Nice guys don't finish last (Page 7)

[Anonymous]

this is great to hear but it just so doesn't seem the case in real life... no girl wants it, they love it for a short while, then they get bored and over it and go to someone who treats them like shit and they love it because he's a bad boy and thats what girls like. Nice guys do finish last... they pick up the pieces of whats been left behind by the takers.

[Bryan1983]

Exactly this, I've actually had girls who I had a thing with tell me the reason it didn't go further was because they got bored.

[thatcomplicatedgirl]

'interesting' is not same for every girl. The guy I find interesting might be boring as hell for another girl. Moreover, if a girl can't feel and emotional and physical attraction, you can't force something just because you are 'nice'.

[Bryan1983]

My last ex even went back to her abusive BF, who also cheated on her

[thatcomplicatedgirl]

@Bryan1983 I have already stated that sometimes it has to do with the psychological aspect. SOmetimes, you are not the reason, but it's the person't whole messed up mind that is. Some people LOVE sabotaging their own happiness. Moreover, as I mentioned that it has to do with self-esteem issues.
It's really sad that some girls go for jerks, but that's how it is sometimes. They gotta learn many things in life, and they would learn it the hard way.
For as long as I have a guy to whom I am physically attractive and he is a nice person whose personality is compatible with mine, I don't think why any girl in her right mind would mess it up?

[TigerDK16]

The advantage guys have is the female biological clock. The ones that never consider you in their early 20s will have their heartbreaks and will eventually hit their biological clock. It's funny, because then you sense desperation and have the upper hand. Youth is power. Make the most of it.

[DooKan]

I am generally a nice guy, here is where it get's ugly for me. I have a problem standing up for myself, especially when the woman I love treats me like crap. as a result, she looses her respect for me and you can't love somebody you don't respect... I am getting better though, she called me an asshole because I stood up for myself and in all actuality, it feels good

[teinte31]

Great post man. Its really true, you have to stand up for yourself every now and then and just say NO sweetie :) If she accepts that then she is a reasonable woman and not a spoiled brat like most women lol.

I treat my gal like a queen, and I have no doubts that she loves me, but I still have to say no sometimes when its something really stupid or I just don't want to do it. Its not that often because we usually have a mutual agreement on going places and such.

And I've found, she'll accept no for no if she wants to be with me and not still go out somewhere without me. And luckily almost everytime she's chosen to stay at a place with me. I mean like staying home and eating, or going out, etc.

[TheSpartan]

I was the first description of a nice guy for a while. I would fall in deep love with a woman, and I certainly didn't want to use her for sex (I thought premarital sex for a long time).

After about 20 rejections or so in high school, I became an asshole who uses women for sex, rides motorcycles, lifts heavy shit, and listens to angry rap music. Basically, my motto now is "A Bitch iz a Bitch" in the words of Ice Cube.

[medical2523]

Well I get classified as a nice guy and I just compliment a girl to get the conversation started and to show my interest. Like I will say she has pretty eyes or beautiful hair and they just say thanks and it ends there. So nice guys do finish last I'm learning from seeing it in action most women only respond to people who belittle and disrespect them

[Anonymous]

Thank you!
I was getting confused about the whole "nice guy" thing. I am, naturally, a nice guy. But then all these people come along saying how nice guys are terrible and I was like "So... I should be horrible to everyone?" I guess using the term "nice guy" is quite inconvenient, as it puts a negative spin on actual nice guys :/ We need to find another word for it :D
Again, nice Take :)

[Anonymous]

I don't think you realize the depth of that third paragraph. You say "some" girls, but i'll tell you now that it is a lot more than "some". Also what you have to notice is that many nice guys are more than just 'nice'. They are human. they wide range of emotions and character traits. Their niceness may be the most obvious but there is usually a lot more that people miss.

Your heart is in the right place but the execution wasn't the best

[Mesonfielde]

Technically, a girl into "danger and popularity" is not worth my time. They may as well go for the jerks.

[clampfan101]

Well, I can't think of anything interesting about myself. As for charming, I've no clue how I would know. I'm not sure I understand what a "party lover" is these days. I feel I look decent. As for the rest of the Nice Guy description, it all relates to me perfectly. :)

[PhiOmega]

A nice guy doesn't generally show his interest towards a girl from the beginning

There's confident nice guys
and
insecure nice guys too
one gagger mentioned b4 there was a really sweet nice guy she liked, she could tell he liked her, but he wasn't confident enough to make the move

Some nvr make the move, some hide their interests outright

[Frost_Byte]

Which is exactly why women should try making the first move every once in a while.

[PhiOmega]

It'd be nice

[YHL6965]

Thanks a lot, it's nice to get some appreciation instead of hate from jealous guys or from girls that can't distinguish the fake ones for the real ones. All I want is the best for the girl all while maintaining my boundaries intact, not becoming a slave for her in hope for sex because sex is not what I'm looking for. I'm looking for closeness, love, intimacy and you can't really get them by not being who you are.

[sol0_d0lo]

Ha im cutting off contact and moving on. We had good times together but i know how i feel about her and i can't change that. I do want the best for her. If she sees me as some fucboi for doing so then whatever feel however you want. Im won't turn my back on her, she has my number if she ever needs me.

[SleepyChan]

It's just a matter of opinion. For me, nice guys never finish last. I would take a good guy anyday over a bad boy.

[thatcomplicatedgirl]

Same here! :) All guys need to stop assuming that all girls are same

[skorzeny75]

Nice guys finish last. I have heard so many times 'You are a nice guy, but...' Nice is not what females are looking for. I have given so much of myself many times, and in the end in meant **NOTHING**.

[AboveTheClouds]

I am that Nice Guy, but after getting rejected because that Girls this type of Guy, I once thought "I give up on being a Nice Guy" but I thought about it. Why change myself because of 1 Immature Little Girl? she hasn't realized the reality after High School. So I stayed the "Nice Guy" and moved on. forgot about everything we had. and said to myself "One day, the Women I've been searching for, was actually trying to Find a Guy like me to share her love." So I'm done searching, now I'm waiting.

[krysia1974]

I'm no blagger but I honestly think I'm all the things that the above says is a genuine nice guy that the girls want, but in reality that is never the case and not a one will give me a chance to show her some of those qualities, so in my life just by being and doing all those things that I think should be obvious doesn't make the slightest bit of difference and I continue to live my life and do things entirely by myself.

[Jjjoooggg]

My guess: People judge people in first ten seconds. If there's any sign of depression or low self esteem, one is classified a loser. When I have to work with people then they get to know me. But on the street, it is like the YouTube gold digger pranks.

[thatcomplicatedgirl]

Just being 'nice' is never enough. It's one of those qualities some girls would adore in a guy, but your confidence, body language, way of talking, everything counts.

[Scrambledagain]

let me end this the proper way so you don't contradict yourself: "nice guys, we want you when we grow up and half the neighbourhood has had us in our beautiful youth, leaving you with personality part in a delusional happy ever after"

[AndrewTroy]

You know how society gets inside your mind when you're a young woman growing up, and fills you with unproductive bullshit that will make you less happy later in life?

Same deal with men. We just talk about it less and commit suicide more.

[loveoutdoors]

ok girls if a guy is just horny and just wants to hook up for sex only no strings attached and he's respectful and not bad looking what is the best way to go about that without being offensive and having a good time on both sides. I'm always horny and I love spontaneous no judgement feelgood expierences

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

EVERYONE loves spontaneous, feel good experiences and in the same way we will always prefer junk food over healthy food people will prefer relationships revolving around themselves with no accountability. Unfortunately, there's no way to have one of these without things ending up badly. Don't believe Hollywood, things are rarely the same in real life as they are on T. V.

[ThePlayer101]

I doubt that to be honest and I liked a girl once and my reputation is I'm silly, make jokes that aren't funny but make people laugh, and is really nice but nobody likes me

[thatcomplicatedgirl]

Just being 'nice' is never enough. It's one of those qualities some girls would adore in a guy, but your confidence, body language, way of talking, everything counts.

[ThePlayer101]

Ok fine

[jusraj]

i seem to fit the bill, but never had a relationship, though i want to, i try, but mi bad luck, eithier gurl seems to b dating sumone, or about get engaged... i want a long term relationship, n things tht happnd with me, i thought being nice is not an ideal gurls dream, but lookin at ur statements, i do feel boosted, n uping mi confidence level... good!!

[Tormentarian]

Perhaps focus on your life priorities

[jusraj]

i am 35, n m single... i guess this is one of mi top priorties...