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Dude, that girl is a piece of shit lol. Not all of them are like that. I’ve cried when I was drunk over my best friend who got killed in combat and my girl at the time helped me out. Gave me really good sex, nice meal, and a lot of support. Cried again when I got home after I witnessed a teenager kill himself right in front of me on a suicide call. I’m no longer a man because of this? Life hits you with hard balls sometimes, and you want a woman to be there for you through thick and thin. If she’s willing to walk and lost all respect for you because you cried, then she didn’t have a lot of respect for you in the first place, and clearly isn’t the woman that you should be investing into.
Those are all very tragic circumstances, which were addressed in the article as what women deem acceptable reasons to cry.
And sorry you went through that
I agree. She is trash. Which is why I am single now and focusing to bloom in life.
Sorry for what happened to you. Well, at least you got a good girlfriend.
Well , first you didn’t actually establish that it was the crying that caused her to leave you.
you sound kind of drama-ish tbh You live a long way from home and you didn’t have time for a hobby and it was hard You just described my entire adult life
My guess is that it was a series of things and you just got to be too much and she’s probably immature and didn’t know how to deal with you so she bailed. It wasn't about the crying by itself it was a series of things more than likely or possible had nothing to do with you at all. But it wasn’t that your relationship was all shits and giggles and she loved you and you loved her and then you cried and she just bailed. That isn’t what happened.
Realistically no long term relationship is all sunshine, so if crying was the breakingpoint here, it's safe to give crying significant credit here.
The post is about women getting partners but being allowed to be shallow. They just want the benefits but they don't actually want to communicate and grow with their partner; he's just an exchangable male barbie doll that she gets rid of when bored with it. She doesn't care about the vulnerable soul that wants to love, learn and grow just like her soul does.
For a man it's obvious that a woman is a woman visually. All she has to do is be. She can actually be herself, and her will learn to accept her for who she is and try to keep her happy. But her womanhood can't be taken away; he will always respect her as his partner.
For a woman, just like the act of sex itself is very mental, so is the ontology of sex. Sure a woman can find a man visually attractive, but a man just as importantly has to display the correct behaviours that her instincts accept as "manly". Otherwise his attractiveness is not totally obvious to her. What she looks for are traits like leadership, control and stoicism. Without that, she is confused about what the at least biological man before her even is. So she loses respect.
Biologically, women seem to keep us held back in the 1950's
**[he] will learn to accept her for who she is**
I saw his other posts and didn’t wanna say anything because I smell bullshit. But now that he’s complaining about no one responding I’m giving my thoughts.
It’s not about crying. That’s just what he chooses to blame it on. The assumption that it was crying is the entire basis for both his and your diatribe
It absolutely isn’t “fair” as you call it to put it on that. That’s just what he wants to blame it on.
It's not clear to me what you seem to be conceding. What are you saying isn't fair?
I think he is free to believe whatever he thinks the reason is since he was the only other person in the relationship and she wasn't at all willing to tell him anything. Technically he would know most about the other individual. Though it's not that other people's views aren't valuable, especially the unique female perspective.
As long as crying is in the frame of something other than it having to do with his own flaws, crying is ok. From where I've been that's what it's all about, frame. The sort of 1950's "I'm the captain, you're my crew" frame.
My man cried infront of me. Maybe 3 times? But I have never thought of leaving him because of it. We are happily married for 11 years now. I don't see why crying is a problem, it is a way to express the storm of emotions inside. It can be therapeutic. A crybaby maybe a turn off for both genders.
Makes sense.
I have found that some women are heartless just as are some men. It sucks that she just straight up ghosted you. That there tells me that she was not worth any more or your time. I had a girlfriend like that and it sucks. I have been single for the last 4 years and have been able to do what I want to the most part. But I am lonely sometimes. I have cried more in the last 2days than in the last year. It's the time of year that gets me. I lost my late wife and unborn son on August 5th 2008. This happens every year. Some years are worse than others. I hope that you get through this and come out better than you went in.
I appreciate to know, that I'm not alone in this. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be alright and recover fast.
You may want to look into meds if you haven't already to support (not substitute) your missing parts of life.
As I read this, I realized that I have never cried in front of anyone as an adult. I have cried a few times, but only alone. Not when my wife died, not when my dad died, not when I thought I had lost a girl who was like a child to me. I do show feelings, express joy, I smile, laugh, joke and kid around. I hug people and have emotional conversations with them. But never cry except in private. I somehow learned that a guy never cries in front of a another person. I think somehow that would make thought of as less of a man. I wouldn't fear being less of a man, but would fear being thought of as less of a man. There must be many millions of guys who think and feel this way.
I think most men feel this way, I definitely relate to what you wrote, thank you for sharing.
Thus the need of man caves became a real thing for boys and men.
Wow I didn't know guys were so afraid of crying I always thought to myself
"Just cry if you need to?"
Whenever my guy friends told me they couldn't but I see why they were all rejecting the idea yikes
don't be afraid to cry good people won't leave you when you do
Now you know what's truly going on. We retreat back into our man caves and repair our (mechanical) damages like it's our own private garage. It's right there, where we heal up and let it all out. 100% Alone.
this is bad advice. 2 days ago my boyfriend of three years broke up with me and we both cried. It was actually the first time I saw him cry. it made me cry harder. he left because he said he needed time for himself. but him crying broke me. I could tell that this was hard on him and for me. he never talks about his feelings so for him to cry showed me he cared and was sad about losing me.
Awww :,'(
That doesn't make any sense. It is a stupid reason to break up for the space of it. I suspect he had a different and hidden reason for the break up.
This is your story. I don't know why she broke up with you. Maybe it was because of your tendency of jumping to conclusions and making sweeping statements?
My boyfriend has cried in front of me quite a few times within the last few years and we are still together. You are cutting out a big portion of the story. What Happened during the two weeks prior to the breakup?
Yeah this was exactly my feeling as well.
More of the story would help yeah, and you make a decent point.
Well, that's pretty much the point. Not much happened during those 2 weeks. She gradually began to cease contact. Everything seemed normal except she faded away.
So let’s get this straight. She never told you she dumped you for crying, but you automatically assumed so? You’re an idiot, for more then this idiotic article.
My boyfriend has cried in front of me, multiple times, and I’ve never thought negatively. In fact it moves me that he’s comfortable enough to be emotional around me, if anything I feel more positive about it and want to fix what’s making him upset. BS on this whole thing
Agree. I was going to write my own opinion but this pretty much sums up my own experience and thoughts on this matter.
BULLSHIT! The ONLY reason any woman would stay with a crying man is if he presents himself as alpha. If an average looking guy cries you ladies would dump his ass. Now Valiant if that really is you in your avatar I highly doubt you are dating a beta male. A woman like you always gets the alpha male and you allow him some weakness.
@CarpetDenim , at your age all males are weak so you instinctively allow him some weakness.
“The only reason any woman would stay with a crying man is if he presents himself as alpha”
“At your age, all males are weak so you instinctively allow him some weakness”
You can’t keep your shitty argument together, can you? Do woman only accept a man’s crying if he’s otherwise alpha or if he’s already weak? You’ve contradicted yourself and you make no sense at all.
@Jennifer_32 I don't believe in "alpha vs beta". My boyfriend is indeed attractive, well-off and not a push-over, if thats what you mean. I stay with him because I love him- I don't love an average looking man, or a celebrity, or anyone else. So I wouldn't give them the time of day. My boyfriend's emotions would never make me leave him. Your argument is shitty at best, for reasons @CarpetDenim pointed out
@CarpetDenim , Watch the attitude little lady. I stated YOU accept more weakness in boys because you literally can't get a true alpha male at your age.
Valiant on the other hand CAN and does have an Alpha male. While she dislikes weakness in men she allows for some level of weakness simply because he is a top male with good genes.
It's not that hard to understand ladies. Or is it you hate the fact that I've proven you lack freewill. That you females are mindless slaves to emotions and primal instincts?
You haven’t proved anything lmao but okay, keep up your bullshit.
@CarpetDenim @VaIiant I third that.
B. S
@Jennifer_32 My boyfriend would hurt his sides with laughter if he heard you seriously refer to anyone as an "alpha" male.
I disagree with the first half of what you said, and love and agree with the other half. The thing is he said she ghosted him, he couldn't ask her why she dumped him even if he tried, that's what ghosting is. In that situation all you can do is make your own conclusion regardless of what the truth is, because you may or may not ever know.
Agreed Valiant!
@Jennifer_32 Save it with your "alpha and beta male" bullshit, the alpha and beta bullshit isn't real only in a wolf pack. Grow up. Men should be able to express their feelings. Period.
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Then why did she gradually start ghosting on me right after the day, that I cried? Do YOU know any better?
If you put your hand in a fire and get burned, you obviously will know the fire burnt you and not some extrasense negative energy coming out from nowhere. That's literally science.
Did she ghost you two weeks later, or a day later. Get your story straight.
She mightve dumped you because, based on your comments and MyTakes, you're a "wannabe alpha", annoying/obnoxious, and entitled.
And you're not any better because you're not being helpful at all. Just look at yourself first.
I know you here on GAG. I am behind anonymous but I am disappointed to see your true self revealing now. Well, at least I see your true image now.
You’re disappointed that her true self is someone who doesn’t dump or think negatively of their boyfriend for crying in front of them? 🤨🤨🤨
Ahh yes, Blue Anon, because yknow, everyone is 100% who they say they are online. LOL.
@CarpetDenim Blue Anon's for ya.
I’ve heard girls say they wished their boyfriends would cry infront of them occasionally! Personally, I think it’s hot when a man has a few tears coming from his eyes but is trying to stay strong by not making sounds or funny faces etc. I would be highly surprised if a woman left her boyfriend because he cried once or twice. If a man cried a lot, it would be severely unattractive- sorry but it’s true. It’s okay (if not preferred) to see a man cry once over something worth crying over.
if it's unattractive why do girls cry once a week lol (by the way i dont see them in the bathroom when they walk past a mirror)
Touché. Because society teaches that’s its okay for women to cry in public. Believe it or not, quite a few men have a fetish for crying women. It’s makes them feel powerful and masculine, like they want to protect the women. It’s stupid but it’s built into men to crave power and the feeling of masculinity.
I'm not a very emotional person myself (the last time I can remember crying was when I was eight years old, and it was from physical pain). I couldn't be with a man who cried a lot or was overly emotional, but if my boyfriend cried, I'd know it was something pretty serious and leaving him wouldn't even cross my mind.
Good to know!
I've had this happen myself in the past. To be fair I've cried in front of my girlfriend before and she hasn't left, but the reason men do hide their emotions from women is because of women like this.
It's often the ones that encourage you the most to show your emotions too who tend to leave like this. Women talk about how stupid society is for telling men not to cry, and they talk to us men as if we're idiots for not wanting to show our emotions as if it's down to us and other men - but really it's down to the way these kinds of women act when we actually do.
I don't know why these women don't get it, still with this stupid idea that you're an idiot for thinking like this. They're all saying "all I've heard is women say that they want their man to cry". Yeah - that's what these kinds of women often say before they cut and run too.
Exactly! Damned if you don't. Damned if you do! Argh! What should it be 😱😱😱🤯💥
And that's the challenge of being a man.
I would be really disappointed if a guy would sneak off to cry! It would make me feel like he doesn't trust me or that he isn't comfortable being with me. I really hope my boyfriend doesn't do that! I want him to know that I love him and would act crazy because he shows his emotion. It's normal to cry you know so why bother that your boyfriend does? That girl really sounds shitty and fake, not all girls are like that just like not all boys are manipulative and toxic!
Understandable but you realize that society pressures men into dampening their emotions, making them think they are weak for having them? That’s why many sneak off to cry. It has nothing to do with trust
@AuroraRoseat Yeah I just hope that he would learn that I'm okay with him showing his sadness. I know that it's more than trust but I can't change the way I would feel...
The problem is that it typically has little to do with how you feel about it, and everything to do with how he feels about it. The shame goes deep for most men, to the point that they feel like less of a man, like a failure, when they cry in front of others. For me, even when I want to be more open about my emotions, even when others tell me I can open up to them, it's like this tight feeling in my chest (I guess it's a guilty/shameful feeling? Kinda hard to describe) tells me that my sadness would just be a burden to the other person, and that burdening them with my emotions/problems would make me a shitty friend/partner/person. I dont view other people in this way, I am typically very accepting of other peoples emotions, but when it comes to talking about my own sadness, I get this overwhelming feeling of guilt and shame.
If you want a man to open up to you like that then you need to tell him that it's alright, though he probably won't believe you at first. It takes quite a bit of coaching to overcome the shame.
@devilman666 I relate to that.. and you're right
Thank you for your words!
Don't generalize for all women, as long as you have your moments of strength besided letting it all out sometimes, the right girl will appreciate it and will be by your side the whole time, I know some amazing women who have helped their boyfriends turn from weak and insecure to strong nd confident, and they're stillnhappy together till this day.
Your ex is a bitch and she shouldn't even matter, forget her and your experience with her because she has nothing to do with basic ethics for either gender.
You're absolutely right!
I'm not generalizing all women. One however has to be careful when and where to cry. As in: Are you ready to test your girlfriend?
My bitch of an ex? She's blocked and deleted and forgotten. It's time to bloom and find a proper girlfriend ☺
Yes! When you find that proper girl, get to know her well, and trust her, you can cry to her and it won't be a problem at all
I agree!
If you can't cry in front of your girlfriend, then your relationship is unhealthy. This girl who ghosted you actually did you a favour; she showed you that she was unsuitable for you or any other man and should not be in a relationship. Holding stuff in just because you don't want to lose the affections of a girl you like is dishonest, unwise, and ultimately self-defeating; it's only a matter of time before such situations fester and become critical and /or explosive. A healthy relationship is a connection between two real persons who have both strong and weak moments. The strong moments need cultivating and encouragement and the weak moments need support and comfort. The course of action you are describing resembles that of a simp; and simps ultimately lose the respect of their partners.
I agree for the most part.
Now there's room for a proper girlfriend at least ☺
And... that's basically the "new problem" 😂
But hey, I'd always trade in a bigger problems in exchange for the smaller problem =)
I have never heard a women say she would leave if her man cries. If anything I hear that they want their man to cry and show emotion. I would never leave my man because he cried. Men aren't robots, they are human with feelings and they can express those feelings. My man of 10 years has cried in front me a few times, never crossed my mind to leave him only comfort him.
Its female nature you cry you weak it's just how your minds work you want hyper strong men who never have even a shred of weakness so when a man Cry's your female minds automatically see him as not strong enough
No it doesn't. I think I would know what MY brain thinks better than you.
It dosent happen consciously in your mind that's not what your thinking its in your subconscious where it happens females are programmed to choose the strongest male so they have the highest chance of surviving and when your brain sees weakness it starts to think that they are not a good protector you don't do it deliberately but your mind will still do it its your nature
For fuck sakes dude stop acting like you know everything. Are you a psychologist? Have you done research and studies with women as subjects? Are you a scientist? No. Then stop.
I know myself better than you. If I'm "programmed" to choose the strongest male then I wouldn't have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 years now. He's medically disabled and can't work, so totally going for the "strongest male". 🙄
Lol :D
You know when someone just replys with "lol" it means they have nothing better to say. So yeah please stop assuming like you know me and that you are in my head 24/7. Bye 👋
More like I wasn't trying to argue just stating what iv learnt I said lol because I was thinking perhaps you might be the exception to the rule so it means fair enough of I wanted to argue I could of picked your argument apart but I didn't because I was hoping it was true
I find it interesting that I'm the only female opinion you replied pretending to act like you know how my brain works when I'm not the only female that said that it's okay for men to cry. Why just my opinion?
Just the one I happened to respond to
Okay
@Cocacolaaddict Bro just stfu and stop being a condecending dickhead. Leave her be
@mattl338 lol fuck outa here white knight in case you hadn't noticed the convo has long since died so remove yourself
Yes! We aren't robots :/
Good to know!
This is very sad to hear but all true and exactly how women are. They dont want the responsibility so if a guy shows a weakeness she eliminates him. Girls however cry all the time even in exams to make excuses. If a guy did the same thing he'd not be taken seriously. Also women want men to express themselves, however when a guy does this she think's he's broken and he's then ditched.
Bottom line: Dont let a woman see any weakeness, she'll use it against you.
Your situation: she's a bitch and will always be a bitch, if she doesn't want you at your worst then she can't have you at your best.
Eh
I seen all my male friends cry. I had past boyfriend cried
I never laughed or felt like it a bad thing.
Aren't guys human too? I seen my dad cry. It just a natural human respond to whatever.
I'm girl and I barely cry and my male friends have to remind ME it ok to cry.
Naw, we are mechanical machines. We don't really cry. What actually happens is just oil leaking out of our eye corpus while steam leaves our orifices during intense ventilation.
Just joking. We are human too just like women.
My boyfriend cried in front of me a few times. Especially after his dad died. I never ever thought ill of it in fact it made me love him even more because he has such a hard exterior but is a marshmallow on the inside. He has a pure heart like a child and it breaks my heart when I see him cry. I would do anything to take his pain away.
Awwww that's so sweet :, ) you're a good girlfriend and I wish you and him a long happy life together :)
That's sweet indeed! This is the kind of girlfriend I wish I would have.
The girl you dated was the kind who enforced double standards. I'm sure you'll find a girl who doesn't care if you cry. There are a lot of double standards people still enforce.
I agree. Thank you for the support.
This is horrid advice. I’ve had a male friend cry in front of me because of another girl and I comforted him. Not all women will do such things that has happened to you and it is utterly nonsensical to project a SINGLE (or even multiple) experiences onto a group of people.
I agree with the woman who said it seems like you had a lot going on in your life coupled with a woman who didn’t know how to handle it.
You do realize that you didn't mention you had a "boyfriend" who cried and you then comforted, while continuing to stay with him long term.
That's the topic
; Boyfriends, not "male friends"
You do realize that the OP said to never cry in front of your girlfriend OR her friends? That’s what I was replying to.
Also, none of mine have cried in front of me likely because of the foolish beliefs that many men hold today and society shunning them for having emotions
Thank you for your words.
I realize I come across as hostile and I am sorry for that. This is one of a few topics that get under my skin because plenty of good men suffer due to it.
Anger is pretty much the only acceptable emotion for men to exhibit.. I'd never cry in front of the girl I was dating.