. If i wanted something, i paid for it. I bought my own booze, he bought his. I paid my admission into things, he paid his.

In fact, when he was not working, was just in school, he was running out of his loan money and was really struggling, so I covered rent, and groceries. I would help him out too by picking him up from work here and there and driving him places. I drove him around to apply for jobs. I arranged to help his brother move, when everything with the uhaul company fell through.

In my other relationship (which ended 3 years ago), I helped him out SO much and i lent him $4k to try and get him out of his bad situation, he still owes me $3200 and won't pay me back because he's a d-bag.

I dont make a lot of money, and I make less than both people I have dated, but I was always the one helping them because I am responsible with my money, I really value having some savings for emergencies, and keeping a good footing financially. I will never expect a man to pay for me, and I will never date a man based on how much money he has or makes. Now that being said, I also am not going to date someone with zero drive/ambition and no skills financially. I am not willing to hold others financial burdens anymore when its their own damn fault they are in that position.

[myTake Owner]

You have my condolences for what you have been through. I am really sorry to learn about that. I understand your situation only too well. Will a virtual hug help you?

[Catie101]

sure thing

[myTake Owner]

*Hugs* :)

[Browneye57]

Hard lesson learned eh?
A guy needs to have money. Period. Otherwise you're babysitting another adult and I'm not really aware of anyone that would do that voluntarily.

[Octavius]

"I tried to be nice, funny and good spirited to most of the women and other folks. But nothing happened at all. No dates, no interest, no flirting, nothing. Nothing at all."

This right here is your problem. You tried to be something which you naturally weren't. You played a role. They probably saw this was just an act and it turned them off (rightly so).

This is the same shit that happens to girls who go out with a guy who acts like prince charming at first and then after a few months he drops the romance because he stops trying "to be nice, funny and good spirited" because you can't pretend for the rest of your life.

"In fact you can be exactly that charming man, who is nice, sweet, funny, makes everyone laugh, is supportive, cares about his woman and lends his shoulder to be cried on if something terrible happened, reminds her how much he loves her and how beautiful she is – yes, all of this in one gentleman, that many girls think about at night and are crying themselves to sleep into their pillows because they do not have that gentleman as their boyfriend or maybe because he doesn’t exist (but they do!)."

If this is ALL that you are then yes a woman doesn't want that. You know why? Take a look at what you wrote again. It's missing stuff. You know what that is? YOU! All of this is being there for them, doing stuff for them. Most women want to see a guy who is trying to work towards something in the world. Trying to better himself and make a difference in some way in the world. None of that requires money.

You seem to believe in this dichotomy of either being a woman's doormat or being a rich asshole. Psst. There are millions of men who are neither of those things and that's what the average woman wants. Someone who isn't an asshole or a door mat.

[Machiavelli]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Honestly money is just a plus to a relationship in my opinion. In all honesty my boyfriend and his family is very rich, but I didn't fall in love knowing that. When I met him in college he was in a frat I was in a dorm so anytime we hung out we just went to one of our places. He made no sign of having a lot of money and I didn't care I loved him. He cared about and listened to me. 1 year into the relationship he brought me to his condo and his fathers house and let's say I was surprised. His family owned bentlys Lamborghinis etc etc and to be honest it really just intimidated me. It made me feel like I wasn't good enough and made me second guess my relationship with him. I told him that I didn't deserve that in my life and that he should be with some rich sorority girl. He told me no and that he loved me and that's why he waited a year before showing me. He's had girls use him for his money and such and he wanted to make sure that I loved him for him. Which I do! Yes money is important in a relationship your gonna need to financially support one another but that shouldn't be what the relationship is based off of. He's told me that I don't have to work and he'll pay for my needs but knowing what other girls have done to him I don't want to. I work at a pharmacy right now and I'm going to school for radiology everything I buy is with my own money. In the end what I'm saying is being rich is a plus in the relationship and yes money is important in a relationship to support one another but there also has to be love and respect too. If there is no love then your girl is a fucking gold digger and you deserve better.

[myTake Owner]

Nicely written! Thanks.
I wish your relationship to be steady and happy.
But I am going to keep going. No relationship for me so far was possible. And i tend to think that it is because of my lack of money.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you and I wish the best for you too!
Just remember that there is someone out there for you just don't over think it. Eventually everything will fall into place, but maybe it's just not at this moment or time in your life. I met my love at the worst time in my life laugh out loud just keep doing you and I wish you the best!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you :)
I will be wait for... *HER* ☺😍💞

[JohnDoe3000]

This is bullshit. Only a very specific subset of young women care about money (and they're not the ones you want a serious relationship with). Older women care more, but then I'm talking over 40...

Now educated young women will care about your education, so your advice not to dropout is solid.

For young women it's mostly about looks and confidence/charisma. If you look like shit and have zero presence, then maybe you have to resort to having money, but she will never really love you if she chose you for your money and you might get bland duty sex once a month.

I make good money for my age and when I reveal that I only get a small bump in the number of girls interested in me, and like I said, they're really not the ones you want a serious relationship with.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks.

[CubsterShura]

Disgusting! Only because you could not attract girls, doesn't mean that no one else could! I come from an upper-class family and my sister had to literally FIGHT to marry the guy she loves, a middle-class boy. Everyone opposed it because he wasn't rich enough for her, but guess what she doesn't care. She is earning as much as my brother-in-law earns and has the potential to earn more than him in the future, she has a more successful career life than him. But guess what? They're the most loving couple I've ever seen in life.

Boy lemme tell you about myself. I'm fairly pretty, get good grades in school, am smart, nice and everything a guy says he wants in his girl. Yet I'm avoided by boys. Do I care? No. I wish I knew why, but it doesn't bother me. Nor should it bother you!

[myTake Owner]

I loved reading your response. What a cute love story that is 😍 I wish i could find a girl, who couldn't care less about my money and would be mrs. lovey lovely. That's the power of true love i like to see. Not this money bull.

Going against all oppositions AND being successful is truly admirable because nothing stops true love!

[CubsterShura]

Exactly. If you are simply able to give her a decent life and not necessarily a luxurious life, you're good. Believe me when I say you will be able to get a girl like that for sure. It's not just the right person, but the right timing too. You're just 25. My brother-in-law was 30 when my sister started an affair with him. Time isn't running away.

[myTake Owner]

That's hell of a lot to wait still :(

[CubsterShura]

Then that's your problem not ours. Be rich and get a gold-digging wife, it's not hard. But stop preaching wrong stuff here. -.-

[myTake Owner]

Ewww, no! No gold diggers! They are disgusting!

[CubsterShura]

Then just be patient.

[myTake Owner]

Either way takes about as much time :/
But I'd really rather have a good woman. Or i rather be single than to be with a disgusting gold digger.

[CubsterShura]

That's your choice.

[myTake Owner]

It is? Hm. I didn't think so. I always thought it's either only one way (single and no money) or another (in a relationship with money).

[CubsterShura]

I come from a poor country... If you really think no money no honey, how do you think our country is so densely populated?

[myTake Owner]

:/
Instincts. People want to F around.
But I thought if they have a choice, they would choose partners with money. At least for women. It's called hypergamy (mating up with someone of higher class). I am not saying men don't do this. A gold digger can be anyone.
I will have to ask the low class citizens about love. But then again, I am almost low-class myself.

[CubsterShura]

Ever heard of leagues?

[myTake Owner]

Not really.

[CubsterShura]

You always end up with the same kind of person as yours. You marry someone of your same league. So to get the kind of person you desire for yourself, be that kind of person yourself first. :)

[myTake Owner]

Makes sense ☺😍💞
I like it.

[HereComesDrTran111]

"You marry someone of your same league. So to get the kind of person you desire for yourself, be that kind of person yourself first."

That's patently false. For men: the worse you are, the better woman you will get. If a man makes himself into a great person he will only get the worst women.

[CubsterShura]

@HereComesDrTran111 Not true. Don't you have any other task but spread your negativity to everyone? I've been telling someone a real story and cheering him up, take your negativity elsewhere because of what YOU experienced.

It's rather the opposite that always happens, unless you talk about marriages without real love or unfortunate arranged marriages. -.-

[myTake Owner]

But why are good women so rare? They are really so rare and they are often already in relationships.

[CubsterShura]

Good men are rare too. And most good men I find are also either uninterested in dating or already have a girlfriend. Good people are always rare.

[DairyCow]

First you get the money.
Then you get the power.
Then you get the women.

Nah. Don't agree. Some women, yes but some of my best memories with my husband were when we were broke as hell. It's a pain but it's kind of fun budgeting and stuff. We still have photos from when we lived out of a shared bedroom. We didn't have cash to go out, but we had fun just driving around and pretending to be teenagers again, roaming the streets or just staying at home watching Stand By Me on VHS. It's cute. Makes the more lavish times in life so much sweeter.

[myTake Owner]

Cute story i must say.

[windknowsmyname]

My thing is im sweet, kind, smart, too nice, helpful, and caring. Get called mentor, angel, god, was told to never change, and still got my valentines card from my ex on why she likes me, people secretly admire me, want to be me and do what i do. Over 4 people later admits it. I dont smoke, do drugs, still a virgin, no tatoos, and im a gentleman by most of the girls qualifications. These chatactetics gets me nowhere and girls suggest me being a little bad, or wait for the right girl. So you mean to tell me that girls want a nice guy whos has bad boy traits rooted in him? Thats not being myself. Girls use nice guys and when he had enough shell just say he's not nice anyway. Or say im too nice rather than saying im predictably boring and wants some sort of drama. I have come to conclusion that this generation of women will only settle for nice guys but to be there everything is not going to happen that bad boy will forever be ingrave in her heart and mind, esp if its her ex.

[BrittBratt2416]

Ooh not this shit again. Then tell me why I didn't drop my boyfriend when he had a busted car that broke down on our first date but didn't have money back then to get new one? And he worked at Wal-Mart at the time..

[myTake Owner]

Interesting.

[Bleh-___-]

God, I'd take a hobo over whoever wrote this myTake.

[myTake Owner]

What is that supposed to mean?

[Bleh-___-]

You started off by talking about how your personality is so great and then spent the rest of the article contradicting it. No offense but this article sounds like one of the most obnoxious types of guys out there.
So I'll take the broke homeless guy scrapping for change over this dude any day lol

[myTake Owner]

I don't see myself contradicting. Point these out where i am contradicting myself.

[independentman]

Bro I feel you but I didn't read your take because I am short in time.
I taught that girls are just after money but I herd multiple stories in which the girl earn double or more then the guy. I can tell you one if your interested.
Both go for personality you can remain just as you are an still attract girls depends on you if you like them or not.
You don't need hobby or job or anything you just get some confidence and that's it. Sometimes even that it's just unnecesary (personal story) but you have to accept what you get.
What we both are doing wrong is negative thinking at least for me that my issue I ant to solve fast/

[Anonymous]

You live in a bubble. Go outside and look around and you'll see guys who are not rich with wives, gfs and families. You are deeply insecure so you believe that money will help you attract women, but you're 100% wrong. Work on your personality and confidence and your fortunes will change.

[lacie92]

Translation: If your a hopeless d-bag with no charm make lots of money and someone just as fake as you will touch your dingle-bits

[myTake Owner]

This is more or less accurate... Except no woman will hate it if their partner has money. More is better.

[lacie92]

Well duh, no man will hate it if his lady has money either. but anyone who thinks about money first then the person is really going to be kinda lame. yes, money means we can skydive and go on vacation and have good dental work done, but whats the point if the rich guy beside you is an asshole?

[myTake Owner]

I see what you mean.

[Machiavelli]

haha xactly

[John_McStarrison]

I had almost started believing that, so I can see where you're coming from. Then I met someone completely different, who really changed my view. I do believe there are girls who care more about love than money. They may not be easy to find, but it's absolutely worth it

[vvn604]

True. One here.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Money is a part of a lot of things in the world but it doesn't make the Relationship work the way you think it does.

I could be with a rich guy but he could be the biggest jerk around and all he could do is give me a hard time and throw his money and power in my face.

If i was with an average guy with a good personality and a kind heart i could be the happiest girl on in the world.

Money doesn't buy happyness nor it can bring peace into a Relationship.

[Browneye57]

Nailed it. Money, and physique. So hit the gym, hard, and make lots of money and you'll have best pick of what's available. WITHOUT A DOUBT!

[vvn604]

Quite the opposite actually., I'm afraid.

[Browneye57]

@vvn604 - hmmm... dim bulb much? A skinny weak guy that is broke will NEVER compete with the ladies like a rich fit guy. Duh.

[vvn604]

I see your point. But often times if she doesn't have feelings for the guy then she still won't be attracted to him.

[Browneye57]

@vvn604 - Of course. It's ALWAYS about the feelz. :)
And that's exactly the point. If he's rich and hot she gets the feelz. AKA - vag-tingles. AKA - provisioning. AKA - desire.
Ya can't negotiate desire or passion, but you sure can generate it with the right stuff.

[myTake Owner]

Kind of what i had in mind. The rest of us can only go home and turn on the porn.

[Browneye57]

No on that too. If you know the reality, then beat it at it's own game. If the gals like rich hot fit guys then BE one. It's not that hard. And WAY OVER confidence. They like a guy that knows his shit, that won't be sway, that will be her rock. They love that shit.
Always remember, YOU are the prize!!
And the porn is for losers. Just quit that, it will warp your head forever. In a LOT of ways. It's ALL fake.

[myTake Owner]

In the meantime while i am not rich and Hot and fit i still need a release when i can't. That's where porn aids me and keeps my desires in check.
And no, i am unaffected by the effects of porn. I am not like everyone.

[Browneye57]

I hate to break it to you, but YOU ARE JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.
There. The unvarnished truth. You are not some SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE. Don't fall into the same mental trap as all this little princess girls. It's time to grow some balls and take from life what YOU want. If you can't envision it you'll never get there. Dream. Dream BIG! Make it happen!

[myTake Owner]

... I am only for you like everyone else, which is also only your version of the truth.
But then again while in the progress of making things happen i need a release still.

[vvn604]

I get the "feelz" IF and ONLY IF I'm attracted to the guy, which then will be followed by the AKAs you mentioned. Rich and hot guys give me the impression that they are superficial and lack intelligence. Both are a MAJOR turn off for me.

[Browneye57]

@vvn604 - So you're gonna sit there and tell us a highly successful guy with a masters and a 6-figure job and a 6-pack that is looking for a high-value woman to augment his life is a turn off?
Sure. Egads. Yer fukkin delusional.
We're so done here.

[vvn604]

But what you just said is true. The guy you described does not attract me at all. To me, those types of guys lack DEPTH.

[Browneye57]

@vvn604 - So, what exactly does 'depth' mean to you? How could you possible know if he has 'depth' or not?
I'm going to share something with you, for your benefit, as you mature. QUIT ARGUING WITH EVERYTHING!
No guy will tolerate this nitpicking and arguing. It will be the undoing of all your relationships. I promise.

We are still done here. Geesh.

[OreoMilkshake]

If you use money to get a girl then it won't be real, she won't love you for you, she'll love you for your money.

[myTake Owner]

Sad but true. Sometimes money is the only way to attract any woman at all if you get what i mean.

[OreoMilkshake]

No i dont get what you mean lol

[myTake Owner]

You can be really undesired by the opposite sex in every humanly possible way. It's like god himself wants you to be celibate and you just can't get a girlfriend despite having tried everything. Women just aren't into you.

Unless you have the money, which makes you desired by the gold diggers. And that's the only way you get to get s close to having a (fake) girlfriend as you ever will be.

[OreoMilkshake]

Thats your problem man

[myTake Owner]

I know right?

[vvn604]

@OreoMilkshake is right.

[Browneye57]

"If you use money to get a girl then it won't be real, she won't love you for you, she'll love you for your money. "
Wrong sonny boy. A woman looks to a man to be a contributor to their relationship, not someone to babysit. If you think you're gonna get the dream-woman of your life by being lazy and broke you're out of your mind.
They don't like you 'just for you money', they'll like you because you can provide for them and all the 84 children they want to have with you. It's call 'provisioning', and they ALL do it.

So hit the gym, hard, and get through school and find a career that pays BIG. This way you'll have the opportunity to land a quality woman that will be your mate for life.

Geez, where do you kids come up with this shit? [shrug]

[Asad1ONE1]

Know way you are allowing yourself to be a victim of a HUGE misconception!

[Asad1ONE1]

*no way

[myTake Owner]

What is this misconception you have in mind? That women are after our money? I cannot stop believing it. When I think about women I think about those nice female humans in today's era in association with wanting a man with money :(

[Asad1ONE1]

They say that to offend us. Because of their past negative experiences with men. It's an insecurity that they have developed. As a result you are developing another insecurity lol.

[Asad1ONE1]

Success and money is something we should be involved in anyway. Women or no women. Loving and caring women are not after your $, but no $ will break you both apart.

[myTake Owner]

Oh damn. What a chain reaction that is. Truly a parasitic inconvenience.

[Asad1ONE1]

Correct. Any women who says they are not attracted to men except their $$$ is straight up lying! They are angry at something! So cute they are when angry lol

[IHaveLists]

Money doesn't sway me. You do not speak for all women.

[myTake Owner]

Then what does sway you if it's not the money?

[DoubleAJ]

Money don't mean shit, just excuses.

More to the point, women who are about their shit, ain't just about money

I was pulling girls with nothing but a bus pass & a smile for as long as i can remember