I don’t remember who said this, but one of the dating experts online that I follow said, if you begin a relationship by chasing a man, you will spend your entire relationship chasing him down, so make sure you want that type of relationship before you sign up for that type of relationship. Which woman wants a relationship where she has to constantly hunt and chase after her man? The answer is none.
I knew about a woman who weighed around 110 pounds and dated a guy that liked how skinny she was, he was also with her because she had money, and according to the guy, she would exercise for 2.5 hours a day after a busy 14 hour a day investment banking job, she would cook and clean and prepare for parties with fellow elite people and would do things she hated while sleeping with him to please him so that he would remain loyal to her, and she also pulled off stunts she hated to impress him, like swim in cold waters in anrtartica, climb mountains, or go sky diving, all for a guy she wanted to be with.
He encouraged anorexic behaviour in her when she was nearing her 30s and had difficulty maintaining her slim 18 year old figure, and he forced her to get plastic surgery to prove a point to some people he wanted to annoy. So who in their right mind would be happy in that type of relationship? He also demanded unconditional obedience in her, even forcing her to help her impersonate other Chinese girls he disliked when he wanted to ruin their reputation, and he forced her to lie and say she was mentally ill, as an excuse to help her guy escape social activities after his brain injury.
Now that they are divorced, he mocks me all day saying I’m fat and lazy because I spend my free time building my career, learning, doing self therapy on myself, socializing and cooking and cleaning, instead of trying to build the perfect body so I can look like Tyra Banks. I’m not ashamed of my body or lifestyle, I choose it because I valued my goals more than I valued the desire to look like a fitness model, but it just shows how stupid and pointless it is to chase somebody who has unreasonable standards in dating.