Why changing your mindset could fix almost all of your relationships

[Dav1ss]

Your mindset is the problem here you are putting yourself down your putting whatever you want so far above you on a pedestal

If you are asking how to text him back change your mindset or he will think your desperate if your thinking that you will say something weird and your going to sound desperate

Instead if asking how do I win him over and get him to like me turn it around and ask do I like him you need to use this time to ask yourself if you like him or if he is worth your time

If you keep doing to oh I love then you go search his Instagram and you see football then you say oh I love football

Instead you say what does he like and try to find if he is worth your time

Same thing if your going for a job interview

Stop thinking about how you have to impress them if your going for this job you have the skills and knowledge to be a good employee your hardworking and reliable act that way and you will speak differently

Don't think about how to get a friend to stand by you think about if they are worth being your friend your the number 1 don't forget that your the only thing you have if you aren't treating yourself well you won't get what you want ever

[YHL6965]

Exactly the mindset I like. I don't try to impress other, I try to find if we are compatible. That way, you are still looking for a common ground with others without "degrading yourself" by doing/approving things you would normally not do/approve. It's a good way to preserve yourself.

[Anonymous]

I was a guy who was putting women on a pedestal some years ago and was thinking that a relationship is what all I need to fix all wounds in my life. Last year, I have changed my mindset 180 degrees and started to think "Well, if it's going to happen, it is. No need to force it". I am still single and I am enjoying my life alone by doing the things that I like to do - chess, gym, guitar, reading, listening to music, (sometimes) writing poems, etc. It all goes great for me. I try to learn as much new things as I can every day so that I can have my own ideas about such things.

[Opinion Owner]

I also would add something to say: I am currently reading a book called "Handbook of Communication and Social Interaction Skills (2003, Routledge)" by John O. Greene and Brant R. Burleson. It is about 1051 pages and I want to learn about how can I communicate with people effectively since I am a very introvert, asocial guy. Hence the approach anxiety toward girls.

I believe that life is really great. If it was some years ago, I wouldn't say this ever because I was a depressed, suicidal guy who was thinking that my loneliness is what makes me a loser in this life. But gradually, I got rid of feeling for the greater good. Looking back, I am proud of myself that I am still alive. I am lucky that I wasn't courage enough to suicide. I might failed 2 universities before but yet I am going to start fresh this September to the 3rd next to my family. I believe that most things can change if you really are willing to take the first step.

[LemiaOfTheCodes]

There was nothing wrong with my mindest. We broke up because she refused to give me another commication methord besides this and when I go out my way to email her, I get a email from her mum saying she doesn't know me.

[RedBullRacingLemia]

Are you sure your @Tallestperson and Not @Dav1ss becuase you much knowledgeable about relationships then she is. Has she had many relationships?

[Anonymous]

The problem is every girl he has liked as turn out to be a rotten apple so kind hoping your sister's Catholic ethic would be a good Oman but clearly her large ties are effecting her conertive thinking.

[LowSelfSteem03]

The problem with @Lemiaofthecodes is he didn't get the closure he needs. @Tallestperson just went offline.

[Jjpayne]

Good points! I think you have to come back to yourself and ask what you want. Every relationship should have a moment of reflection

[Gottabsavagee]

Ooo you’re the first one I will go to when I need this. Thank you so much. x

[sidvt]

Everyone will gave different mindset you just need to adjust at some phase or point if you can. Recognise and do it you will have best relationship

[smg99]

Absolutely is a game changer

[LemiaOfThunder]

I think I'm quite happy Person

[Lemia]

Very well side

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take

[themomo84]

Be mindful indeed