A friend of mine is looking for answers on how to repair a relationship after the significant other cheated. Lovelies, here's a take on that.
1. Don’t automatically assume the relationship is doomed.
Leaving a damaged partnership can sometimes be a cop out — a way to avoid taking responsibility or recognizing your own faults. Instead, assume that staying together is equally possible, if you’re willing to put in the hard work required.
2. Acknowledge that you’ve created a problem.
It might seem simple, but if you don’t come to terms with the fact that you messed up, and therefore messed up the relationship, the healing process won’t go anywhere.
3. Cut off communication with the other man or woman.
It goes without saying that the first step to repairing a relationship after infidelity is ending the affair, but that means more than no longer having sex with the other person.
4. Limit the times when you talk about the infidelity.
That’s because positive distraction — whether that’s seeing a movie or going out to dinner together — can be really important for the future of the relationship and for the happiness of both partners.
5. Give your partner time to heal.
Shutting him/her down or implying that he/she should be “over it” already will only make the situation worse.
6. Be honest with yourself and with your partner.
After weeks, months, or even years of dishonesty, relationship experts say that one of the most important steps to repairing the relationship is being completely open and honest. If your partner has a question about the affair, answer it to the best of your ability.
Besides, forgive him/her only if you feel like you can't trust him/her again, and if he/her is really sorry.
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P.S: All my lovely people out there, remember no one deserves to be treated as a side kick. No one deserves to be treated as trash. Just respect yourself enough. And love yourself.