I've been with my boyfriend for some months now and quite frankly, it's been good.
Recently though, I realised that we have gotten closer to one another intimately too. We haven't had sex for religious reasons, so this may all seem irrational, but it was a large chunk of my life for the last few weeks so I felt like talking about it.
I started worrying about the risk of getting pregnant a while back and immediately talked to him about it.
Having strict parents and being quite young, we came up with a plan for the worst case scenario. We both felt much better after that.
Luckily, we share many values and have a similar outlook on life and can picture a future together. This took the stress and pressure out of things for sure...
About a month ago I started feeling like I may be pregnant. I told him, he told me it was nothing, but I was really convinced I was indeed pregnant with his child.
I started thinking about it a lot and realised that things wouldn't be that bad if I had kids now. It's not what I'd choose, but if it happened, it would be fine for both of us.
I asked him to go and buy a pregnancy test, but we both forgot about it and the whole having-kids-yes-or-no-topic only came up this week when watching a TV show together where a couple very similar to us has a child.
We travelled to another city and when he whispered "I'd be so happy if you were actually pregnant" for the 100th time in my ear I realised that he loved me more than he was admitting.
We got a pregnancy test - the situation was new for both of us and we were both quite overwhelmed, embarrassed and stressed out. He was really tired and went to bed, I went to the bathroom and did the test.
When I got back, he immediately told me he wanted to see the test and was clearly excited to see the result. When he saw the negative test, he looked like a sad puppy and got really sad. I could feel his energy fading and was quite surprised by that to say the least.
I hadn't noticed, but he had taken a genuine interest in childbirth by watching birth vlogs (different methods), picking out names, arranging his business in a way that would allow for a child to join his life so to speak. There's so much to figure out when having a child - but I knew that with him it would be okay.
His reaction to me being late was what drew us so much closer - I never expected this to happen but I'm glad it did.
Do you remember taking your first pregnancy test? What was it like?
Have you ever had a pregnancy scare (yourself or your partner)?
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