Because You Had A Bad Experience With Dating Doesn't Mean The Whole Gender Is Bad

[Anonymous]

Well,hello everyone.

It's me again.

I hope you missed me cause I'm back in the mission of STATING THE OBVIOUS.

So lately on G@G there are many many questions and comments by anons mostly, both blue and pink that ask if everyone that belongs to either female or male gender share a specific (and most of the times negative) characteristic.

Now, these questions could be out of pure query and I would eb completely okay if they were indeed... However this is not the case.

*These are blue and pink anons when I'm trying to be kind and positive.*

The questions aren't like :

"Do all boys like color blue?"

or

"Do all girls like make-up?"

They are like that :

"Are all women evil and want to dominate the world and kill all men?" and when you say no...the answer is :

"You r lying."

"Are all women prositutes and want to steal your money?" and when you say no... the answer is :

"You are a female,you are one of them too."

and

"Are all men players that want to rape you and then stalk you till you die?" and when you say no... the answer is :

"You don't know men yet little one, they all want the same thing."

Same goes with some users that openly (openly I mean with their username) here tend to comment things similar to :

"Yeah ok but all women are hoes and they want to stab you."

and

"Yeah okay but all guys want to sleep with your best friend then steal your money and move to Mexico."

Not judging you or something but.... HM.

Obviously these questions and comments come from people that had a very bad,most of the times, dating expirience.

*Or just people with deep problems and issues...I don't know it's possible.*

Well to be honest, it's a very often phenomenon that at some point of our lives most of us will do...We consider things as the truth based on our expiriences and not the general belief... BUT BOI....

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

Like, can't you guys/girls that believe that every male in the world wants to harm you and that every female is evil understand how ridiculous you sound?

Can't you understand that even if you met and dated more than 10.000 females/males, you know only a very tiny percentage of the world population?

WE ARE 7 BILLIONS HUMANS ON THIS FREAKING PLANET. DO YOU KNOW EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US AND DECIDED THAT YOUR TRUTH IS THE GENERAL TRUTH?

HUH?

HUH?

Listen people, I respect you and all I really do, cause most of you are older than me and I've learnt to repsect my elders but also because you are humans and I've learnt to repsect others.

But I'm tired of these kind of sick behaviors.

If you really believe things like that, you should really talk to a specialist about it. And I'm not saying that to offend someone or as a joke or as sassiness or whatever. I really believe that these kind of beliefs prevent you from leaving life to the fullest, therefore I think you need help.

A girl or a guy cheated you or treated you badly or whatever, it hurts a lot, but now it's finished.

IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT ALL FEMALES BURN BABIES AND ALL GUYS RAPE.

The only common characteristic that people of same gender have is the private parts.

Now calm down witht he generalizing.

And this isn't only about relationships, it's about everything.

That's it for today babydolls.

Till next time, stay sane.

- AngelicEmpress

[Pamina]

Well said. I think this is something that about 80% or more of all GaG users should take this to heart.

And I'd go even further and say even if you had many dating/relationship experiences and every single one of them was bad, it doesn't mean that's how it generally is. Because 1.) the first thing you should do is take a deep look at yourself first, because you are actually the one common thread in all these bad experiences, and 2.) by assuming your bad experiences mean that's how it generally is, you're essentially discrediting all the billions of people who have had and are having good experiences.

[Pamina]

Why am I not surprised guys are downvoting this? lol

[Pamina]

Thanks for MHO!

[Engageme]

Thank you! I've been seriously disgusted by all this crap! Wondering if this generation is going to be single and sexless! I mean they hate re opposite sex and hate homosexuality so wtf is their choice? Beastiality?

[Ellie-V]

I’m dead 😂

[Engageme]

@Ellie-V 🤣🤣

[BrutallyHonest87]

I've got a hand and I'm not afraid to use it.

In also close enough to Pahrump, Nevada. The only place in America where prostitution is legal

[Ellie-V]

@BrutallyHonest87 good for you

[JSmuve]

*shrugs* blame it on human decision making. We're inductive creatures so we base our opinions on personal observations and experiences. If someone has positive experiences, they'll view things positively. If someone has negative experiences, then they'll create negative opinions about something. However, our sample sizes are always statistically too small to have any confidence in our hypotheses about our experiences but that won't stop people from generalizing because it's difficult to separate emotion from logic, particularly when the wounds are still fresh.

[latinabutterfly96]

Yep. 100%

[SketchForger]

Hey look.

Common sense!

[BrutallyHonest87]

Hey look

Common sense has eluded you!

[SketchForger]

@BrutallyHonest87 it's a comment about her talking about stating the obvious.

Might have "eluded" you, but don't feel bad about it.

[BrutallyHonest87]

You're agreeing with the O. P., right?

[SketchForger]

@BrutallyHonest87 I mean she obviously generalizes despite the message of the post, but yeah.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am with @Logorithim on this one. I've never had consistently horrible experiences with women, The bad experiences I had were a combination of their individual flaws and my contributions to the mix; I never had a relationship go bad simply because she was a. . . WOMAN! I LOVE women and I'm glad they are different!

[Logorithim]

Well, These are certainly good points. I've mostly had good experiences with gfs, so I've never thought like this.

[btbc92]

The main reason I have no interest in dating any longer: A lot of them have no respect for waiting for marriage to have sex. Many don't want to wait, a lot use each other. And I come to find every day, on here on GaG, other sites and real-life people are just crazy and ill mentally. How I've been treated because of my views is my main reason for being celibate. And I always tell people that if you truly want a healthy, thriving relationship and want it to lead to marriage, do it right! Otherwise, don't complain when things end up going sour. It's not so much of a gender issue, its a humanity issue. And the perfect example is the amount of disrespect because their views don't resonate with them from both sides on the comment feeds. Sad. The reality is people mainly date for sex and for a sexual experience, and that is why their 'dating' experience is so bad. Men too horny for women their not married to. And women too quick to give it up before marriage. No side or gender have the right to complain. That's over 20 years of my life experience with this mess. And I cannot always blame people who put blame on the opposite sex as long as they are aware of their own flaws and have a desire to change them.

[_Varsit11]

True

[bamesjond0069]

If you are 26 you are wayyyy to old to wait until marriage. The whole point of getting married is to have a family. Do you not plan on having kids or something? Just saying. Im a man and id gladly wait until marriage... if she was like 19!

[btbc92]

@bamesjond0069 Who are you to tell me I'm too old to wait for marriage? I have no DESIRE for marriage anymore! I could have been married at 18, but wants to marry that young anymore? Hardly anybody. No. I no longer want kids or somebody.

[btbc92]

I, unlike most people, do NOT have logical and rational reasons for marriage and children. I cannot handle it, have too many bad experiences with men as is. And I cannot do that and put my problems on somebody else. Sorry, that is not love.

[ImSoSquishy]

yeah! i see those questions all the time, i just don't even bother clicking on them anymore. there is around 7.5 billion adults on earth, about 3.5 billion of them are males, and to claim the entire gender is whatever they wish them to be-- it's just silly and ignorant to make such an accusation based off like 0.001% of the entire population. unless they have met, spoke to, dated all of them, and unless you have been cheated on by that many people, people need to STFU. even if the person gay, or lesbian, there is still a possibility their partner will cheat or become cheater, and then what? accuse their own gender to be all cheaters and become straight again? like get the fuck outta here lol

[ATuairiscean]

Very true I think I saw the question about this the other day, it was about "Incels" but you could insert any group, it was a X Youtube video, if I say name I will automatically put off half the readers :) - Anyway their main assertion was that the internet was one of the main reasons because disturbed people can find each other on way out forums and wind each other up to sometimes very violent outcomes.
This is so true say my formative years for argument sake 15 -25 (1984 to 1994) you got rejected, dumped etc - You moved on, you did not become a woman/man hater. Sometimes its nice to say "IN MY DAY :) "

[ATuairiscean]

Sorry forgot to say "Nice Take"

[JMghow]

Perhaps, but if you had a lot of bad experiences, and every guy you know has had a lot of bad experiences... You may be living under a feminist regime! At some point all men have to ask what they've been doing and stop sticking their wanker into the sausage grinder, because regardless if its you, or it's them, it clearly doesn't work. Look, don't waste time on mediocre people. I swore off women for seven years and to this day it was the best thing I've ever done... and surprisingly easy. Worse things in life than getting to do whatever you want whenever and however you want, and making all of it half-priced to boot is no small thing.

[Anonymous]

I don't think all people of one gender is this way or that but I do believe there are pretty clear differences between the generations.

I don't believe everyone here is only hooking up. I don't believe everyone is only looking for a relationship. Many people are getting laid, many are not. Many are just hooking up and many are looking for a serious relationship. Even though people say we are in the "hook up" age and yet I hear this generation is having less sex than any generation in history. Both can be true, they aren't mutually exclusive.

[NeglectedChild]

Then why do all my girlfriends end up trying to kill me?

All women are the same, they all get upset when they find out you cheated on them.

[Mikey_Ramone]

Haha

[lernulo]

I agree mostly with your comment, but I disagree with not generalize.
One of the things which I like more of this place is because it lets us see the difference between both genres.
And common in genres are very useful information, by example, there was one interesting question about money on relation and the difference between answers was very revealing.
Its true that questions type:
"Are all women gold diggers?"
doesn't help nothing and its just trolling.
But as you said we have different body parts, and that affects more that in the sex.
Opinions here are very good to learn those differences.

[Someguynamedbob]

Yup I admit I was one of those guys when I was a teenager, I constantly met terrible women who just wanted to use me, then I realized that I was picking all these women, so I changed the type of women I would go after and started meeting super rad and sweet girls, it’s ridiculous how people can play these mental gymnastics instead of self critiquing and finding the core issue is actually you not the entire gender lol

[jamus]

My last relationship wounded/ scarred me pretty bad. I’m not resentful towards females or nothing just have major trust issues and seriously reconsidering ever getting into a relationship ever again. Girls just don’t seem to want to be friends though, most just seem to think men are only for dating and not friends... I’m not a piece of meat ! 😤

[Aynsof]

Well if your mission is stating the obvious mission accomplished
There is indeed quite a few questions that fall under what you describe though I would say maybe not generally as dramatic as all that
But often like someone in a relationship got cheated on and they ask silly questions about why all men or all women are such bastards and such
It is a little tedious
Would be nice if people could understand that your personal experience doesn't equate to universal truth

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed when you’re on a roll, you end it mid sentence with “that’s it.”

“A girl or a guy cheated you or treated you badly or whatever, it hurts a lot, but now it's finished.” 👍🏻

Takes awhile to heal, while also looking back what you learned.

[Tdieseler]

😤... i still say all women are prostitutes 😒
I think out of the ton of women I've given bad experiences to... i think I've only had 1? 2? im not sure. I loved it when you snapped though... nice.
This is a great Take... too bad it won't do shit huh...

[MrMattz]

I see your point and i agree. After going through some bad relationships, I've had my share of anger and hate against the the fairer sex and i admit with shame that it took me a while to get over it and start seeing "clear" again.
Growing up, talking with other people and making experiences (good and bad) helps a lot with points of view and mental health. Generalizing is wrong and stupid.

[Skateranon]

I always thought this was stupid as hell. I've been cheated on and literally abused or disrespected by like 90% of my exes. I have never generalized women as bad.

My girlfriend at the moment is a great girl and she got a free slate. A lot of good girls out there and also a Los of bad ones.

[Scarecrow13]

I saw this a bit in high school and college. Mostly with girls. They would get sick of being hurt by men and so would try being lesbian for a while. Most of the time they would return to men after a while.

[latinabutterfly96]

Damn. I had this experience too, but it was men that were whining about evil women 24/7

[tartaarsaus]

I wanted to tag LonelyGuy but I realized he probably has never dated

[Selina_Kyle_]

I agree with every single letter. I hate when people have stereotype ideas like that.

Great take! ❤❤❤

[bamesjond0069]

Its true but its also false. Everyone attracts certain types through their looks or how they act. A very physically attractive man for example will only meet sluts. A girl who is attracted to bad boys will always get cheated on. A guy with low self esteem will always have a naggy girlfriend. Etc.

[Wolframium]

I guess my self estem is too low for naggy girls. :-D