Your Relationship Isn't Supposed To Be 50/50 . . . Really! (Page 2)

[Diodoro]

Could just say it's not 50/50. It's 100/100.
You give 100 percent and they give 100%. What that looks like will vary by person. You'll naturally do what you do better as will they and you'll fall in sync

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Honestly there is no 50 - 50 relationship it can't and won't exist.

One is always more into it or puts more effort which is required
That's the the only way to have a good relationship i guess

[Nata2496]

You're right. Men and woman have different needs from relationships but both should be getting satisfied as much as one another, having their requests met the same amount of time without making more demands or less reasonable requests.

[jeanneinborabora]

I think of our marriage as if we are writing down our actions or contributions on a piece of paper and putting it into a box. I try to put more into the box than I take out. I am a symmetrical person by nature and one of my love languages is “acts of service.” When I’m taking more out, then I’m more aware of that and begin to add more acts of loving service into it, which makes it easier to keep our loving alive and balanced.

[Anonymous]

I didn't think I was going to like this my take by the title. But I think it's a example of how we've become as a society. We're so quick to judge and we judge based on past relationships. I agree relationships shouldn't be 50/50 they should be 100/100.

[Shiningtempest]

@OlderAndWiser On the contrary, I consider 50/50 as an absolute condition that must be met for dating or marriage to work.

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you read what I wrote? It is about your inability to perceve your partner's efforts, meaning that you can't fairly judge whether the relationship is 50/50.

[Shiningtempest]

@OlderAndWiser That's why dating sucks because the relationship is 50/50.

[luvstoned4him]

Well written take and I hope everyone walks away with something from here

[AlphaGhost]

Why should anyone even marry or commit to long term relationship?

[VanillaSalt]

Relationships aren’t 50/50 ever. Someone is always giving more. And this always changes sides.

[boobliker]

maybe your asking too much!! . . . . a relationship is a two way street we bring what we are good at to each other, this we are more than a couple. we have two ears and only one mouth

[imfreeze95]

I have found that relationships are not 50/50 they are 100/100 both people have to give a 100% effort to make it work no one should half-@$$ their relationship

[Justerino]

Would you rather be with a feminist type chick, who demanded 50/50 like you are doing in a way? I guarantee you’ve never cleaned her piss up off the toilet, and a lot more else I’m sure she could give you.

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you read what I wrote? I think you are making some bad assumptions about what I wrote.

[Justerino]

Just the first chick kinda sound like you paint her house and complain? Paint? Bro that’s such a low paying job you can pay illegals or college students to paint for cheap. Did you own a home too? To me sound like she may been putting up a lot too.

[OlderAndWiser]

I left her years ago when I realized how badly I was being used.

Yes, I have owned several homes and painted all of them on the interior.

[Likes2drive]

You hope it ends up being 50-50 but I always felt like I was doing more, I guess it depends on what you’re willing to take without saying anything

[Gidge]

I guess when older people complain that young people don't read enough books, they mean posts like this, which I did not read.

[JustinTheGreat]

Then why did you even click on it? It’s a mytake, mytakes are basically blog posts

[JustinTheGreat]

Plus you’re not that young, you’re a whole grown ass 30 year old lol

[bamesjond0069]

@JustinTheGreat you're a child until you're 45 now. Thats the new cut off.

[Gidge]

@JustinTheGreat It's not as old as 67 tbf. I'll be living long after he's dead.

Good question. I clicked on it to say "I guess when older people complain that young people don't read enough books, they mean posts like this, which I did not read."

[OlderAndWiser]

"I'll be living long after he's dead." Probably but no guarantee.

[JustinTheGreat]

who pissed in your cheerios 😳 geez that was kinda mean, no?

[driven159]

it is not 50 50 its 110 110 that is the right number for a good relationship

[tom_the_dating_snob]

in our relationship my girlfriend definitely wears the pants

[CubsterShura]

It's a 101-101. You both go above and beyond.

[sensible27]

Maybe it isn't supposed to be an exchange..

[Anonymous]

No, the woman must carry the load.

[OlderAndWiser]

How's that approach working out for you?

[stephen_marris]

Not necessarily, but usually that means yes.