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Sticking to your ideas in a relationship

Jean-Marie_Céline
Sticking to your ideas in a relationship

This more of a short thought than a proper myTake, a thought I just formulated and that I think it's fundamental to go on in life and relationship. It's very simple.
Stick to your ideas and don't let anybody, be it partner, family and friends; change them.

I did the mistake of letting for too much time my fiancée, my friends, my sister and my sister sway my ideas and thoughts and plagiarize them with their own - I understand that sometimes it was done with the best intention, but other times it was also malicious and/or born out of their own insecurities.

So now I'll take the strongman approach: don't give their opinion too much weight and consider it throughly before changing my idea or do as they ask.
I appreciate that my fiancée says and does everything she says and does in my interest, but she's not mother and I'm not her child so I don't understand why I should follow her warnings and instructions to the letter.
Naturally I'll listen to her opinions and suggestions, but if I don't like them I'll tell her or just outright ignore them, and the same will go with everyone else.

After all, I'm my own person with my own essence and not there to be a blank faceless nobody that has to follow someone's instructions or be in their shadow, much less of my fiancée.
I'll start to be less malleable and give everyone else's and my own partner's opinions the consideration they deserve - that sometimes will be none at all.

This is something I'd like to share here and to encourage all of you to stay true to yourselves and give everyone else's and your own partner's opinions the consideration they deserve, from case to case.

Thank you for reading

Sticking to your ideas in a relationship
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