Cheating is NEVER ok

[soccerchick4eva]

I've seen a lot of questions and comments about cheating, so I thought I'd write up a little MyTake.

If you think you can go behind your significant other's back and have your fun without it coming back to bite you, you are wrong. Most people find out if they are being cheated on, whether it be through word of mouth, text messages, emails or phone records.

Technology will bite your affair in the ass. Once your significant other finds out what you did, your relationship will crash and burn. All trust will be gone and there will be many wounds. This will make for an unhappy and trying time that may result in the end of your relationship, which you could've just saved all this drama and ended from the beginning.

This is also known as leading someone on.

Click this link to see my thoughts on >> Leading Someone On

You don't have to be in a Relationship

Yes we all know relationships have it's challenges, but what in life doesn't have challenges? You have the choice to commit to someone or not. Plenty of people are single and love it, if you struggle with the want of cheating, maybe single is for you. If there are things in the relationship that are toxic or things that make you feel upset or depressed, then be mature about it and separate yourself from the situation. Don't use your unhappiness as an excuse to get with someone else. That's a temporary fix, not a problem solved.

Unhappy with Relationship but still love the person

If you are with someone that you just can't live without, even if things get frustrating at times, then sit your significant other down and tell them how you feel. Once your feelings are out in the open, make a plan about how you are going to work together to address the problems and issues. While counselling is a very reasonable and popular option, sometimes communication is the main key that was missing all along. A lot of people who cheat love their significant other, but get caught up in the idea of other options. In our society, we always want something better. Have you tried to stop looking for better and appreciate the person you fell in love with? Open up your eyes to the things that made you first fall for them.

Cheating for boredom

I know some people cheat because they want to explore their options and get a taste of the other choices. Well..why are you in a relationship then? That's what being single is for! When you are single, you can spend time with whoever you want and don't have to answer to anyone.

Faithfulness

It's not fair for someone to cheat while the other is being faithful. If you are getting around with other people and your significant other is being faithful, that is selfish. If you expect them to be with you and only you, how can you justify going out and hooking up? Seems like you're more of the problem then they are. That's a double standard. It's also not right to make someone think you're committed to them when you are going behind their back and having your own fun while they are dedicated to you and only you.

Significant other is your Best Friend

When you are in a committed relationship, more often than not, you are really close and comfortable with the person you are with. They become your best friend and you would do anything for them. Why would you want to ruin the bond that is so special? Friends aren't supposed to hurt friends.

Cheating is okay in some circumstances?

No. It's not okay. Don't revenge cheat, don't say it was just a 'game.' Put yourself in your partner's shoes and see how it feels. I've read in some places about what if they're married and don't want to divorce because of kids.. well they communicated about it and their relationship obviously is agreed on to be open.

Cheating is a choice. Don't make it. Instead, make the choice to love the person you're with or get out of the relationship.

[DiegoO]

There are several reasons for cheating but they are all a choice. I think the act of cheating is a wrong respond to the feeling of not getting enough affection, the feeling from the fear to give it all, is the respond from sombody who feels unlove and the one who don't wants to feel loved but rather lusted.

Recognizing that a relationship is not a cage, and that you can leave or stay because your happyness or desire shouldn't be bellow the ones of your SO, is the key of not cheating. From the point of view of someone who wants to leave a relationship, you gotta appreciate the perspective of "look for you happyness in an ocean, don't put it in a glass of water, or hidden under a rock".

[MrMysteryMan]

*happiness

[DiegoO]

Thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it's okay. There's nothing wrong with revenge cheating.

[soccerchick4eva]

revenge cheating is you just stooping to their level

[Goodwifie]

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[Goodwifie]

If cheaters could only see that if they took care of their own grass they wouldn't need to go looking over the fence.

[Tdieseler]

OH PBBBBBBBFFFFT!!!

Mostly nonsense. Where is the real shit?

--"You don't have to be in a relationship"... true. but simply speaking to someone more than twice already establishes a relationship. I'll just take it that you mean dating relationship... and thats why i don't do that stupid shit.
--"unhappy with relationship but still love the person"... of course a fucking female will say "sit the person down and talk"... you try being a guy and see how many moronic fucking females don't listen to guys because they are too busy with their own fucking agenda...

--"cheating out of boredom"... who does that? well i get it. I've done it. thats the one case i can say you just leave the relationship.

Know what?, you wait till i bring out MY Take on cheating, cuz this right here... almost total bullshit.
My theory is not as fucking shallow as everyone seems to see. And my Take COMPLETELY disagrees with cheating, but not with the one you think of.
You think that just because someone went off and had sex with someone else that they cheated? in over 90% of cheating cases, the IDIOT crying "victim" was the FIRST one to cheat.

If I farted, i wouldn't mind the smell... but others would and would run. So when that moron starts the wheels in motion and drives their partner into the arms of another and then come off crying they were "cheated on"... fucking bullshit.
And you know why more women get cheated on than men? their sense of entitlement, and inability to view things from a different (male) perspective.

In my theory, the one who cries "victim", more often is usually the one that Started the cheating first and drove their partner into another person's arms.

"So why didn't they just break up"... over what? thats one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. you end an entire fucking relationship over ONE (sometimes more) thing?
and obviously, it was females that came up with that stupid fucking line. because they only see in extremes... black and white. Break up because of One thing, then bitch when the next guy has 10 problems instead of one lol.

It was a decent Take... but please... do more research from BOTH sides before banging the Gavel. Most people that get cheated on Usually get that "talk" you are talking about... but never fucking listen. Thats part of HOW they start the cheating first. so talk to them, not the person that committed a physical act.

[soccerchick4eva]

man... all I'm saying is cheating is never ok in general.. not from a girl or a guy
So you're saying just because someone got cheated on they shouldn't break up with the person? the lack of trust is already gone from that relationship, no matter how crap of a person they are, cheating is cheat..

[soccerchick4eva]

no matter what the circumstance is, cheating isn't ok.. do you disagree with that or do you think it's fine to cheat.. sorta confused..

[MarkyyG123]

Interesting, are you always this full of shit or just moonlighting :')

I mean you must have seriously hit the jackpot down sh*t creek at some point in your life to reason with your reasoning

[Tdieseler]

I agree totally that cheating isn't ok soccerchick. But what im trying to tell you and this SJW moron @MarkyyG123 is that cheating doesn't start from someone running off and porking another person. He is coming at my reasoning... fuck you, you vagina blinded cunt. don't come at me. im talking to soccerchick here who is willing to have a nice convo.

Soccerchick, i don't know if you have seen any of my takes, but I've always said cheating is avoidable... i don't like it, i don't condone it, but in my research, I've seen that the people who bitch about it the most... are the ones that usually start it.
the physical "cheating" act... is the END of the cheating process... not the beginning. So if one person ended... who the fuck do you think started it?

Either way, its not nice, but "every action is bound to have an equal and opposite reaction"... right? so you push your partner away... then shut the hell up when they actually drift away. is all im saying.

[soccerchick4eva]

hahaha markyyg123 is my boyfriend :")

Aaah yeah I'm not exactly going in depth on this mytake about cheating, it was just very general.. wasn't exactly going this person started it hence why and all.. I'm talking about that few percent that actually just get played/cheating or their girlfriend or boyfriend was just that much of an idiot to be in a relationship haha

[soccerchick4eva]

on their girlfriend or boyfriend*

[MarkyyG123]

SJW? Forgive my understanding but I prefer English to begin with. Secondly I give zero fucks as to what you'd like and not like, I will answer whatever and who ever I please, your approval or, consequent, disapproval is most certainly not required. Thanks for stating it anyway.

I feel as if your research should be more into getting your head out of your ass than anything else, maybe redirect your waste of time toward a more productive lifestyle search. As for "vagina blinded cunt"... What in the fuck... I can't... You know what, good job, you've taken gibberish to a new level and one that I certainly need not stoop to

[soccerchick4eva]

@MarkyyG123 hahah shhhh :")

[Tdieseler]

yea? really? wow... good luck with that.

there are a few percentage of cheating cases... i said over 90% not 100%, that are legitimate cheating from greedy assholes that have the best partners but want "more"... i know... i was one of those people. cheated on every girlfriend I've ever had except one... and thats a Lot of people.
and then karma stepped in in 2012... and the one i didn't cheat on... did something even worse. Never cheated since.
Yea... im not a fan of the greedy (both male and female) assholes... but im not blind to the fact that it seems everyone seems to misunderstand the PROCESS of cheating. i can send you a link to an anal sex question i answered... maybe you can piece together how it fucking starts... and how its probably gonna end.

[Tdieseler]

@MarkyyG123 im not saying don't reply... every opinion is appreciated. but im gonna call out the stupid ones. as for vagina blinded cunt... well... i apologize for that... but you started it and im on a tangent. Im writing an ACTUAL article on why cheating happens. Not Judging if its ok or not.
so i kind of went off on a tangent.
I still think ur a cunt though :) why? because you are still bowing to vagina. i read the message between the message and i don't flinch because ass n titties smiled at me.
I like real shit, tear it apart... see whats under.
You really need to read some of my Takes... and grow the hell up. You are still hormonal. just saying... no offense :)

by the way... i call everyone a cunt (including me)... actually a term of endearment lol

[MarkyyG123]

Thank you but keep the well wishes

Also, ever thought your reasoning is a warped sense of reality? No need to say more.

[soccerchick4eva]

haha don't need the luck with him, I swear he's great hahaha :")

I was one of that few percent that the other person 'wanted more' even though I gave everything. we all experience things differently and as you said you were once that cheater your outlook was because you wanted more so obviously we have different outlooks on it for a reason haha. That root of the problem is obviously true, some people are really that messed up that the victim can be the problem. The process of cheating varies from people to people, almost similar but not the same :)

[soccerchick4eva]

markyyg123 is just big on this cheating topic too just because of how I was once treated :)

[MarkyyG123]

You know I find it humerous how you presume to understand my stages of life based on your experiences when you could not possibly fathom any of it

You certainly need to re-evaluate your life if anything, more so, your sense of complex understandings of a subject you clearly have warped to benefit your situation.

[Tdieseler]

@MarkyyG123 Nope... because I've tested damn near every fucking facet of it. You think i haven't been YOU before? Mr. "Nice Guy" "Gentleman" "Perfect" lol... overrated.

So now im me. And I don't follow societal rules... know how you are supposed to attract and "woo" females or some shita? I don't fucking do that shit no more. fucking irritating. they woo... ME.

Soccerchick... i don't think every cheating case is the same... but yea, a lot are similar. Im still trying to justify the "i was drunk" cheating... still bouncing between two ideas... but thats for my article.
oh, by the way... dont feed me that "he's great" line... hate that shit. long before GaG i'd been talking to couples... its always "great" when together, then shit happens and the story changes. Im not saying he's a bad guy... i don't know him. Just stating a thesis I've seen happen one too many times.
I still think he's an SJW tho lol. :)

[soccerchick4eva]

goodluck with the drunk cheating haha.. what's SJW?
can I just ask.. why does a lot of what you say seem negative?

[Tdieseler]

so... @MarkyyG123 is protective... good for him... good for you too soccerchick.
but i hate what he's doing. Dude... if you don't understand my level of digging... just back out. i don't like shallow water swimmers. You involuntarily follow some stupid ass "rules" set out for you by society and you think its ok and thats as much as it fucking goes.
I... dont... follow... those stupid rules.
Calling MY fucking understanding warped. Just because you are blinded to reality, doesn't mean i am. Einstein and Aristotle were called crazy and stupid because people wouldn't open their eyes... but guess what happened later.
Don't need you to understand the way i think. probably pop a blood vessel... so keep swimming up there with the sheep... and i'll dive down to see whats REALLY going on.

[Tdieseler]

@soccerchick... I've been told that a lot. see what i wrote on Whistleforthechoir's opinion... i seem to come off negative. i have TERRIBLE delivery. so i always tell people to forget my tone... but read my message.
read my rantisodes. and the disclaimer. ESPECIALLY the disclaimer lol.

[soccerchick4eva]

It's just I can't see any positives haha it's like you have ongoing negatives.. do you have positives with relationships or just over it? :") could also be your use of caps and the dots... :")

[MarkyyG123]

I find it interesting you still choose to presume to understand who I am and my stages of life... @soccerchick4eva , get a load of this apparently I'm Mr. "Nice Guy" "Gentleman" "Perfect" :")
That's cute, do you have a bow to put on that as well?

As for picking on her words... nothing better to do? So what if "I'm great" here we go again with your presumption to understand her definition of the word, you have no idea as to what your talking about

And my level of protectiveness... hahahah that is the highlight of this conversation for me, just that one statement you made, you couldn't fathom that concept even if we spent the entire night discussing it, and I can say that with 110% certainty based on your demeanor during this conversation of sorts. And please do let me continue to swim in my "shallow" waters, I think your deep waters have swelled your head to unrecoverable proportions but what do I know, i only swim shallow :")

[Tdieseler]

@MarkyyG123 and i find it interesting that you think you know mine. i could tell you stories that will turn your blood cold. could tell you stories that turned MY blood cold.
I don't know you mate... im not making assumptions or nothing.. all i know is that i was 21/22 once.
Maybe you are in a different place than me... but the mentality seems same. Naive.
Well... its been a nice convo...
first time ever talking to a frickin couple... on the same POST!!! thats a new one for me.

but hey, Soccerchick... good luck... Mark? as much as i'd like to say go fuck yourself... i won't... like you said... swim shallow right? lol.
Like i don't want to do that...
Definitely nice talking to you. Hope to discuss again?

[soccerchick4eva]

hahha well this has been entertaining :")

[MarkyyG123]

More like wasted time :")

[Tdieseler]

@MarkyyG123 😒 its your girlfriend that posted about cheating... might wana go do some deep digging about that.. or maybe she's doing exactly what i preach... being in a relationship with someone that would have a difficult time getting another :)
which makes her smart... and you... you.
Either way... it was fun.

[ThatshyDude]

Ah man, I kinda agree with you on this one. Cheating is definitely not as shallow as this girl makes it out to be in the article. But you are kinda acting rude man.

[Tdieseler]

@ThatshyDude Yea... well he came at me. She finally said she was just generalizing, but i have 2 problems with the article... its not in-depth and she's judging.
Of course cheating is never ok... but you gotta understand cheating first.
Just like saying burglary isn't ok, example someone breaks into your house and you shoot em, and they die and you are convicted for murder. Thats not fair.
Thats the shit im trying to explain to her. That most cheating cases doesn't start with where a lot of people say it starts from.

As for my being rude... i write the way i talk... matter of fact, i actually bring it down because of GaG... check my Takes.. and compare it to this commentary you call "Rude" lol

[soccerchick4eva]

Dude haha still going :") obviously there are two sides to cheating but towards the leadup to that cheating is not what I'm talking about on this take haha your burglary example is the same yeah the dude got shot for coming into someone's house, the robbing isn't ok either plus gotta expect that shit haha and the killing of the person isn't okay to convicted as a murderer, we can so call preach how much we want about every part of cheating but even if the other person started the problem, going and finding someone else is just as bad as however you may be treated in the relationship also, because both are stooping to the same level

[soccerchick4eva]

this could go on for ages haha so let's just leave it at this :") great chat tho haha :)

[Tdieseler]

you know... you are damn right. "stooping to the same level" except one person started the shit... and the other finished it. but everyone looks at the finisher... not the starter. I look at both... BOTH are at fault and you said that.
LOL... i guess you are the finisher huh.

[coralee]

I don't understand coordinated cheating in this day and age. If someone cheats once in the heat of the moment thing, I'm more worried about how they handle it afterwards. If they come foreward and own up to it. I think there is a chance to save the relationship. It's full blown affairs that I don't understand or serial cheating. This isn't the 50's if you want to sleep with other people break-up with your partner. Poly is even an option for people who don't want monogomy. There is no excuse for it anymore.

[soccerchick4eva]

that's true! there's the chance if they own up to it!

[TheDevilInside]

Reading the comments... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE!!! YOU ARE SO FUCKING FUCKED UP!!! All cheaters as well as those who say cheating is ok in any sort of manner should just go drown themselves because all they create with their existence on earth is just pain for others. So just spare others the pain and go drown yourselves! People deserve better than you cheaters and cheater-supporters!

[soccerchick4eva]

Nice input :)

[chris1965]

I liked what Coralee said here.

Cheating is cheating and there's no way of getting around it. If the person in the Heat of the Moment cheats, comes clean with their partner, and they are able to work it out that's great.

But the people that are serial cheaters, or have several Partners at the same time, or have an affair with another person for years. There's something wrong there.

Regardless of what is wrong being a cheater is not right. Be honest be true and end the relationship with the person you are cheating on. It's the right thing to do.

Now whether you stay as a single person or should you look at polyamory or polygamy or a chastity belt that's for another discussion. Just my own opinion.

[WhistleForTheChoir]

Cheating is fine. Guys who are able to get girlfriends and girls who are able to get guyfriends cheat all the time, so it must be fine. If you don't want people to cheat on you, date some pathetic little douche who doesn't have the chance or some pussy who actually believes in love and romance. Just my opinion though, although it's probably a shitty opinion, because I'm just some pussy who actually believes in love and romance and wouldn't cheat on anyone, so of course what the fuck do I know about love or romance?

But no, everyone wants to date someone who has the desire and opportunity to cheat on them, and then CHOOSES not to. If they have the desire, they're always going to choose to cheat on you LOL. But only real men have insatiable sex drives, or something... and only real women don't catch "feelings" because they BAD BITCHES... or whatever.

Ignore me, I'm drunk.

[soccerchick4eva]

... just because people do it doesn't mean it's fine..

[WhistleForTheChoir]

Was being facetious

[SleeplessEleotriada]

yep ignore him! :D

[Tdieseler]

YESS!! YESS!! someone finally fucking said it... man... Choir.. you gotta join the Diesel movement.
And you are drinking too? definitely qualified.
Don't fucking doubt yourself saying its a "shitty" opinion so you don't "offend" the sheep lol... stand proud.
You made an absolutely great point.
I've been preaching for years to stupid ass females about stepping over the little guy who likes em and will worship them, to go for the jock who has 29 other girls that like him. Making themselves a fucking option, not a treasure. Then they try to make him make them a treasure... while calling the guy that adores them... a fucking creep.

Then when they get cheated on, they fucking bitch, but the guy they stepped over... like you said... wouldn't have been able to snag someone else.. and would have been faithful but the fucking moron made themselves an OPTION.

then this moron comes along lol @SleeplessEleotriada

[Tdieseler]

Choir, i know you've seen my work... i think i said the very same shit in my Take "show me your man card" or one of the takes... I don't know.. i write em drunk then people say my delivery is bad :( and they say i bash women...
i say i bash everyone (including myself... actually, i get it the worst... i have to live with me 24/7 lol) and "bashing" apparently is me calling out stupid shit... and im fuckin stupid lol

[acooke-13]

I love this take and 10000% agree. But there are unfortunately still scum of the earth around that will still cheat

[soccerchick4eva]

Thank you! and yes sadly -.-

[Hans222]

I fully agree with the statement: although in some cases it is possible to forgive it, it's never okay :-(
If you want to blow up your relationship than cheat... it's the beginning of the end. Relationship Russion roulette with little chance to win!

[soccerchick4eva]

pretty much but forgiving is one thing, forgetting is another

[Idontknow092]

Since cheating is a choice the moment you cheat is the moment you give up the relationship.

[soccerchick4eva]

exactly

[SleeplessEleotriada]

apparently you do know well@op yes, it is cheating in the worst way possible because it is associated with lies and major disrespect!

[CubsterShura]

This is the most disgusting shit ever...

I mean the comments in this post.

[soccerchick4eva]

it's always a touchy subject ahah

[CubsterShura]

It's not a touchy subject

It's commonsense.

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Love the take and totally agree.. but there are still cheaters out there sadly

[soccerchick4eva]

Sadly is a thing that I don't think will stop :(

[xButterflyKisses87x]

nope most likely not, but we can try and teach our kids etc not to and what not and hopefully maybe settle down the trend a bit.

[soccerchick4eva]

Hopefully the upcoming generations will see cheating in a different perspective! Also thank you :)

[xButterflyKisses87x]

Your welcome!

[Diocese_Plunger_PALS]

It's not cheating if you're not married because if you're not married, it's not a relationship.

[soccerchick4eva]

its still a sense of cheating.. as long as you're committed to someone

[Diocese_Plunger_PALS]

If it's not consecrated in Holy matrimony, then the commitment is not legit by God and neither is it by me. Unmarried people shouldn't be having sex to start with. Sex is not a game.

[soccerchick4eva]

so you're saying before two people are married they aren't even committed so we can just sleep with other people and it won't be cheating because they aren't married..

[soccerchick4eva]

I get what you mean with God tho, just confused what you're saying with before they are married, because not everyone follows God

[Diocese_Plunger_PALS]

Yes. I'm sure you get what i mean.

Yes, I'm saying if they don't follow God's sexual rules for marriage, then any sex they have was cheating on God. Yes it's not cheating because to cheat would mean you broke the sexual rules of marriage. Thus, the rules don't come into effect if you're not married. It's wrong what they are doing to start with, so why would it be more wrong by having sex out of marriage with who they aren't committed to than who they are committed to?

It's wrong to have sex outside of marriage, so by claiming they can have sex with who they're committed to but not have sex with who they're not committed to is justifying one form of unmarried sex and not the other form.

Get what I mean now? Not trying to sound callous.

[soccerchick4eva]

yeah I get what you mean, you're talking about it in full haha

[Diocese_Plunger_PALS]

Exactly. I'm counting cheating as in the marriage sex. When a woman says he cheated on me, she's assuming the sex was legit and right if with her but wrong if with another as if she's entitled to the sex with him.

[Guanfei]

It's weird that we have to explain that cheating isn't ok. Seriously. This should be common sense.
Fucked up times, I tell you.

[soccerchick4eva]

I totally agree on that haha

[Tdieseler]

relationship cheating is more complicated though. because its between two unpredictable factors of free will.
I mean... if i had a test and was unprepared... the test is a definite... im the unknown factor with free will and i choose to "rubberneck" into the next person's answer sheet.
now imagine two unprepared people...
shit gets complicated right? lol

lol.. am i even making any sense... ugh... i need more booze.

[DarkxAngel20]

Cheating is the worst thing anyone can do in a relationship and I'd dump her if she was cheating on me. No exceptions.

[serious]

Of course there is no justification for cheating. It's a good take.

[FieryIceDragon]

Attention all cheaters...
You guys really suck and you guys should break up and stay single for rest of your life's because you people don't deserve anyone.

[Josht13]

I can think of a few fairly outlandish scenarios in which cheating is ok

[LegateLanius]

No, it is never okay

[Josht13]

@LegateLanius you don't have much of an imagination.

[LegateLanius]

Actually I do and cheating is never okay

[Josht13]

@LegateLanius never, that means any scenario no matter how crazy.

[LegateLanius]

Correct

[Josht13]

@LegateLanius nah you really don't have an imagination.

[LegateLanius]

Incorrect. Cheating is never okay. We will never agree on this

[soccerchick4eva]

@LegateLanius would like to here what these scenarios are..

[Josht13]

Under duress is an example

[ryancg]

Good take. I totally agree. I never forget and I never forgive.

[Tdieseler]

nice pic

[Anonymous]

I agree 100%, great Take 👍

[soccerchick4eva]

thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome :)

[SleeplessEleotriada]

Awesome awareness. Great take!